Why Would She Cheat And Go To Such Extremes To Hurt Me?!

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Ralph examines the emotional turmoil that follows infidelity, focusing on the psychological effects on those who have been wronged. The discussion highlights betrayal, trust issues, and psychological disorders, offering an in-depth look at dysfunctional relationships.

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Why Would She Cheat And Go To Such Extremes To Hurt Me?!

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A husband writes in with a heartbreaking and outrageous story: after 16 years of marriage and raising six boys together, his wife gave him an ultimatum — “Open marriage or no marriage.” She claims to be polyamorous and bisexual… and already has a boyfriend she’s in love with. Now she expects her husband to accept it — even while the boyfriend sleeps with her in their own marital bed. In this episode of Dear DSO, Ralph (Dad Starting Over) breaks down the emotional chaos, what’s really happening behind the scenes, and what this man — and others in similar situations — need to do next. 🧠 Topics Covered: Open marriages and polyamory Betrayal trauma and denial Emotional manipulation in relationships What healthy boundaries actually look like Why men must take back control of their life Join The HFM Brotherhood!…

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A reader sent me an email with some harsh feedback—he says my book is BS because by the time a man picks it up, his marriage is already doomed. He’s frustrated, resentful, and exhausted from trying everything, and he doesn’t believe any change in him will ever fix his wife’s lack of desire. Is he right? Or is he missing something deeper? Join The HFM Brotherhood!…

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A man reached out with a tough confession: after years of a sexless marriage, he turned to porn—and now he feels trapped. He says he's addicted, his wife ignores the problem, and if she knew the full extent of it, she’d leave. He feels ashamed, lost, and desperate for an answer. "But is porn really the issue here? Or is it just a symptom of a much bigger problem?" Join The HFM Brotherhood!…

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Jennifer writes into to share the story of her OCD husband's super cleaning habits, and how she doesn't feel like it "counts" as helping out like "normal" guys do... because her husband's cleaning is an artifact of his disorder. I, like most men, will determine that her opinion on the value of his help is determined by how much he is suffering in the process. No, Jennifer... this was not a good thing. Join The HFM Brotherhood!…

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A follower reaches out to tell the story of his very chaotic and dysfunctional relationship. Like most, he had many opportunities to make a course correction, but he kept choosing the wrong turn each time. Cheating, divorce, dead bedroom, getting back together, more dead bedroom... It's not good! Join the HFM Brotherhood…

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A follower reaches out with a story that no man wants to hear: His wife told him that he wasn't big enough. To add insult to injury, she compared him to a much bigger ex-lover. Ouch. Why on earth would a wife say that to a husband?! Let's talk about it. Join the HFM Brotherhood!

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Our pal "Wordsmith" is back with a new "Dear DSO" submission (https://deardso.com). He's perplexed by his soon-to-be ex-wife's erratic behavior. Why is she doing these things? Why is she suddenly liking and not liking certain things? Why is she hot and then cold? Very common questions! We also go into Wordsmith's difficulties with handling the stress of the split and his loneliness. Hang in there, Wordsmith! We're here for you. Join The HFM Brotherhood!…

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From a DSO Live Stream, Ralph reacts to a follower saying that he has to lie to women about his kid situation in order to get dates. Guys, we have to stop lying to just get women. It's not doing anybody any good. It shows your level of desperation and scarcity when it comes to relationships, and it flat out doesn't work in the long run. Join the HFM Brotherhood!…

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Ralph gets a "Dear DSO" submission for a guy named Joe... and it's a doozy! Listen to Joe's story and how one big, important life decision (taking his mentally ill ex-girlfriend back) derailed his entire life. This one is not for the faint of heart! Join the HFM Brotherhood!

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For those who watch a lot of DSO videos and listen to the podcast, you have probably heard me mention the name "Wordsmith" more than a few times. Wordsmith is a follower who has written in to Dear DSO quite a bit, as well as commenting on live streams. After years, Wordsmith has finally taken time to sit and chat about his situation and where things have led him (hint: Divorce). This is a good one! Join the HFM Brotherhood! The Dead Bedroom Fix Video Course…

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Here are the most-asked questions I received in 2024. Thanks to all of you reached out to me, purchased a book, signed up for coaching, or signed up for our men's group (The HFM Brotherhood). Love all you guys, and I wish you the best for 2025! Join the HFM Brotherhood!

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Ralph addresses a common dilemma faced by many men undergoing relationship challenges; the question of whether and how to "get your wife back" after a separation. Using a listener's question as a springboard, Ralph dives into the complexities of attempting to reconcile when a significant other leaves. Throughout the discussion, he examines various relationship advice trends and the psychological dynamics that often underlie such situations. Join The HFM Brotherhood…

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Ralph delves into a thought-provoking discussion prompted by a listener named Paula, who challenges his advice that men should wait three years before marrying a woman. Ralph explores the complexities of relationship timelines, contrasting perspectives, and biological constraints, offering a nuanced view on navigating modern relationships. This episode provides listeners with a comprehensive look at both societal expectations and the natural aspects influencing relationship decisions. Ralph argues that while some women expect men to propose within six months, a thorough understanding of a partner requires more time. He underscores the importance of observing partners through various life stages over a period of three years for a more reliable assessment of compatibility. By using SEO keywords like "relationship timelines," "biological clock," and "marriage advice," Ralph addresses Paula's concerns regarding family planning, emphasizing the physiological realities women face with age. His insights encourage both men and women to approach marriage with patience and awareness, balancing desires for family life with the authentic knowledge of their partners. Join the HFM Brotherhood!…

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This episode of "Dear DSO" addresses a common couple's issue: reduced sexual intimacy. Ralph shares a letter from Jack, a 40-year-old struggling with a near-nonexistent sex life in his 10-year marriage. Jack notes that he and his wife have been intimate five times in five years. Despite his efforts to spark romance, his wife remains uninterested, which strains their relationship. Ralph examines the complexity of sexless marriages, focusing on Jack’s situation and suggesting practical solutions. He considers psychological reasons for Jack's wife's lack of interest, like childhood influences and parental marriage dynamics. Ralph recommends open communication between Jack and his wife to determine if they should attempt to reconnect or explore co-parenting separately. The episode provides insights into relationship dynamics and mentions Ralph's professional support services, including his book and private group for men with similar issues. Join the HFM Brotherhood!…

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In the latest episode of 'Dear DSO,' Ralph responds to a question from a participant called "Wordsmith." Wordsmith compares the decline of workplace wages to the decrease of intimacy in relationships, questioning why some women expect their partners to stay in a sexless marriage indefinitely. Ralph takes this opportunity to discuss relationship challenges, comparing professional and personal commitments. Join the HFM Brotherhood!…

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Dear DSO: "I Feel Like My Wife is Just Using Me in Bed! There's No Connection!" 16:26

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A follower reaches out and shares the typical "anxious man/avoidant wife" scenario we hear about so often, but this time with one twist: His wife does seem to want sex, but it's only in an apparent attempt to get her sexual need met. There's no connection with him, at all. She seems very much disconnected emotionally from him and doesn't seem interested in fixing the problem. Join the HFM Brotherhood!…

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DSO Reacts - Sadia Khan Dropping Truth Bombs About Women and Cheating! 20:22

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A lot of people have been sending me the link to a video interview between Sadia Khan and Matthew Hussey. In this episode of DSO Reacts, I break down a couple of points that Sadia makes about women and cheating, and give my two cents (hint: I agree). Join The HFM Brotherhood!

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Dear DSO: "Why Are Women So Mad When Men Relax?!" 11:17

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In this episode of Dear DSO, Ralph discusses the topic of how men relax and how women perceive it. This subject was brought up by a contributor named Mr. Wordsmith 380. Ralph talks about why women might find men's leisure activities, especially when they're alone, annoying or misunderstood. He looks at the habits of male relaxation and how society views gender roles. Ralph explains that men tend to separate different parts of their lives, which allows them to enjoy doing nothing or being in a meditative state. This approach can be confusing to women, who often see things as more connected. The episode offers insights for those interested in better understanding and improving communication and relationships between genders. Join the HFM Brotherhood!…

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A Follow-Up To The "Scarcity" Video (from a live stream event) 11:31

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Ralph examines the psychology behind men's perceived scarcity in the dating world and its effect on their interactions with women. He looks at how this mindset influences their reactions to women's choices, whether it's about promiscuity or opting out of dating entirely. Ralph uses real examples and hypothetical scenarios to show how these dynamics work and offers strategies for men to deal with feelings of scarcity. Ralph says many men feel they have limited options in relationships due to self-perceived inadequacies like looks, money, or social status. This sense of scarcity leads to heightened emotional reactions to women's behaviors, such as choosing to remain single or being sexually promiscuous. By addressing these reactions, Ralph wants to help men understand that these responses come from their internal fears and insecurities, not from the women's actions. In the end, Ralph stresses the importance of recognizing personal red flags and spotting potential issues early on. He provides practical advice for men to find compatible partners by matching their social environments with their interests and values. Ralph also critiques the overly progressive view that past promiscuity has no impact on future relationship stability, advocating for a balanced perspective. Join The HFM Brotherhood!…

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