Platonic Longing with Kat Vellos

Strong Feelings

Even before the pandemic, Americans were experiencing a devastating loneliness epidemic. We talk to UX designer-turned-connection coach Kat Vellos about the longing for deep and meaningful friendships that so many of us experience, and how we can build deeper, more substantial connections in our adult lives.

Kat Vellos is a connection coach, speaker, facilitator, and author on a mission to transform loneliness and “platonic longing” into authentic human connection. She is the author of two books: We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships, and Connected From Afar: A Guide for Staying Close When You're Far Away.

When we think about connection, we often turn our lens outward, and it's really important first to look inside and say, what is it that you really need right now? And what is missing? If you can wave a magic wand and have the kind of connection you want, what would that look like, and how would it be integrated into your life? And the way you answer that question helps you determine what to do and where to go when you then turn your lens outward and seek to cultivate that connection externally with other people.

—Kat Vellos, author of We Should Get Together

We talk about:

• The loneliness epidemic and how COVID changed connection
• The idea of “platonic longing” and the importance of identifying and talking about loneliness
• Having passion for your job versus following your curiosity
• How organizations can invite and facilitate connection within the workplace
• What we can do to focus on reconnection in our personal lives

Plus: in this week’s You’ve Got This, Sara offers tips for how to foster joy. Where have you told yourself you shouldn't feel joyful? What is that costing you? What would be different in your life if you were operating from a place of joy? What would shift, what would change? For all this and more, check out https://www.activevoicehq.com/podcast.

Links:

• Kat Vellos
• We Should Get Together & Connected from Afar
• Active Voice