S1E26. Jalila’s Heaux Story: Dating as an Expat in China. Face Palm.

Heauxly Coitus

A Heaux Abroad: Taking a Break from the Heaux Life Have you ever felt like you needed a break from the heaux life? Today Jalila and I talked about being a heaux abroad and what happens when you need to take a break from the heaux life because something has gone wrong. Jalila is an American expat living in Shanghai, yes, Shanghai lockdown, you’ve been glued to your social media feeds I’m sure, but I they should be free now. Jalila moved abroad to Beijing China September 2019 and after working for one year in Beijing for Disney English, she relocated to Shanghai after Disney English shut down due to Covid-19. In America she had stable intimate relationships but in China she hasn’t experienced that. Jalila was content enough being a heaux and embracing her sexuality but had two different experiences where the a man she was seeing stated the intention of wanting a relationship, but whose actions were opposite. After the second experience Jalila decided was hurt and would ghost men after a liaison. Recently Jaila took a break when her last intimate partner reached out and asked what he had done to be treated that way and liked her. Jalila realized that she had no reason, but needed to reevaluate what she wanted from her heaux experience and has taken a break from dating. Jalila believes it’s important for me to be happy in doing whatever she’s doing and not hurt others and not get hurt as well. She was unhappy in her career in America and found teaching English abroad, and now unhappy in how her heaux experience was going, she’s found more happiness in taking care of her own heaux needs on her own. Jalila does wonder about possibly entering into a polyamory relationship once she back from self-imposed hiatus, because she knows that she wants the warmth that a stable consistent relationship brings but also needs the fire that the spice and variety of different partners provides as well. To listen to Are we home yet podcast, a biweekly expat podcast with guests from around the world, with creator and host Jalila Clarke, click the below link and select any podcast player : Subscribe, Download, Share, Rate, Review the podcast! Connect via social media at: IG : @arewehomeyetpodcast FB : @arewehomeyetpodcast FB Community: Are we home yet podcast Pinterest: @arewehomeyetpodcast Twitter: @arewehomeyetpod All of these can be found on the website: Arewehomeyetpodcast.com . Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus 💦For Heaux T-shirts and mugs and bags: http://jenaya-global.myshopify.com 💦Come share your heaux story on the pod! Be the next guest. Inbox me, Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus 💦For pictures, past episodes, and stories: https://heauxlycoitus.home.blog . ~To be a heaux is to engage in consensual sex, be kind your yourself and partner(s), creative, fully embodied, unapologetic, powerful, and free.~