Why women audit their lives on decade birthdays: Ashleigh Frater — age 30.

Finding Your Right Mind — with Vanessa Potter

Coming up is the second interview in series 2 and here I talk to Ashleigh Frater who recently turned 30.

God, I remember 30, I was in a precarious relationship, had mostly single friends and was headlong full into my career. 30 felt like a step up, like I had reached a higher bar. I was still having fun, but there seemed to be a new set of rules, ones that suggested I needed to look more towards the future — whatever that was!

These interviews are not your average conversation. The questions I ask were designed to be uncomfortable, a little challenging even and to bring to the fore the outpouring of all of the auditing we tend to do naturally around a decade birthday. The questions I ask each woman are the same and many focus on how we really feel about ourselves deep down, where we fit into society and the expectations others have of us. I ask questions that made these women think about things that they hadn’t thought about in years and for some it brought up memories they had spoken to a soul about before.

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