93 EF Series: Initiation - Why Getting Started Is Hard for Some Kids—and How to Help

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Does your child hesitate to begin tasks, even when they know what to do? In this episode, we explore why getting started can be so challenging for kids and how parents can support them effectively. We’ll uncover the connections between initiation, executive functioning, and emotional regulation, offering practical strategies to help your child take that all-important first step.

Key Takeaways

What Is Initiation? The ability to begin tasks independently is a core executive functioning skill that many kids struggle to develop.
Why Some Kids Get Stuck: Foundational skills like perception, attention, and working memory play a critical role in initiating tasks. Weaknesses in these areas can make getting started feel overwhelming.
Stress and Executive Functioning: A child’s nervous system can become taxed by emotional, sensory, or physical stress, further reducing their ability to start tasks.
Practical Steps for Parents: Breaking tasks into manageable chunks, creating routines, and building on small successes can help kids develop initiation skills over time.
Patience and Compassion: Every child’s journey is different. A supportive approach that celebrates small wins can make a significant difference.

Episode Highlights

[00:00:00] Introduction: Why initiation matters and the focus of today’s episode.
[00:03:00] What Is Initiation? Understanding why starting tasks independently is a challenge for many kids.
[00:07:00] The Role of Foundational Skills: How perception, attention, and working memory are linked to initiation.
[00:12:00] Personal Example: Andi shares a story of her son’s challenges with initiation and how stress impacts his progress.
[00:17:00] Stress and Its Impact: The connection between stressors, executive functioning, and task initiation.
[00:20:00] Strategies for Success: Practical ways to help kids break through hesitation and start with confidence.
[00:28:00] Building Momentum: Celebrating small victories to reinforce positive patterns.
[00:30:00] Recap and Closing: A compassionate reminder to approach initiation struggles with patience.

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Kids with Big Emotions Podcast

93 EF Series: Initiation - Why Getting Started Is Hard for Some Kids—and How to Help

Kids with Big Emotions Podcast

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MP3•Bölüm sayfası

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com

Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/

Intake Form for Executive Function Series: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/

Show Notes

Key Takeaways

What Is Initiation? The ability to begin tasks independently is a core executive functioning skill that many kids struggle to develop.
Why Some Kids Get Stuck: Foundational skills like perception, attention, and working memory play a critical role in initiating tasks. Weaknesses in these areas can make getting started feel overwhelming.
Stress and Executive Functioning: A child’s nervous system can become taxed by emotional, sensory, or physical stress, further reducing their ability to start tasks.
Practical Steps for Parents: Breaking tasks into manageable chunks, creating routines, and building on small successes can help kids develop initiation skills over time.
Patience and Compassion: Every child’s journey is different. A supportive approach that celebrates small wins can make a significant difference.

Episode Highlights

[00:00:00] Introduction: Why initiation matters and the focus of today’s episode.
[00:03:00] What Is Initiation? Understanding why starting tasks independently is a challenge for many kids.
[00:07:00] The Role of Foundational Skills: How perception, attention, and working memory are linked to initiation.
[00:12:00] Personal Example: Andi shares a story of her son’s challenges with initiation and how stress impacts his progress.
[00:17:00] Stress and Its Impact: The connection between stressors, executive functioning, and task initiation.
[00:20:00] Strategies for Success: Practical ways to help kids break through hesitation and start with confidence.
[00:28:00] Building Momentum: Celebrating small victories to reinforce positive patterns.
[00:30:00] Recap and Closing: A compassionate reminder to approach initiation struggles with patience.

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Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/ Welcome to the Kids with Big Emotions Podcast! This is our 100th episode—a huge milestone! Thank you for being part of this journey. Today, we’re diving into a crucial topic: Why anxiety in kids is skyrocketing like never before . If you’re a parent, teacher, or caregiver, you’ve probably noticed that children today seem more anxious than ever. Even compared to past generations who lived through wars and economic crises, today’s kids are struggling at an unprecedented level. But why is this happening? In this episode, Andi explores the hidden drivers of anxiety , how they impact brain development, and practical strategies to help kids navigate this complex digital age. Key Takeaways Anxiety is not just a mindset issue —it has deep physiological and neurological roots. Social media and screens are rewiring kids’ brains , making it harder for them to self-regulate and focus. The gut and nervous system play a critical role in anxiety—imbalances in gut health can directly impact mood. Environmental toxins in everyday products are disrupting kids’ hormones, further exacerbating stress and anxiety. It’s not about banning screens altogether, but about teaching kids healthy tech habits . Supporting kids with anxiety requires a holistic approach , not just telling them to “calm down.” Episode Highlights & Timestamps [00:00] - Celebrating 100 episodes! The importance of understanding childhood anxiety today. [02:00] - Addressing common myths: It’s not just about “kids being soft” or “social media being the problem.” [04:00] - The science behind anxiety: How screens, stress, and environment impact the nervous system. [05:00] - Insights from The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt—how smartphones are rewiring kids’ brains. [07:00] - A personal story: How unchecked screen time led to depression and anxiety in my own child. [10:00] - Screens and addiction: Why kids struggle to stop gaming or scrolling. [15:00] - The “whiteboard effect” in the brain: How screen overload reduces focus and executive function. [20:00] - Executive functioning and screens: Why kids struggle with transitioning between tasks. [27:00] - The nervous system in overdrive: How constant stress rewires kids’ ability to self-regulate. [32:00] - Gut health and anxiety: Why digestion and serotonin production matter. [35:00] - Environmental toxins: How synthetic fragrances, plastics, and household products affect anxiety. [42:00] - Comparing today’s anxiety crisis to past generations—why modern stressors are different. [44:00] - How to help kids develop digital resilience instead of banning screens completely. [47:00] - Introducing the Support Circle—a community to help parents navigate anxiety, screens, and stress management. Resources Mentioned 📖 The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt – Explores the impact of screens on brain development - https://www.anxiousgeneration.com/book 📖 Peak Mind by Amishi Jha – A neuroscientist’s perspective on attention and focus - https://amishi.com/books/peak-mind 🎥 Stink! (Documentary on Netflix) – Investigates the effects of synthetic fragrances and environmental toxins - https://www.netflixreleases.com/stink-2015/ 👉 Share this episode with a friend who might need it!…

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Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/ Parenting kids with big emotions is no easy task, especially when explosive outbursts, school struggles, and executive functioning challenges are part of daily life. In this episode, Andi is joined by Shauna B , a life reinvention and motivation coach for single and divorced moms, who shares her powerful journey of raising children with intense emotions. Together, they discuss the long game of emotional regulation , how to navigate school challenges, and the importance of self-care for parents . Shauna shares her personal experience of parenting through meltdowns, school battles, and behavioral struggles , and how she found effective strategies to help her kids develop emotional resilience. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed or searching for practical tools , this episode will help you feel seen, supported, and empowered in your parenting journey. Key Takeaways ✔️ Big emotions aren’t just behavior problems – They often stem from executive functioning struggles, ADHD, sensory processing challenges, or emotional regulation difficulties. ✔️ The school system often doesn’t understand emotional regulation struggles – IEPs can be helpful, but they often serve as band-aids rather than addressing the root of the challenges. ✔️ Homeschooling and alternative education can be game-changers – Finding a learning environment that meets your child’s needs may require thinking outside the traditional school system. ✔️ Self-care for parents isn’t optional—it’s essential – The more you recharge, the more you can help your child through their emotional struggles. ✔️ Every child needs different strategies – What works for one child may not work for another, so flexibility and patience are key. ✔️ Success is in the long game – Helping kids regulate emotions takes time, persistence, and a strong support system. Episode Highlights & Timestamps 📍 [00:02:00] Meet Shauna B – Single mom of three, life reinvention coach, and advocate for parents navigating big emotions. 📍 [00:04:00] Recognizing the signs – Shauna shares how she noticed the first signs of emotional struggles in her kids, including volcanic outbursts, impulsivity, and challenges with self-regulation . 📍 [00:07:00] The long game of emotional regulation – Why parenting kids with big emotions requires patience, persistence, and a mindset shift. 📍 [00:10:00] The challenges of parenting different kids with different needs – How Shauna had to adjust her parenting approach between her two sons, one with explosive outbursts and another with aggressive behaviors. 📍 [00:15:00] Schools don’t always get it – How executive functioning struggles impact emotional regulation, and why IEPs and traditional school interventions often fall short . 📍 [00:20:00] The decision to homeschool – Shauna’s journey to pulling her son from school, homeschooling, and eventually finding an online program that worked for him . 📍 [00:27:00] The power of reducing overwhelm – How breaking tasks into smaller steps helped Shauna’s son regain confidence and manage his schoolwork. 📍 [00:38:00] Modeling emotional regulation as parents – The importance of showing kids healthy coping strategies rather than just telling them . 📍 [00:42:00] Recharging as a parent is not selfish – Why taking time for self-care makes you a better parent and actually helps your child regulate their emotions more effectively. 📍 [00:47:00] Final advice for parents – Shauna’s biggest takeaways: ➡️ Find a support system – You don’t have to do this alone. ➡️ Small moments of self-care add up – It doesn’t have to be a big event, even 5 minutes of quiet time can make a difference. ➡️ Parenting big emotions is a long game – The effort you put in today will pay off in the future. Resources Mentioned EF Self Assessment: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/ Shauna B’s Podcast: Release Your Inner Power (available on all podcast platforms) Shauna’s Coaching & Social Media: Ignited Decisions 🌎 Website: www.igniteddecisions.com 📲 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ignited_decisions 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/igniteddecisions/ 📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@IgnitedDecisionswithShaunaB 🎧 If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review and share it with other parents who need to hear this message!…

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98 Thinking Differently: When Your Child (or You) Feels Misunderstood 40:33

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Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/ Have you ever watched your child and wondered why they see the world so differently? Maybe they ask deep questions, feel emotions intensely, or struggle to fit into the traditional mold. Or perhaps you’ve felt misunderstood yourself. In this episode, Andi dives into what it means to think differently, why it’s often misinterpreted, and how to embrace these differences as strengths. By the end of this episode, you'll have a new perspective on deep thinkers, big feelers, and outside-the-box kids—and maybe even a deeper understanding of yourself. Instead of trying to "fix" these children, we can support them in stepping into their superpowers. Key Takeaways Different doesn’t mean wrong – Children who think deeply, feel intensely, or question everything aren’t broken. They see the world uniquely, and that’s a gift. Society often misunderstands neurodiverse kids – Many kids are expected to fit into a one-size-fits-all mold, but movement, deep thinking, and curiosity shouldn’t be seen as problems. Your child’s challenges may be their superpowers – Struggles with focus, overthinking, or heightened sensitivity can turn into strengths when supported correctly. Reframing parenting approaches – Instead of asking, How do I get my child to stop doing this? , ask, How do I support my child’s strengths? Healing your own childhood experiences – Many parents grew up feeling misunderstood. Recognizing and healing from that can help in supporting your child more effectively. Episode Highlights [00:00:00] Introduction: Why this topic is deeply personal for Andi and how it shaped her parenting journey. [00:02:00] The struggles of thinking differently: Why some kids don’t fit in and how that can make them feel isolated. [00:05:00] Movement and focus: Why some children need physical activity to think clearly. [00:08:00] The "silent but deadly" child: How quiet, deep thinkers process information in ways adults might miss. [00:11:00] Kids who anticipate everything: How children who overanalyze are often future planners and strategists. [00:14:00] Misinterpretations: When kids' natural tendencies are seen as problematic instead of valuable. [00:16:00] The discomfort of being different: How society reacts to kids who don’t fit into the norm. [00:22:00] Breaking generational cycles: Recognizing how your own experiences impact how you parent. [00:28:00] Suppressing vs. supporting: How kids lose confidence when they’re told to "tone it down." [00:31:00] Andi’s experience with neurodiverse entrepreneurs: A real-world example of thinking differently as a strength. [00:36:00] Actionable parenting strategies: How to support your child’s deep thinking, big emotions, and curiosity. [00:39:00] Final thoughts: Changing the narrative from fixing to understanding and embracing . Resources Mentioned The Highly Sensitive Child by Dr. Elaine Aron – A must-read for parents of deeply feeling children. ( https://hsperson.com/books/the-highly-sensitive-child/ ) The Empath’s Survival Guide by Dr. Judith Orloff – Helpful for understanding emotional sensitivity in both parents and children. ( https://drjudithorloff.com/empath-survival-guide-description/ ) Join the Conversation If this episode resonated with you, send Andi a DM, join The Support Circle , or email her to share your thoughts. Parenting a child who thinks differently can feel isolating, but you’re not alone. Let's embrace these differences together!…

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Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/ Parenting doesn’t come with a manual, and even the best-prepared parents find themselves learning, adapting, and sometimes messing up along the way. In this episode, I sit down with Reesa Morala , a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, to talk about what it really means to navigate parenting challenges, embrace the learning process, and give yourself grace along the way. We dive into the reality of parenting differences, handling guilt and shame, and why self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, struggling with your child’s emotions, or just wondering if you’re getting it “right,” this episode will remind you: Parenting is a work in progress, and that’s okay. Key Takeaways: ✅ It’s normal for parents to have different parenting styles—what matters is how you communicate and find common ground. ✅ Guilt and shame are common, but they don’t make you a bad parent—learning and growing do. ✅ Even therapists and parenting experts mess up! The key is how you repair and move forward. ✅ Self-care makes you a better parent, not a selfish one. ✅ Curiosity (instead of assumptions) can improve communication with both your partner and your child. ✅ Kids mirror what we model—showing them how to manage stress and emotions helps them learn to do the same. Episode Highlights & Timestamps: [00:00] – Welcome [02:00] – Reesa introduces herself and shares her background as a therapist and parent [05:00] – The challenge of different parenting styles and why communication is key [10:00] – Even parenting experts mess up! Why it’s about progress, not perfection [12:00] – The importance of self-awareness: Noticing when you’ve fallen off track [17:00] – Dealing with guilt and shame as a parent (and why it’s never too late to grow) [20:00] – Why prioritizing your needs actually benefits your kids [25:00] – When one child feels easier to parent than another (and how to handle it) [30:00] – The power of tagging in your partner and asking for help [35:00] – What self-care really looks like (hint: it’s different for everyone) [38:00] – How dance parties, coloring, or playing in the mud can be self-care [42:00] – Making small shifts: Adding instead of taking away [45:00] – Teaching kids emotional regulation through curiosity and collaboration Resources Mentioned: 🔗 Reesa’s Website & Group: https://www.embracerenewaltherapy.com 🔗 Reesa’s Podcast: Listen to Reesa’s Cooking & Parenting Conversations: https://www.embracerenewaltherapy.com/real-family-eats 💻 You can Follow Reesa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/embrace.renewal.therapy/ Work With Me: 📌 Join The Support Circle: A monthly membership for parents navigating big emotions. Get strategies, support, and community. Join here: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/ 📌 1:1 Coaching: Need personalized guidance? Book a free 30-minute consultation. Schedule here! https://tidycal.com/andi1/starttheconversation If you loved this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a parent who needs to hear this! 🎧💛…

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96 When to Push, When to Pull Back: Parenting Kids with Big Emotions 27:49

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Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/ In this episode of Kids With Big Emotions, Andi dives into the delicate balance of knowing when to push your child and when to pull back. Parenting neurodiverse kids or those with big emotions can feel overwhelming, especially when societal pressures push for uniform benchmarks and comparisons. Andi introduces the concept of the "Learning Ladder," a step-by-step approach to helping kids develop skills and confidence at their own pace. Whether you're grappling with homework meltdowns, morning routines, or big life transitions, this episode will help you meet your child where they are and celebrate their unique journey. If you're ready to reframe expectations and discover actionable tools, this is an episode you won't want to miss! Key Takeaways The Learning Ladder Approach: Understanding that each child's development is unique and helping them climb one step at a time can reduce overwhelm and big emotions. Meeting Kids Where They Are: Adjusting expectations isn’t lowering standards—it’s about aligning with a child’s abilities to foster confidence and success. Challenging Societal Norms: Reject the pressure of benchmarks and comparisons that assume all kids should develop at the same pace. Trial and Observation: Parents must experiment, observe, and adapt to figure out the right steps for their child’s growth. Episode Highlights [00:00:00] Introduction: Learning when to push and when to pull back as a parent. [00:02:00] The Learning Ladder Concept: Shifting from a rigid “bar of expectations” to a ladder kids can climb step by step. [00:06:00] Challenges of Comparisons and Expectations [00:12:00] Knowing When to Push or Pull Back [00:16:00] Implementing the Learning Ladder in Daily Life [00:20:00] Reducing Emotional Outbursts [00:24:00] Grace for Parents and Trial-and-Error Parenting [00:25:00] Recap and Final Advice…

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Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/ Parenting is a journey full of highs and lows, and no one escapes without moments of doubt, missteps, and learning. In this episode, Andi Clark delves into the realities of parenting and why perfectionism isn’t the goal. Instead, it’s about recognizing your own growth, embracing imperfections, and giving your children the tools to thrive in their unique way. Join Andi as she explores how to navigate the ups and downs of parenting with compassion for yourself and your child. Key Takeaways: Perfectionism is not the goal in parenting; embracing imperfections fosters growth for both parents and children. Parenting challenges are universal, but your response to them makes the difference. Every child is unique, and their needs evolve. It's okay to adjust your approach as you learn more. You’re doing the best you can with the tools you have, and that’s enough. Building a supportive environment for yourself and your child creates opportunities for growth and connection. Episode Highlights with Timestamps: [00:00:00] Introduction: Parenting is messy but rewarding. Why perfectionism isn’t the answer. [00:01:30] Parenting doubts and the constant evolution of "the rules." [00:04:00] Acknowledging your efforts: You’re doing the best with what you have. [00:08:30] Recognizing every child’s unique reactions and needs. [00:11:00] Generational trauma: How it shapes us and how we can break the cycle. [00:13:00] Therapy as a tool for parents and kids to navigate challenges. [00:14:30] Polyvagal Theory: Understanding your nervous system and its role in emotional regulation. [00:20:00] Parenting tools: Why going at your own pace is critical. [00:22:00] Encouraging resilience and independence in kids through measured freedom. [00:28:00] The importance of grace and kindness for yourself as a parent. [00:33:00] Final takeaway: You don’t have to be perfect to raise amazing kids. Resources Mentioned: Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges: Understanding the three levels of the nervous system and its role in stress and regulation. The Support Circle Membership: A supportive space for parents to connect and learn tools at their own pace. Learn more at https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/ Let Grow Project: Insights into fostering resilience in children. Join the Support Circle: Looking for tools and strategies to navigate parenting with confidence? Join Andi’s Support Circle, a space designed to help you learn, grow, and connect with other parents. Visit https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/ to learn more and book a call. Remember, parenting isn’t about being perfect. It’s about showing up, learning, and growing together. 💛…

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93 EF Series: Initiation - Why Getting Started Is Hard for Some Kids—and How to Help 41:07

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Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form for Executive Function Series: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/ Show Notes Does your child hesitate to begin tasks, even when they know what to do? In this episode, we explore why getting started can be so challenging for kids and how parents can support them effectively. We’ll uncover the connections between initiation, executive functioning, and emotional regulation, offering practical strategies to help your child take that all-important first step. Key Takeaways What Is Initiation? The ability to begin tasks independently is a core executive functioning skill that many kids struggle to develop. Why Some Kids Get Stuck: Foundational skills like perception, attention, and working memory play a critical role in initiating tasks. Weaknesses in these areas can make getting started feel overwhelming. Stress and Executive Functioning: A child’s nervous system can become taxed by emotional, sensory, or physical stress, further reducing their ability to start tasks. Practical Steps for Parents: Breaking tasks into manageable chunks, creating routines, and building on small successes can help kids develop initiation skills over time. Patience and Compassion: Every child’s journey is different. A supportive approach that celebrates small wins can make a significant difference. Episode Highlights [00:00:00] Introduction: Why initiation matters and the focus of today’s episode. [00:03:00] What Is Initiation? Understanding why starting tasks independently is a challenge for many kids. [00:07:00] The Role of Foundational Skills: How perception, attention, and working memory are linked to initiation. [00:12:00] Personal Example: Andi shares a story of her son’s challenges with initiation and how stress impacts his progress. [00:17:00] Stress and Its Impact: The connection between stressors, executive functioning, and task initiation. [00:20:00] Strategies for Success: Practical ways to help kids break through hesitation and start with confidence. [00:28:00] Building Momentum: Celebrating small victories to reinforce positive patterns. [00:30:00] Recap and Closing: A compassionate reminder to approach initiation struggles with patience.…

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Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/ In this episode of the Kids with Big Emotions podcast, Andi Clark dives into the mystery behind homework meltdowns —those emotional outbursts that leave both parents and kids feeling frustrated and overwhelmed. If you’ve ever wondered why homework is such a battle, even for bright, capable children, this episode breaks down the hidden executive functioning challenges that lead to tears, procrastination, and avoidance. Learn how to decode what’s really happening when your child struggles with homework, what executive skills are getting in the way, and how to create a calm, supportive environment to help them build independence and confidence. Key Takeaways It’s Not About Intelligence: Homework struggles aren’t about how smart your child is—they’re about the executive functioning skills required to manage tasks, transitions, and emotions. Why Kids Melt Down: Homework activates multiple executive skills, including planning, task initiation, time management, and self-regulation. When these systems get overloaded, meltdowns happen. Signs of Overload: Procrastination, avoiding homework, or emotional outbursts can all point to executive functioning challenges, not defiance or laziness. Practical Strategies: Reducing overwhelm by breaking tasks into steps, setting clear routines, and creating a supportive, low-pressure environment can make a huge difference. Progress Is a Process: Building these skills takes time, patience, and the right tools—not perfection. Episode Highlights [00:00:00] Introduction: Andi shares her personal experience navigating homework battles and why this topic resonates with so many parents. [00:04:00] Why Homework Feels So Hard: A breakdown of the executive functioning demands homework places on kids and why even small tasks can feel overwhelming. [00:08:00] The Real Problem: It’s not about intelligence—bright kids often struggle because their executive skills (like planning and initiation) are underdeveloped. [00:12:00] Signs Your Child Is Struggling: From avoidance to emotional outbursts, Andi explains the common signs of executive functioning overload during homework. [00:18:00] Practical Solutions: Tips for creating a calm homework environment, breaking tasks into steps, and helping your child develop routines that reduce stress. [00:24:00] Redefining Success: Why progress looks different for every child, and how celebrating small wins can build long-term confidence. [00:30:00] Final Thoughts: Encouragement for parents feeling overwhelmed by homework struggles and practical next steps to support your child. Resources Mentioned Executive Functioning Checklist: A tool to help parents identify specific skills their child may be struggling with and target support where it’s needed most. Homework Routine Planner: A free template to create step-by-step plans for smoother homework sessions. Support Circle Membership: Join a community of parents navigating big emotions and executive functioning challenges with live coaching calls and resources. Join the Conversation What’s the biggest challenge your child faces when it comes to homework? Is it getting started, staying focused, or managing emotions? Share your experience in the comments or connect with us on social media—I’d love to hear your story! If this episode was helpful, don’t forget to subscribe to the Kids with Big Emotions podcast and leave a review. Let’s keep learning and growing together! Connect with Andi: Website: https://andiclark.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kidswithbigemotions/…

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91 Juggling It All in 2025 Managing Expectations and Realities in Parenthood 35:48

9 weeks önce35:48

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Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/ In this episode of the Kids with Big Emotions podcast, Andi Clark reflects on the unique challenges and triumphs of parenting while managing the expectations and realities of a new year. Parenthood in 2025 isn’t about doing it all at once—it’s about celebrating small wins, pacing yourself, and acknowledging the progress you and your child make each step of the way. Drawing on personal stories, lessons from years of coaching, and practical advice, Andi highlights how slowing down and prioritizing one piece of the puzzle at a time can create long-term success for you and your child. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by the weight of juggling your parenting responsibilities, this episode is your reminder that you’re not alone—and you’re doing better than you think. Key Takeaways Progress Takes Time: Focus on small, incremental steps instead of rushing to fit every piece of the puzzle together all at once. The Cognitive Ladder: Think of your child’s development as climbing a ladder—each rung is necessary, and you can’t skip steps to get to the top. You Are Doing More Than You Realize: Parents often underestimate how much they’re already doing to support their children. Reflecting on your efforts can reveal how far you’ve come. Breaks Are Okay: Both parents and children need breaks to process and implement what they’ve learned before taking on the next challenge. Build Community: Support groups and shared experiences with other parents can make a huge difference in feeling less isolated and gaining fresh ideas. Episode Highlights [00:00:00] Introduction: Andi shares the inspiration for this episode—the importance of slowing down as parents to focus on meaningful progress. [00:03:00] Personal Story: Reflections on a family vacation and the progress Andi’s son has made in flexibility and emotional regulation. [00:09:00] The Stages of Parenting: From feeling lost and overwhelmed to discovering solutions, and the realization that parenting is an evolving process. [00:14:00] The Cognitive Ladder: Why skipping steps in your child’s development can lead to setbacks and how pacing creates sustainable growth. [00:18:00] Avoiding Burnout: Andi discusses her own feelings of parental guilt, burnout, and the realization that taking a slower approach often yields better results. [00:25:00] Taking Breaks: Why it’s okay to pause therapies or interventions when they’re no longer serving your child or family’s needs. [00:29:00] Building Community: The value of connecting with other parents to share successes, challenges, and practical advice. [00:35:00] Moving Into 2025: Encouragement to celebrate small wins, focus on achievable steps, and keep your expectations realistic for the year ahead. Resources Mentioned Cognitive Ladder Framework : Andi discusses the importance of building foundational skills step by step. [Available in the Support Circle.] Support Circle Membership : A dedicated community for parents navigating big emotions, offering weekly calls, courses, and personalized guidance. https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Parent Intake Form : A tool to help you identify your child’s biggest challenges and prioritize next steps. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZqpIgPgFXB_V8_1NGsiClJ6O2GAHb5jXdJNzSxg-yY/edit?usp=sharing…

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90 EF Serie: Inhibition - Helping Kids Pause and Think Before Acting 39:33

10 weeks önce39:33

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In this episode of the Kids with Big Emotions podcast, we dive into the world of impulsivity and explore strategies to help kids pause, reflect, and make thoughtful decisions. If your child often acts without thinking, struggles to stop themselves, or faces social and emotional challenges due to impulsivity, this episode is for you. Learn why impulsivity happens, the foundational skills kids need to develop inhibition, and practical steps you can take to support them in creating that all-important pause before they act. Key Takeaways: What is Inhibition? Inhibition is the ability to pause and think before acting on impulse. It helps kids (and adults!) avoid blurting out, interrupting, or reacting emotionally without considering the consequences. What Impacts Impulsivity? Impulsivity can stem from an underdeveloped executive functioning system. Kids need attention, perception, and working memory to stop and think before acting. Why "Just Stop!" Doesn't Work: Simply telling kids to stop isn't enough. They need help learning how to pause, reflect, and process the situation. Practical Strategies: Teaching kids to use alarms, create plans, and break tasks into steps can build their inhibition skills over time. Understand the Whiteboard Effect: When kids’ brains are overloaded with distractions, emotions, and external stimuli, their ability to pause is diminished. Reducing this "whiteboard clutter" is key to helping them focus. Episode Highlights: [00:00:00] Introduction: Recognizing impulsivity in kids and how it shows up in daily life (e.g., blurting out, hitting, or struggling to wait their turn). [00:02:00] What is Inhibition? The ability to pause and think before acting—and why it’s crucial for social and emotional development. [00:04:00] The Building Blocks of Inhibition: How skills like attention, perception, and working memory play a role in self-control. [00:08:00] The Impact of Overload: Why kids struggle more with impulsivity when their executive functioning system is taxed (e.g., after a late night or an overstimulating event). [00:10:00] The Whiteboard Effect: How distractions, emotions, and screens overload a child’s mental "whiteboard," making it harder for them to pause and think. [00:16:00] Why Screens Make Impulsivity Worse: The high working memory demands of screens and how they pull kids’ attention away from what they should be doing. [00:18:00] Creating Space to Pause: How to teach kids to stop and reflect before acting, and why this skill builds healthier relationships and better emotional regulation. [00:22:00] Strategies That Work: Practical tips for helping kids navigate impulsivity, including alarms, breathing exercises, and step-by-step plans. [00:30:00] The Power of Individualized Plans: Why each child’s inhibition strategies need to match their unique executive functioning profile. [00:34:00] Long-Term Growth: Understanding how inhibition develops over time and why challenges may resurface during different life stages. Resources Mentioned: Inhibition Intake Form: A detailed self-assessment tool to help parents identify their child’s challenges and strengths in inhibition. https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/ Support Circle Membership: Gain access to personalized frameworks, live Q&A calls, and resources to better support your child’s growth. https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Join the Conversation: Have you noticed impulsivity challenges with your child? What strategies have worked for you? Share your thoughts in the comments or connect with us on social media—we’d love to hear your story! And if you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe to the Kids with Big Emotions podcast and leave a review. Let’s help more families navigate these challenges together! Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/…

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89 EF Series: What is Working Memory Part 2 -NON Verbal Working Memory 53:13

11 weeks önce53:13

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Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/ In this episode of the Kids with Big Emotions podcast, we dive into Nonverbal Working Memory —a critical but often overlooked executive functioning skill. If your child forgets where they placed items, struggles with multi-step directions, or has trouble visualizing what they need to do, this episode is for you. You’ll learn what nonverbal working memory is, why it matters, and how it impacts your child's daily routines, schoolwork, and emotional regulation. I’ll also share insights on how to identify challenges in this area and practical strategies to support your child. Key Takeaways: What is Nonverbal Working Memory? It’s the ability to hold and manipulate visual images, spatial details, and sequences in the mind. Why It Matters: Nonverbal working memory supports tasks like organizing belongings, visualizing steps, and planning actions. Signs of Struggle: Forgetting where items are, difficulty following multi-step directions, and challenges with sequencing events or spatial awareness. Impact on Learning: Nonverbal working memory is closely linked to reading comprehension, math, and even sports or dance. Support Strategies: Understanding where your child struggles helps tailor solutions like visual reminders, step-by-step guidance, and strengthening visualization skills. Episode Highlights: [00:00:00] Introduction – Common struggles linked to nonverbal working memory: losing items, forgotten steps, and frustrated routines. [00:01:00] What is Nonverbal Working Memory? – Definition and its role in holding and manipulating visual and spatial images. [00:03:00] Verbal vs. Nonverbal Working Memory – Comparing phonological sounds (verbal) to visual/spatial memory (nonverbal). Key examples to explain the difference. [00:05:00] Practical Examples: – How visualizing phrases like “the paper is in the fire” changes meaning despite identical words. [00:08:00] Why Testing Can Miss the Full Picture – How traditional assessments lump working memory into one score and why separating verbal and nonverbal components matters. [00:12:00] Real-Life Impact on Kids – From following sports plays to organizing backpacks, how weak nonverbal working memory affects daily life. [00:16:00] The Link to Higher Skills – How nonverbal working memory is foundational for planning, goal setting, and problem-solving. [00:22:00] Language Development Connection – Insights on how visual and phonological complexity impacts reading, writing, and learning disabilities like dyslexia/dysgraphia. [00:35:00] Time Horizons and Visualization – Understanding how far into the future kids of different ages can “see” and plan. [00:42:00] Transitions and Cognitive Load – Why big life changes like starting college or moving homes can temporarily weaken executive functioning. [00:48:00] Parent Support Strategies – Key questions to identify struggles and practical ways to help your child build nonverbal working memory skills. [00:51:00] What’s Next? – A preview of the final foundational skill: Inhibition (self-control). Resources Mentioned: Support Circle Membership: Join Andi’s monthly membership for personalized frameworks and support in helping your child develop critical executive functioning skills. Verbal Working Memory Intake Form: Download the intake form to identify where your child is struggling and start taking action.…

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88 EF Series: What is Working Memory Part 1 -Verbal Working Memory 38:42

12 weeks önce38:42

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Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/ Does your child struggle to follow directions, remember what they were going to say, or keep track of what they’ve learned in class? These challenges might not be about focus or effort—it could be their verbal working memory. Verbal working memory is the ability to hold and manipulate verbal information, such as sounds, words, and phrases, for short periods of time. When this foundational executive functioning skill is weak, it can impact everything from following multi-step instructions to succeeding in school and social interactions. In this episode, Andi dives into: What verbal working memory is and why it’s so important for kids with big emotions. How verbal working memory struggles show up in daily life—at home, in school, and with friends. The fascinating science behind verbal working memory, including concepts like the "phonological loop" and "word chains." Practical strategies to identify where your child is struggling and meet them at their level. If your child’s forgetfulness or difficulty following instructions has left you feeling frustrated or confused, this episode will give you insights and actionable steps to better support them. Key Takeaways: Verbal working memory is more than just remembering—it’s about holding and processing verbal information in real time. Struggles with verbal working memory can lead to big emotions, feelings of failure, and frustrations at school and home. Small changes, like simplifying instructions or focusing on foundational skills, can make a big difference in helping kids succeed. Episode Highlights: [00:02:00] - What is verbal working memory? How it’s connected to executive functioning and why it matters. [00:10:00] - Understanding “word chains” and how small changes in word complexity impact memory. [00:18:00] - Why asking your child “What’s the first sound in SAT?” might be harder than you think. [00:28:00] - How verbal working memory challenges affect real-life tasks like following recipes, conversations, and multi-step directions. [00:33:00] - Strategies to reduce cognitive load and help kids feel successful one step at a time. Resources Mentioned: Support Circle Membership: Join Andi’s monthly membership for personalized frameworks and support in helping your child develop critical executive functioning skills. Verbal Working Memory Intake Form: Download the intake form to identify where your child is struggling and start taking action.…

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87 A Neurodiverse Christmas: Embrace the Joy and Manage the Overwhelm 46:47

13 weeks önce46:47

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Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Email: support@andiclark.com The holiday season is here, bringing joy, excitement, and connection—but for neurodiverse kids and their families, it can also mean sensory overload, disrupted routines, and heightened emotions. In this episode, Andi dives into practical strategies to create a holiday experience tailored to your family’s unique needs. From setting boundaries to helping kids manage transitions and energy levels, Andi shares how to embrace the magic of the season while navigating the challenges. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The common stressors neurodiverse kids and parents face during the holidays. How to balance social expectations with your child’s unique needs. Creative ways to help your child handle overstimulation, meltdowns, or downtime struggles. Why it’s essential to empower your child to embrace their differences—and how you can model this as a parent. Tips to set boundaries, prioritize your family’s well-being, and manage potential judgments from others. Episode Highlights: Understanding Neurodiverse Holiday Needs: The holidays amplify emotions for neurodiverse kids—whether they’re struggling with overstimulation or craving constant excitement. Andi explains why recognizing and planning for these needs is essential. Practical Tips for Holiday Success: Build in downtime or recovery time between events. Use visual aids, schedules, and reflective questioning to prepare kids for transitions. Create safe spaces at gatherings with sensory-friendly tools like headphones, weighted blankets, or favorite activities. Managing Family and Social Expectations: How to say no guilt-free or adjust plans to work for your family. The power of owning your family’s unique way of celebrating and letting go of judgment. Embracing Neurodiversity: Andi shares why neurodiverse kids’ differences are their superpowers and how to support them in stepping into their strengths—even during the holidays. Taking Care of Yourself: Parents’ well-being is critical, especially during the holiday chaos. Andi provides tips for setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and staying grounded during meltdowns or challenging moments. Resources and Links: Join the Support Circle – A monthly membership community for parents like you to learn, share, and grow together. https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Email Andi – Share your holiday experiences or ask your questions! support@andiclark.com Related Episodes: 79 From Punishment to Connection: A New Path to Parenting Success https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/79-from-punishment-to-connection-a-new-path-to/id1674274021?i=1000672009495 83 The Invisible Stress That Could Be Behind Your Child's BIg Emotion https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/83-the-invisible-stress-that-could-be-behind-your/id1674274021?i=1000675566952…

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86 EF Series: Attention Struggles Aren’t Always ADHD 46:37

14 weeks önce46:37

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Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.com Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/ In This Episode We Will Dive into: How does attention—or the lack of it—affect your child’s daily life? Whether it's zoning out in class, struggling to finish multi-step tasks, or morning chaos trying to get out the door, attention plays a pivotal role in your child's executive functioning and emotional regulation. And it doesn’t just affect kids—many adults wrestle with attention challenges too. In this episode, Andi dives deep into attention as a foundational executive functioning skill. She explains why attention isn't about sustaining focus for long periods but about the critical ability to refocus when distracted. Using real-life examples, Andi shares insights into how attention struggles show up, why skipping steps on the "cognitive ladder" leads to frustration, and how small, actionable strategies can create big shifts for both kids and parents. Intake Questions for Attention Needs directions repeated multiple times to follow them. Completes the first part of multi-step directions but misses later steps. Struggles to pay attention during class or conversations, especially if the topic isn’t interesting. Frequently zones out when instructions are being given. Has difficulty refocusing after getting distracted, often losing track of the task. Struggles to stay focused on tasks for long periods, even if it’s an enjoyable activity. Finds it challenging to maintain focus on multi-step tasks like homework or chores. Gets distracted by their own thoughts or daydreams, even when they should be listening or working. Has difficulty sustaining attention on people such as parents, teachers, coaches, or siblings. Often seems “in their own world,” not focused on the current task. Frequently asks, “What did you say?” or needs instructions clarified after they’ve been given. Often asks, “When will this be over?” or “When are we going to be done?” Tends to hyper-focus on sounds (e.g., chewing, tapping) that stress them out and distract from the main focus. Easily distracted by external noises or movements when they need to concentrate. Frequently hyper-focuses on one activity, making it difficult to shift attention elsewhere. Often misses important details by focusing too much on smaller aspects or specific details. Has difficulty following conversations with multiple speakers or background noise present. What You'll Learn in This Episode: The true definition of attention and why it’s not just about “staying focused.” How attention struggles impact daily life—at home, in school, and beyond. The connection between attention and executive functioning skills like planning, time management, and self-regulation. Why skipping foundational steps leads to failure and frustration for kids and adults alike. Practical strategies to help kids (and yourself!) build the skill of refocusing through targeted activities and compassionate support. Key Moments: [00:02:00] - The "Executive Functioning Orchestra" analogy: how attention fits into the bigger picture of emotional and cognitive regulation. [00:10:00] - Breaking down the "cognitive ladder" and why starting with foundational skills is critical. [00:36:00] - A powerful exercise to help parents understand and practice the skill of refocusing. [00:43:00] - Introducing the flashlight metaphor: how to teach kids to guide their thoughts back to focus. [00:45:00] - Why attention is the building block for decision-making, planning, and thriving in life. Resources Mentioned: Support Circle Membership: Join Andi's monthly membership for frameworks, strategies, and a supportive community of parents. Learn more and sign up at https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form for Executive Functioning Skills: Access the form to better understand where your child may need support. https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/ Stay tuned for the next episode #87, focusing on Verbal Working Memory—a key skill for holding and using information effectively. By the end of this episode, you'll not only have a deeper understanding of attention struggles but also actionable steps to help your child (or yourself) succeed in a compassionate, practical way. Let’s make attention a stepping stone, not a stumbling block! Subscribe to the Kids with Big Emotions podcast and share this episode with someone who could benefit from these insights.…

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