Escaping the Hustle Trap: Finding What Truly Matters

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A woman’s search for her father—a pilot who disappeared during a mission in Vietnam—collides with the fight over what we owe those who never returned from war. From the producers of "America's Girls" and "Tom Brown's Body," and hosted by Texas Monthly writer Josh Alvarez, the show debuts April 2025. Texas Monthly Audio subscribers get early access to the show, plus bonus episodes and more subscriber-only audio. Visit texasmonthly.com/audio to learn more.…

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In this episode, Tiff and I are taking on the ever-persistent hustle culture, where busyness is celebrated as success, and exhaustion is often the reward. We’ll explore the real costs of endless grinding and how it can distract us from what genuinely matters. This isn't about scaling back ambitions but recalibrating them, diving into ways to improve our focus, identify our core values, and ensure our goals align with them. Drawing from Buddhist philosophy, we’ll discuss the art of being present and letting go of what doesn’t serve us. We’ll also look at how new experiences, travel, learning, or even small changes in routine, can give us fresh perspectives, helping us see the world and our place in it with renewed clarity. And, we talk about cats, because we like cats, and they are our teachers, showing us how to balance our lives with rest and play. If you’ve ever felt burned out on a path that wasn’t yours, this episode is the antidote.

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Escaping the Hustle Trap: Finding What Truly Matters

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Avoiding the Comfort Trap 1:05:04

11 weeks önce1:05:04

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Send us a text Ever feel like you're stuck in the gravitational pull of your own comfort zone, orbiting the same problems like a satellite doomed to reruns of its own past mistakes? You’re not alone. Avoiding the Comfort Trap isn’t about radical, reckless change as much as it’s about understanding why we cling to familiarity, even when it holds us back, and how to break free without setting off existential alarm bells. In this episode, my friend and colleague Jo Groves, joined by a live audience, take a deep dive into why behavior change is so complicated and why simply knowing what to do isn’t enough. From suspending assumptions to the sneaky hidden commitments that conflict with our stated goals, we’ll explore how our internal arguments for and against change play out every single day. We’ll break down the dynamic systems that shape our choices, and how our values, behaviors, environment, and social determinants of changes shape us. Discover why crafting a compelling vision of the future (or revisiting the past to find what truly mattered) is essential to meaningful transformation. But it’s not just about dreaming big, it’s about starting small. Change often happens through incremental wins, building self-efficacy, and isolating key variables instead of trying to overhaul your entire life overnight. We’ll explore tools like decisional balance sheet, motivational interviewing, and other models that support a deeper understanding of yourself, your clients, and how to facilitate change talk. Speaking of talk, let's not forget the role of language, the words we use to describe ourselves are powerful predictors of behavior change. When we shift from "I should" to "I will," "I am," and "I have," we’re no longer just talking about change, we’re preparing to engage in it. We’ll talk about why we need mavericks, in every industry, in every field; people willing to challenge norms, ask better questions, and create a culture where empathy fuels evolution instead of judgment reinforcing stagnation. So, what’s the one thing you’re going to work on changing? Let’s get to it. Because avoiding the comfort trap isn’t about making life harder, it’s about making it matter. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com…

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Resilience in the Face of Uncertainty 38:57

14 weeks önce38:57

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Send us a text What if uncertainty isn’t a void to fear but a blank canvas daring you to create? In this episode, we dive headfirst into the unknown, exploring how to reframe uncertainty as an opportunity, take small, bold risks, and build unshakable resilience. Through relatable stories, sharp insights, and actionable strategies, we’ll show you how to turn fear into curiosity, mistakes into masterpieces, and setbacks into setups for growth. Whether you’re stuck at a crossroads or overwhelmed by the chaos of "what ifs," this episode will inspire you to grab the brush and start painting your path forward. Because in life—and art—the first stroke is always the hardest, but it can also be the most transformative. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com…

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Creating a Vision for Your First Coaching Session 43:32

15 weeks önce43:32

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Send us a text The first session in a coaching relationship is the foundation for success. It’s where trust is built, values and vision are clarified, and actionable goals are set. In this episode, we explore why this initial meeting is more than a simple introduction, it’s a blueprint for meaningful change. Drawing on the VISION framework, we’ll guide you through the step-by-step process of creating a collaborative and empowering session that helps clients align their values with actionable goals. We’ll discuss the importance of building rapport, using tools like motivational interviewing (OARS), and the power of aligning goals with intrinsic motivations. Packed with practical examples and research insights, this episode demonstrates how the right approach in a first session can spark motivation, build momentum, and set the stage for sustainable growth. Whether you're a seasoned coach or just starting out, tune in to learn how to transform the first session into a powerful catalyst for change. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com…

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Comparison is the Thief of Joy: How to Find Growth and Opportunity Where You Are 37:57

19 weeks önce37:57

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Send us a text In this episode, we dive into the timeless wisdom of Russell Conwell’s iconic parable Acres of Diamonds . This story isn’t just about wealth—it’s about uncovering the opportunities, talents, and resources already within your reach. We’ll explore the journey of Ali Hafed, a farmer who gave up everything to seek riches far away, only to miss the diamonds that lay buried beneath his feet. Through this lens, we unpack powerful lessons on contentment, perspective, and finding value in what you already have. Join us as we discuss practical ways to recognize your "acres of diamonds" by auditing your skills, cultivating gratitude, seeking feedback, and investing in personal growth. Whether you’re chasing career goals, seeking fulfillment, or rethinking what success means, this episode will challenge you to look closer at the treasures in your own life. Grab your shovel, your diamonds might be closer than you think. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com…

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Why People Struggle to Change, Especially When They Know What to Do 25:23

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Send us a text Why is it so hard to change, even when we know exactly what steps to take? In this episode, we unpack the science and psychology behind the gap between knowing and doing. From the myths of laziness and willpower to the hidden forces of habits, ambivalence, and decision fatigue, we explore why change feels so elusive, and how to finally make it stick. Learn practical, research-backed strategies to design your life for success, align your goals with your values, and embrace small, sustainable actions for lasting transformation. Whether you’re tackling personal habits or guiding others through change, this episode is your roadmap to meaningful growth. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com…

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Finding Strength Through Trauma: By the Power of GRYSKLL 1:02:13

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Send us a text In this episode, we’re joined by two remarkable artists who are using creativity to transform lives and communities: Shaah, founder of the creative collective GRYSKLL, and Quentin Fountain, also known as Q. aka Media Pimp, an eMCee, producer, and engineer. Together, they share powerful stories of trauma, resilience, and the healing potential of art. Shaah, a former member of Wu-Tang’s “Tha Beggas,” brings a multi-dimensional perspective to the conversation, with a background spanning music, film, photography, and writing. Through GRYSKLL, launched in 2021, Shaah has built a supportive community around creative expression and mental health. His latest project, gryMatter, is a documentary endeavor aimed at capturing his journey of healing through creativity, featuring mixtapes, books, and a unique soundtrack. Q., who returned to music after two decades away, reflects on the life-changing events that led him back to his craft. Reconnecting with old friends and joining GRYSKLL rekindled his passion and eventually brought him into audio engineering, where he has become GRYSKLL's lead engineer and a vital contributor to the collective’s sound. His single Bleeding Out marked a profound return, and he now continues to shape the sonic landscape of GRYSKLL, with a new EP on the horizon. Together, Shaah and Q. dive into the ways unresolved trauma, and the psychological impact of adverse childhood experiences, like growing up in poverty have shaped their lives, and how making music has been an anchor and light in dark times. They discuss the importance of social support, the courage to connect, and how creativity offers a way to express pain, recognize struggles in others, and build resilience. From growing up under challenging circumstances to finding belonging and purpose through community, Shaah and Q. explore how the worst experiences can give rise to profound growth. Through GRYSKLL, they are not only telling their stories but fostering a community where people feel safe, seen, and heard. This episode is an exploration of how art and community can turn pain into purpose, and the courage it takes to keep showing up, helping others, and ultimately finding healing in the process. Join us for an inspiring conversation on the transformative power of creativity, connection, and courage. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com…

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Escaping the Hustle Trap: Finding What Truly Matters 52:50

25 weeks önce52:50

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Send us a text In this episode, Tiff and I are taking on the ever-persistent hustle culture, where busyness is celebrated as success, and exhaustion is often the reward. We’ll explore the real costs of endless grinding and how it can distract us from what genuinely matters. This isn't about scaling back ambitions but recalibrating them, diving into ways to improve our focus, identify our core values, and ensure our goals align with them. Drawing from Buddhist philosophy, we’ll discuss the art of being present and letting go of what doesn’t serve us. We’ll also look at how new experiences, travel, learning, or even small changes in routine, can give us fresh perspectives, helping us see the world and our place in it with renewed clarity. And, we talk about cats, because we like cats, and they are our teachers, showing us how to balance our lives with rest and play. If you’ve ever felt burned out on a path that wasn’t yours, this episode is the antidote. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com…

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Why Empathy Fails: A Misunderstood Aspect of Successful Coaching 21:01

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Send us a text In this episode, we’re diving into the subject of empathy vs. sympathy, because in coaching and leadership, these two are not the same. It's not so much that empathy fails, but the confusion of empathy with sympathy that's the problem. Think of empathy as that friend who shows up with pizza when you’re stressed, while sympathy just sends you a sad-face emoji and a “Thoughts and Prayers” text. One builds connection, the other builds... well, awkward silence. We’ll unpack why empathy is the lifeblood of successful coaching and leadership, allowing you to actually " get" your clients and team, rather than just feel sorry for them. When you lead with empathy, you create space for trust, growth, and change—transforming your client’s journey and your career into a masterpiece of connection and results. But sympathy? It’s the well-meaning yet potentially damaging relationship dynamic that often makes things worse. Instead of empowering, sympathy traps your client in a “Poor You” narrative, as if they’ve just auditioned for the world's saddest soap opera. Nobody wins an Emmy for that. Seeing people as either unwilling or unable to change, void of agency is not exactly a trust and rapport builder. So, let’s explore how this game-changer can make your client see the superhero within them, and position you for success in your career. Because when you master empathy, not only do you get to help people become their best selves, you also become the kind of coach who gets results. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com…

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The Emotional Edge: Why Self-regulation Matters in Coaching 36:42

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Send us a text In this episode, we explore one of the most critical yet often overlooked skills for coaches: emotional self-regulation. Emotions drive decisions and behaviors more than any other aspect of mindset, and your emotional energy as a coach can either create an atmosphere of trust and growth or lead to barriers that hinder your client’s progress. Drawing on insights from affective neuroscience, we discuss how innate emotions like fear, anger, and love influence not only your clients but also your own coaching effectiveness. We’ll break down the science behind emotions, referencing the work of experts like Jaak Panksepp and Joseph LeDoux, and show how emotions are contagious, shaping the dynamic of your coaching sessions, whether you realize it or not. You’ll also learn actionable techniques to manage your emotional state through mindfulness, pre-session rituals, and reflective practices to ensure you’re bringing the best energy into every client interaction. Plus, we dive into real-world examples, highlighting how emotional states—both yours and your client’s—affect decision-making, goal-setting, and the overall coaching journey. Tune in to discover how mastering your emotions can elevate your coaching practice and lead to deeper, more impactful client outcomes. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com…

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The Wellbeing Advantage: How Prioritizing Wellness Transforms Client Relationships and Elevates Business Performance 49:30

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Send us a text In this episode, we explore why prioritizing wellbeing isn't just a "nice to have"—it's a critical business strategy. Drawing inspiration from the visionary leadership of Walt Disney, we look at how businesses that proactively focus on wellbeing, like Walt saw Epcot long before it was built, can anticipate and solve hidden challenges before they surface. Wellbeing is more than offering gym memberships or wellness programs—it's about creating a culture where people feel valued, supported, and connected. We’ll delve into how organizations can elevate their value by making wellbeing a cornerstone of their business relationships. Through stories, insights from thought leaders like Seth Godin, and real-life examples, we’ll discuss why businesses that embed wellbeing into their DNA become indispensable partners for their clients. From addressing unseen issues like stress and burnout to building trust and transparency, we'll explore how wellbeing partnerships unlock long-term success. Whether you’re a business leader, coach, or just interested in enhancing workplace culture, this episode will offer strategies to foster lasting client relationships through wellbeing, turning your organization into a trusted and invaluable partner. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com…

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Breaking the Barrier to Change: Overcoming the Righting Reflex in Coaching 47:23

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Send us a text In this episode, we dive into one of the biggest obstacles coaches face when helping clients navigate change—the righting reflex. The instinct to "fix" or "correct" can create resistance, damage trust, and ultimately slow down the process of change. We'll explore why it’s crucial to avoid this reflex and instead guide clients to discover their own path to transformation. We also unpack the concept of ambivalence, a natural state where clients may feel torn between conflicting desires or values. Rather than pushing for change, coaches can skillfully work with ambivalence using tools like the decisional balance sheet. This simple yet powerful tool allows clients to weigh the pros and cons of their choices, helping them clarify their own reasons for change and commit to a course of action that aligns with their values. Join us as we explore how recognizing these psychological dynamics and empowering clients to resolve their own ambivalence can lead to lasting, meaningful change. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com…

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Climbing the Hill: The Science and Strategy Behind Lasting Behavior Change 28:08

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Send us a text How does lasting behavior change happen, and where’s the evidence to support it? In this episode, we break down the science of behavior change using the analogy of climbing a hill—because like any steep climb, the journey to change is hard, but preparation is just as important as taking that first step. We dive into three key models that help us understand the process of change: Motivational Interviewing , the Transtheoretical Model of Change , and Social Cognitive Theory . At the bottom of the hill, you’re in the pre-contemplation stage—thinking about change but not yet ready. We’ll explore how Motivational Interviewing helps guide clients through the DARN framework (Desire, Ability, Reasons, and Need) to build momentum. As you begin climbing, you face contemplation and preparation, stages two and three of the Transtheoretical Model. Overcoming ambivalence and building self-belief are key to reaching the other side. We’ll discuss how vicarious stories of success and environmental support from Social Cognitive Theory play a role in developing confidence to keep moving forward. Reaching the peak, you start to experience the action and maintenance stages (stages four and five), where change talk—fueled by CAT (Commitment, Activation, and Taking Steps)—begins to drive momentum. We’ll discuss the importance of reinforcement, positive feedback, and observational learning in sustaining progress. Finally, you’ll find yourself on the other side of the hill—the termination stage, where your new behaviors align with your identity. But remember: change is not linear. It’s not about perfection, it’s about progress, and every step forward is a victory in itself. Whether you’re a coach guiding others or someone on your own journey of change, this episode will equip you with the insights and evidence to help make that climb. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com…

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Mastering Communication and Creativity with John Hardy 55:47

34 weeks önce55:47

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Send us a text In this episode of The Self Help Antidote , I chat down with my long time friend and collaborator, John Hardy, the Managing Director and Founder of FASTER Health and Fitness Limited. John is not only revolutionizing the fitness industry with cutting-edge training methodologies, but he's also an improv performer and stand-up comedian who masterfully blends the performing arts with professional development. Join us as John shares his journey from being told he had no talent in the arts (thanks dad) to becoming a successful performer and entrepreneur. We dive deep into the power of storytelling and how it's woven into every aspect of marketing and communication. John explains why improv isn't just about quick wit—it's about mastering communication, being in the moment, and reacting with structure and rapport. We explore the vital role of communication in all areas of life—work, relationships, leadership—and question why it's often overlooked in formal training. John breaks down how being present, empathetic inquiry, and reflective listening can transform interactions and lead to more meaningful connections. We also discuss our thoughts on psychological safety and why it's crucial for fostering creativity and high performance, whether in the workplace or on stage. Discover how embracing mistakes, playing with ideas, and providing a safe yet challenging environment can lead to incredible growth and innovation. If you're looking to enhance your communication skills, unlock your creative potential, and learn how to create systems that lead to success, this episode is packed with insights you won't want to miss. Whether you're a coach, leader, or simply someone looking to improve your interactions, John Hardy's wisdom will inspire you to see communication as both an art and a science. Tune in and discover how to harness the power of storytelling, improv, and dynamic systems to elevate your professional and personal life. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com…

1 year önce1:01:22

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Send us a text Welcome back to the first episode of the year, with Alan Questel. Alan is a renown Feldenkrais practitioner, teacher and author. I found my conversation with him to be both enjoyable and deeply fascinating. I loved where the conversation went. Alan’s wisdom, authenticity and generosity added so much value to this episode. In the beginning of our conversation we delved into a myriad of thought-provoking topics inspired by Charles Bukowski's assertion that we often fail to be good to one another. We explored the environmental factors contributing to this phenomenon and how our self-image, deeply intertwined with our self-regard, plays a crucial role. An intriguing discussion began to unfold around the transformative power of physical movement and its impact on our self-perception, emphasizing the importance of moving in ways that resonate positively with us. We then navigate the paradox of finding it easier to extend kindness to others than to ourselves, underscoring the value of small acts of kindness in enhancing how we feel about ourselves. The conversation shifts to practical steps one can take to aid others and how these actions can catalyze personal growth. We dissect the notion that kindness often starts with small gestures and reflect on the ways we are already kind in our daily lives. Further, we examine how movement influences our thoughts and feelings, with a focus on its fundamental role in all our actions. The episode highlights the contrasting perspectives of observers and doers, proposing that kindness is born from action, which is inherently linked to movement. We then shifted the conversation to focus on the things we excel at in our daily routines and how mastering small tasks provides the confidence to tackle larger challenges. The discussion moves to the timeframe required for change, the significance of being present in the moment, and the positive impact of reducing self-criticism. The episode also offers insights into moments of self-reflection, strategies for evolving into the person we aspire to be in a year, and the potential within us. We delve into the pitfalls of the comparing mind, the tension between reality and expectations, and the quest for purpose. In another highly interesting shift, we explore Milton Erickson's work on Ericksonian Hypnosis, its implications on depression and perceived lack of choice, and the actions that can lead to meaningful change. We discuss demonstrations of agency, engagement, performance, and the innovative approach of learning differently. The conversation takes a deeper turn into understanding the context of 'no context', the issues with the 'just do it' mentality, and the art of tolerating discomfort. We examine the impact of false beliefs and how stress can surprisingly offer benefits. This leads to a discussion on the misconception of overnight success and the reality of success being decades in the making. The episode wraps up with an encouragement to give a bit more in everything we do, introducing our listeners to Alan Questel's insightful work. We highlight his website www.practicing-kindness.com and his book “Practice Intentional Acts of Kindness,” which provide valuable resources for those looking to delve deeper into these themes. This episode is a rich tapestry of ideas and insights, inviting listeners to reflect, move, and grow in kindness towards themselves and others. It's a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the intricate relationship between our actions, our self-image, and the kindness we extend to the world. Thank you for listening, enjoy! Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com…

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