In today's episode we cover: Listener question: How do you recover as the perpetrator of an affair? What does it mean to know yourself? How can you not.. you're.. you. 3 ways to get to know yourself better How knowing and accepting yourself changes your relationships Your inner dialogue, and how it can push people away Stuff we missed or didn't hav…

There's all kinds of advice on how to be happy, but what does science say? In today's episode we cover: The 84 year long Harvard experiment on happiness The single biggest factor in whether you're happy or not Money - can you buy happiness? Two key exercises to help unlock your personal happiness pathway How culture affects happiness Stuff we misse…

Do you have low emotional bandwidth? Here are the symptoms: You get angry quickly You end relationships rather than working through issues You have difficulty expressing yourself You find it difficult to calmly resolve relationship issues You avoid, dismiss, minimize, or numb yourself to avoid feelings You become preoccupied with issues and have tr…

Huge week for us here at WBYI. Our new office is finished, including a room I had built just for our podcast. We also received our first reader question, so we're a pretty big deal now. In today's episode we cover: Reader question: How to deal with boundaries that become isolating? Three communication tips you can use in your relationship right awa…

The overbearing mother-in-law who drops by whenever she wants. The father who retires from the family business but keeps telling his son what to do. The friend who drinks too much at your dinner party. The colleague who overshares about their personal issues. There are so many examples of boundary issues, so it's no surprise boundaries are one of t…

It's a modern cliche featured in at least half of the series I've seen on Netflix lately. A person walks into a generic looking office and a calm, soft spoken figure with round glasses asks them about their childhood. But is it accurate? Or do therapists also focus on the issues happening now, the issues that made you pick up the phone and book an …

The single most misunderstood topic in relationships is cheating. There are so many myths, so much information, and so many people on the internet who claim to have the answers. Today, we draw on decades of experience working with couples going through infidelity, and take a look at some of the most common beliefs about cheating. Which do you think…

After World War 2, American psychologists set out to prove that Americans would never fall for Nazi crap the way Germans did. They set up a clever experiment where a volunteer would be asked to push a button delivering a fatal shock to his fellow man. Their prediction? 0.01% of men would push the button. The result? 65% of men did it. This sent sho…

Today we talk about one of the most difficult topics: grief. People often say we need to talk about issues more, but this is one that gets left out. So today we're going to cover: The phases of grieving, and their legitimacy The differences between death, grief, and loss Different types of loss, and how the affect people What it means to process gr…

Do long distance relationships work? How do you stay connected? Are there times you should rip off the band-aid and go your separate ways? This episode we talk all about long distance relationships and how to stay connected while you're apart. We cover: How to figure out if it's better to break up or go long distance What to do to stay connected wh…

It's a huge decision, and if you choose wrong you might end up wasting your time and money. Worse, if it's your first time trying therapy, you might assume therapy doesn't work. In today's episode, we talk about: The number one factor that predicts therapy success and how to find it Different types of therapy and how each of them works The intervie…

A bunch of strangers get together and date without being able to see each other, start saying I love you, and propose within days... all before they even see what the other person looks like. Then, they meet face to face. And get married within a month. We binge watched the series and in this episode we cover: Carlton's bisexuality How shame fuels …

Do you have reoccurring fights in your relationship? Do you or your partner get defensive and shut down? Do you feel like you struggle to communicate? These are all symptoms of the #1 cause of divorce, a specific type of communication issue called attachment conflict. Every relationship experiences this at some point, but for some people they get s…

A bunch of strangers get together and date without being able to see each other, start saying I love you, and propose within days... all before they even see what the other person looks like. Then, they meet face to face. And get married within a month. We binge watched the series and in this episode we cover: Is love at first sight real? Can you r…

People often equate being mentally healthy with not having anxiety or depression, but this is like saying you're physically healthy because you don't have heart disease or diabetes. Most people would say being physically health is about diet, sleep, and exercise. In this episode, we cover: What does it mean to be mentally healthy? How do you self-a…