What Helped Me to Stop

Losing Part of Me

In this episode I delve into the intricacies of what led me to quit drinking. The elusive "magic pill" everyone seeks when asking, "How did you stop?" is far from simple, especially when grappling with addiction.

I attempt to share some insights into the factors that contributed to my decision to stop drinking. It's a journey that goes beyond mere willpower and confronts the challenges of addiction.

In the episode I share with you how therapy became a pivotal part of my recovery but how it took years to even bring up the subject of alcohol and addiction.

One crucial aspect of my journey was the exploration of self-compassion and empathy. I had been exceptionally harsh on myself, berating my inability to control drinking despite numerous attempts. Learning to treat myself with kindness and understanding was a significant breakthrough which was key for my recovery.

I also share the concept of "little Therese's." This concept, influenced by internal family systems theory, helped me recognise that certain behaviours stemmed from a younger version of myself seeking comfort, safety, or attention.

I also share my love for the book The Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Maté, recommended by my therapist. Maté delves into the impact of trauma on the brain, challenging the notion that addiction is solely a result of genetics or willpower. His exploration of how early-life experiences shape brain function, influencing our propensity for addiction, was a revelation that shifted my perspective. It wasn't a matter of fault or weakness; it was a neurological response to trauma.

Remember, you are not alone on this journey, and with understanding and empathy, positive change is possible.

Sending you love and strength on your own unique path to recovery. You've got this. 💙