Ep. 212: Are We Just Rewarding Bad Behavior?

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

One of the harder things to navigate when shifting to a nervous system lens on behavior is the feeling that a lot of the strategies seem like they are rewarding bad behavior.

Strategies that invite regulation, connection, and felt safety are usually strategies that feel good.

If our kids feel good after bad behavior, will they have MORE bad behavior??

In this episode, you’ll learn

• What it might be signaling if you’re wondering if you’re rewarding bad behavior
• How to avoid unintentionally increasing the likelihood of dysregulation in the future
• Why it’s reallllllly important to offer connection, co-regulation and felt safety strategies when you are in connection mode

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Enabling vs. Low-Demand Parenting {EP 144}
• Is It Time to Raise the Bar? {EP 207}
• Amanda Diekman - @lowdemandamanda

Read the full transcript at:RobynGobbel.com/rewardbadbehavior

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