38: Can a Lack of Boundaries Contribute to Cancer Risk?

Why Did I Get Cancer?

38: Can a Lack of Boundaries Contribute to Cancer Risk?

A candid conversation with Boundaries author, Dr. Henry Cloud.

I was 33, single, and struggling with boundaries. I always picked the wrong guy, and then the relationship would blow up, and I'd be crushed and have a crisis of confidence.

One day I was driving to a work appointment and switched on my radio and discovered Dr. Cloud on my local radio station. He spoke to my brokenness about my relationships. He taught me about boundaries in such a simple way! He stated that boundaries are like the locked door on a house; you unlock the door to let in the right people and keep it shut to keep the wrong people out!

You can imagine what a thrill it was for me to host Dr. Henry Cloud on my podcast! I was geeking out :) He's been my mentor and life coach for twenty-five years, and I've never even talked to him.

My focus of this interview was, can a lack of boundaries or being co-dependent contribute to cancer risk. Of course, I've been wondering if I've contributed to my cancer through the drama I've had in my personal life.

I found his answer surprising, so make sure you listen to part one of my interview with Dr. Cloud.

Dr. Henry Cloud is an acclaimed leadership expert, clinical psychologist, and New York Times bestselling author. His 45 books, including the iconic Boundaries, have sold nearly 20 million copies worldwide. In addition, he has an extensive executive coaching background and experience as a leadership consultant, devoting most of his time to working with CEOs, leadership teams, and executives to improve performance, leadership skills, and culture.

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I admit, I used to like the smell of bleach and pine sol, ugh.

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I had to figure out how to decrease the amount of blue light (screens, iPad & phone) I saw at night. The more blue light you see, the more it slows down your production of melatonin (among many other things), and the next thing you know, you're getting a second wind at midnight. No, thank you.

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This podcast is for informational purposes only and none of the information should be construed as medical advice. Listeners should seek guidance from their own medical team before making any medical or lifestyle changes.