Why Bother? Fighting an Overwhelming Sense of Futility, with Patrick Donnelly

Mid-life Men: the mental health podcast

In this open and honest episode, we're joined by Patrick Donnelly, who discusses the often-unspoken struggles men face when the weight of life feels overwhelming and futile. Patrick bravely shares how anxiety and depression took root after becoming a father, amplifying his long-held belief that nothing he attempted would succeed. His story reveals the toll of a lifetime spent avoiding risks, taking the easiest paths, and resigning himself to failure before even trying.

Through therapy and a transformative moment of vulnerability—sharing a personal essay about his mental health on Facebook and then in the local newspaper—Patrick not only began to heal but also sparked a ripple effect of hope. His honesty inspired hundreds of men to seek help, proving that even when it feels futile, taking a single step forward can change everything. This episode is a powerful exploration of how to confront self-doubt, embrace vulnerability, and redefine what it means to be brave. If you’ve ever felt like giving up before even starting, Patrick’s journey is proof that change is possible.
If you want to read Patrick's Facebook post of January 2017: https://www.facebook.com/patrick.donnelly.184/posts/pfbid0tzY2FRvjVfMbyfcZUWHKMf2NBuK5QqVSoBnP3T81SvDKwgETpT3wawQUz9NWsryvl

If you want to contact Patrick via social media: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/pdonnelly612/

Finally, Patrick references the Gary Gulman special: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt10409666/