Nonviolent Communication #1: Needs vs. Strategies

Upbuilding The Self

Welcome to the first episode of our Nonviolent Communication miniseries. Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a method of communication developed by psychologist Marshall Rosenberg in the 1960s. Its power lies in facilitating compassionate, empathetic, and effective communication between individuals.
In the first episode of this miniseries, Michael, Hari Prasada, and Rasanath explore how our everyday communication is “violent,” the difference between needs and strategies, the importance of the acronym P.L.A.T.O., and how understanding this framework can stop the “emotional slavery” that is present in our relationships.

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Bölümler

1. Nonviolent Communication #1: Needs vs. Strategies (00:00:00)

2. Introduction to our Nonviolent Communication miniseries (00:01:35)

3. What is Nonviolent Communication? (00:02:30)

4. The founder of the framework, Marshall Rosenberg (00:04:00)

5. The violence of our everyday communication (00:07:00)

6. How does this framework apply to me? (00:08:10)

7. The deep need for connection (00:10:30)

8. An example of violent communication (00:13:30)

9. Needs vs. strategies (00:16:20)

10. Examples of needs (00:18:10)

11. The dimension of the instincts in the Enneagram (00:21:10)

12. Demands vs. requests (00:29:50)

13. P.L.A.T.O.: People, Location, Action, Time, and Objects (00:30:20)

14. Embracing our needs (00:31:00)

15. Emotional slavery (00:46:30)

16. Summary (00:49:00)