157. Transform Communication Anxiety in 5 Simple Steps

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All About Change

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How do we build an inclusive world? Hear intimate and in-depth conversations with changemakers on disability rights, youth mental health advocacy, prison reform, grassroots activism, and more. First-hand stories about activism, change, and courage from people who are changing the world: from how a teen mom became the Planned Parenthood CEO, to NBA player Kevin Love on mental health in professional sports, to Beetlejuice actress Geena Davis on Hollywood’s role in women’s rights. All About Change is hosted by Jay Ruderman, whose life’s work is seeking social justice and inclusion for people with disabilities worldwide. Join Jay as he interviews iconic guests who have gone through adversity and harnessed their experiences to better the world. This show ultimately offers the message of hope that we need to keep going. All About Change is a production of the Ruderman Family Foundation. Listen and subscribe to All About Change wherever you get podcasts. https://allaboutchangepodcast.com/

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From grounding yourself through mindful breathing to visualizing more positive interactions, Alejandra shares tools that calm the nervous system and build confidence. She reminds us of the power of preparation—having thoughtful topics or questions ready can turn an anxious conversation into a connecting moment. This episode is an invitation to approach communication with more ease and compassion. You can transform your communication anxiety, and if you use these steps as a practice, you will decrease your communication anxiety over time. What could change for you if you practiced these steps?

Quotes

“Confidence is the antidote to anxiety. And, by the way, the etymology of the word confidence is ‘to have faith.’ In this case, it means to have faith in your ability to talk to others with clarity, with presence, with kindness, with strength.” (05:07 | Alejandra Siroka)
“When we breathe into the belly center, our voice comes from that area down below instead of coming from the throat area. And when our voice originates in the belly, it is stronger, more resonant, more confident.” (08:08 | Alejandra Siroka)
“Anxiety is not innovative. When we have anxiety, we view in our mind’s eye something that has already occurred in the past.” (09:13 | Alejandra Siroka)
“Thinking of others helps us decrease anxiety because anxious thoughts are usually about us, our performance, our abilities, and how we may be seen by others in negative ways.” (13:01 | Alejandra Siroka)
“Even in situations when people experienced a lot of trauma, if you ask questions about sweet and funny memories when they were kids, you will find surprising answers and connecting conversations.” (15:05 | Alejandra Siroka)

Links

To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366

To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706

To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme

To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com

To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion

To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone

To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples

To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient

To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy

Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD

Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

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157. Transform Communication Anxiety in 5 Simple Steps

The Language Alchemy Podcast

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Quotes

“Confidence is the antidote to anxiety. And, by the way, the etymology of the word confidence is ‘to have faith.’ In this case, it means to have faith in your ability to talk to others with clarity, with presence, with kindness, with strength.” (05:07 | Alejandra Siroka)
“When we breathe into the belly center, our voice comes from that area down below instead of coming from the throat area. And when our voice originates in the belly, it is stronger, more resonant, more confident.” (08:08 | Alejandra Siroka)
“Anxiety is not innovative. When we have anxiety, we view in our mind’s eye something that has already occurred in the past.” (09:13 | Alejandra Siroka)
“Thinking of others helps us decrease anxiety because anxious thoughts are usually about us, our performance, our abilities, and how we may be seen by others in negative ways.” (13:01 | Alejandra Siroka)
“Even in situations when people experienced a lot of trauma, if you ask questions about sweet and funny memories when they were kids, you will find surprising answers and connecting conversations.” (15:05 | Alejandra Siroka)

Links

To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366

To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706

To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme

To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com

To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion

To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone

To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples

To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient

To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy

Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD

Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

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166. From Silence to Bravery: Rowena Chiu’s Harvey Weinstein Sexual Assault Story 41:43

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Rowena Chiu spent 20 years unable to speak about her sexual assault after signing an NDA. Now, she’s using her voice to challenge power and change how we talk about trauma, truth, and legacy. Joining Alejandra Siroka in this episode, Rowena reflects on the cultural silence she grew up with as the daughter of Chinese immigrants, and how emotional scarcity and obedience shaped her response to assault. As a former assistant to Harvey Weinstein, she was coerced into signing a non-disclosure agreement that kept her silent for two decades. That silence was compounded by a culture that didn’t talk about sex, power, or emotional needs. Together, Rowena and Alejandra examine what it means to leave a communication legacy for our children—one that makes space for difficult conversations about mental health, sexual assault, and personal boundaries. Rowena speaks openly about how she reclaimed her voice, why advocacy became part of her healing, and how power dynamics show up in everyday life. This episode is a reminder that silence isn’t always chosen, and that breaking it can be an act of justice, healing, and love. Quotes “Nobody in Asian culture talks about sex. We don’t talk about sex at all, let alone in the context of sexual assault.” (06:47 | Rowena Chiu) “Power is not given to us as a right, each of us, even if you are the king of England, it is not given to you as a right to abuse.” (24:49 | Rowena Chiu) “Any abuse of power, no matter how benign, in its own way is a violence.” (25:31 | Rowena Chiu) “This is not just about telling a factual story of what happened to me as a young woman, but we’ve really been propelled into a social justice fight. The more you dig under the surface of this fight, the more fundamental and basic it is. It’s really about elevating those that cannot communicate.” (28:53 | Rowena Chiu) “I think that one of the deeply important communication legacy is the ability to normalize difficult conversations.” (32:46 | Rowena Chiu) Links Find Rowena Chiu on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Rowena-Chiu-for-School-Board/61564076595785/?_rdr , Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chiu_rowena/?hl=en To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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165. Finding Your Voice After Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Survivor’s Journey Through the 4 Stages of Healing. Interview with Leila Reyes 39:39

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Speaking up can feel impossible when shame has kept you silent for so long. But what if finding your voice was the key to healing? Alejandra Siroka sits down with Leila Reyes, a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, to talk about the power of communication in the healing process. Leila shares her journey of confronting her past, reclaiming her voice, and choosing to speak out even when it felt terrifying. How does shame take root in silence? Why do so many survivors of sexual abuse struggle to ask for help? Leila explains how unspoken trauma shapes self-worth and relationships, making it harder to seek support. She also offers a path forward, showing how speaking about painful experiences, whether in therapy, coaching, or personal reflection, can shift the way we see ourselves and the world. Alejandra and Leila also talk about the differences between therapy and coaching, to understand which kind of support might be right when. Therapy focuses on processing past trauma, while coaching helps create a path toward personal growth. Knowing when and how to ask for help can open new doors to healing. This episode is a reminder that healing doesn’t happen in isolation. Words have the power to free us, and finding the courage to speak, even in small ways, can be the first step toward breaking shame’s hold. Quotes “It’s not the abuse that’s causing the problem today. It’s your interpretation of the abuse. It’s the meaning that you make about the abuse.” (23:35 | Leila Reyes) “If you want to have a different experience, then ask for support. And then you’ll also be the source of being supported.” (24:25 | Leila Reyes) “And I’m going to tell you, to be living in a world where I know my inherent value, to be free of the beliefs and the thoughts that I had and the ways of showing up in the world, the ways of relating to people, it’s worth the journey.” (29:22 | Leila Reyes) “We need to have compassion for the part of us that went through that experience and the choices that we made even throughout our lives without the awareness that we were living from that interpretation.” (33:41 | Leila Reyes) “Shame lives in secrecy, shame lives inside of our bodies, then the way that we can get free of shame is to speak it out loud.” (34:54 | Leila Reyes) Links Connect with Leila Reyes: https://leilareyes.com/ Freedom from Shame Book: https://www.amazon.com/Freedom-Shame-Trauma-Forgiveness-Healing/dp/1961347458?crid=2M8Y7ROPA2XAL&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ZOT7xTbIuKBtna0cK6upPWjhuEp9HXCbhR_lTfEHgw15vHfZqpl9c2dRKMBUvbCQjn87R7QZ5a_Y58GcxkRhp0vaX80gyANUTdZflOjaO6ouzbdJT4Cdau1RYrisJFB8QSErM_n-PNnonTxvRLQrP0rrW8vEhrfJ-mwDWwsOhpcLSMReJWERVSfISH-2ppTREnXvu4QzINpkUZcHaOb8x204kYsADESSzj5ESlMArAQ.oEzj_yZ2iF08reScmR2r1aw3FHVUcno_QMKFwHn3OfA&dib_tag=se&keywords=leila+reyes+freedom&qid=1713215530&sprefix=,aps,142&sr=8-1&linkCode=sl1&tag=leilareyes0a-20&linkId=f619b77aeadf8c6be794b04919c99020&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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164. Rekindling Self-Love in Uncertain Times: 6 Communication Practices for Emotional Resilience 20:53

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Heartbreak with life is real, but the way back is through truth, presence, and radical love. When the world feels heavy, how do we hold onto love for life, for ourselves, and for each other? Alejandra Siroka breaks it down with three simple but powerful ways to lean into love. Grounding in the present helps quiet fear. Practicing radical tenderness is an act of strength. Serving others restores a sense of purpose. But what about the moments when love for life starts slipping away? Alejandra shares three practices to keep that connection alive. Expressing emotions in safe spaces prevents the weight of unspoken feelings. Building a gratitude practice shifts perspective. Finding true community creates real belonging. In this episode, Alejandra reminds us that even in difficult times, love isn’t something we have to wait for. It is something we choose every day. Quotes “We are collectively experiencing a heartbreak with life and reality. And as I see it, we stand at a crossroads. We can either succumb to these feelings, engaging in self-sabotaging behaviors and surrendering to depression, anxiety, and fear, or we can undertake the noble, albeit challenging, work of rekindling our love for life and our love for ourselves.” (02:45 | Alejandra Siroka) “When we anchor ourselves in the now, we reclaim our power from imagined future fears or traumatic moments in the past.” (06:25 | Alejandra Siroka) “This tenderness isn't a weakness. It takes tremendous courage because it is choosing love instead of feeding fear.” (09:08 | Alejandra Siroka) “A lot can change if you allow yourself to speak what’s true. A lot can heal if you trust others with your vulnerability.” (12:11 | Alejandra Siroka) “Your feelings deserve to be heard, to be witnessed. Your truth deserves to be spoken.” (12:34 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on Instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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163. Stop Rehashing Conversations in Your Head. Do this 6-step Practice Instead 17:22

6 weeks önce17:22

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The way we communicate isn’t just about what we say. It’s about the courage to ask how our words land and the impact they leave behind. Alejandra Siroka explores the power of checking in on the impact of our words, not to seek validation, but to show care and build trust. She shares a personal story about a conversation with a friend, whose intentional follow-up turned a potentially difficult discussion into a moment of deeper understanding. Through this, Alejandra reveals how a willingness to ask, ‘How did my words land with you?’ can transform the way we communicate. This episode introduces the “Impact Check-in Practice,” a six-step approach designed to help you create a safe space for honest dialogue, listen without defensiveness, and express genuine care. Alejandra breaks it down into practical steps you can apply in conversations with friends, colleagues, and even those who see the world differently. Alejandra leaves listeners with a challenge: reach out to three people you’ve had meaningful conversations with and check in on how your words affected them. The goal isn’t to be perfect. It’s to open the door for real connection, growth, and understanding. Quotes “One of the most profound acts of love we can offer another person is to circle back with them and ask, ‘How did my words impact you?’” (01:39 | Alejandra Siroka) “Checking in about our impact is a form of love, of communicating love out loud.” (02:14 | Alejandra Siroka) “This practice isn’t about being perfect or about receiving validation. It’s about being present, about creating a deeper sense of connection and being committed to growing as a conscious human being.” (11:22 | Alejandra Siroka) “Every time you check in about impact, you’re not just building stronger relationships. You are contributing to a more empathic and understanding world.” (15:57 | Alejandra Siroka) Links Impact Check In Free Reference Guide: LanguageAlchemy.com/impactcheckin To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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162. 312, A Useful Practice When You Get Reactive 32:33

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“It takes really an amazing amount of sort of infusing the whole system of the self and the mindstream with compassion to actually be curious about the ways that we are in the world,” says Kelly Blaser, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of Dharma Bridge and Soma Psychotherapy. In this episode, Kelly joins Alejandra Siroka to explore how compassionate self-inquiry can help us uncover the deeper layers of who we are. What happens when we stop running from discomfort and instead meet ourselves with curiosity? Kelly shares her 312 practice, a simple and useful tool to interrupt self-critical voices and invite a more compassionate inner dialogue. Through relatable examples and insights, Kelly invites us to consider: How much of our identity is shaped by old stories, and how can we begin to loosen their grip? Join Kelly and Alejandra’s conversation to get gentle guidance for navigating anxiety, self-judgment, and the moments of stillness where healing begins. Quotes “It takes really an amazing amount of sort of infusing the whole system of the self and the mindstream with compassion to actually be curious about the ways that we are in the world.” (06:22 | Kelly Blaser) “My teacher used to say, ‘You are not a monolith. You think you’re a monolith. You’re not a monolith.’ We’re actually composed of distinct personalities. She originally called it subpersonalities. She doesn’t use that language anymore. If you see a part of yourself arise that’s reactive, that is experiencing shame, that is experiencing some kind of suffering, then it’s very helpful to have a way to distance yourself from that part without bypassing that part.” (14:59 | Kelly Blaser) “What this practice is really the best at doing is interrupting ruminative, self-critical voices. So then when you think about a person who acts out in a big way and what is the moment where they’re most likely to be in ruminative, self-critical voices, it’s probably not while the tension is building prior to the explosion. It’s probably afterwards.” (18:45 | Kelly Blaser) “Witness consciousness can help because then it takes away some of the barriers to feeling because we don’t take it so seriously if we can see ourselves from the outside. And so, then, we can kind of inquire, what does it feel like in this body? What’s circulating around here?” (26:06 | Kelly Blaser) Links Connect with Kelly Blaser: Dharma Bridge https://dharmabridge.net/ Kelly Blaser https://kellyblaser.com/ Soma Psychotherapy https://www.somapsychotherapy.com/yoga 2025 Power of Meditation Summit: https://kelly-blaser.mykajabi.com/a/2148010679/zBQLdFd8 To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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161. Safety and Connection: The Heart of Every Relationship 19:43

10 weeks önce19:43

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“Connection is present in a relationship when we feel accepted as we are.” What makes relationships thrive? In this episode, Alejandra Siroka shares the two values she believes are at the heart of every meaningful relationship: safety and connection. Drawing from her personal experiences and years of coaching, Alejandra shows us how these values shape the way we interact and build trust with others. Alejandra shares a childhood story that points out how connection can repair even the most tender moments of conflict. What does it mean to feel safe in a relationship? She explains that safety goes beyond physical security, touching on emotional and cultural freedom, while connection fulfills our deep human need to belong and feel understood. Through relatable examples, Alejandra explores how these values show up differently for everyone. Why do some people crave reassurance while others withdraw under pressure? Understanding your primary relational value can unlock more harmonious, long-lasting and authentic relationships. Alejandra offers practical tools to reflect on your core values and begin transforming your communication patterns. This episode is an invitation to approach yourself and others with more compassion. Tune in to discover how safety and connection can nurture relationships that truly feel alive. Quotes “Safety and connection are the primary colors from which all other relational values are painted.” (05:33 | Alejandra Siroka) “In essence, when we talk about safety in relationships, we talk about the freedom to move, be, and express ourselves without having to protect any aspect of ourselves from the other person.” (06:59 | Alejandra Siroka) “Connection is present in the joy we feel when someone truly gets us, in the comfort of feeling listened to, in the delight we experience when someone celebrates us or something that is important to us.” (07:26 | Alejandra Siroka) “Once the couples I coach understand their partner’s primary core relational value, they uncover a whole new way of seeing, understanding, and communicating with their partners.” (13:42 | Alejandra Siroka) “If someone feels unsafe or disconnected from you, remember that 99% of the time, it’s not about you. It’s about their past experiences and learned responses that have become communication patterns.” (17:55 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion Group Coaching: https://www.languagealchemy.com/groupcoaching To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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160. 4 Essential Ingredients in Healthy Relationship 18:54

12 weeks önce18:54

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Healthy relationships start with honest conversations, mutual respect, and the courage to share what matters most. In this episode, Alejandra Siroka shares four insights for healthier relationships, and offers tools to help us deepen our connections in the year ahead. What does it mean to truly reveal your inner experience—your feelings, values, and needs—to those you care about? Alejandra shares a relatable story of a couple stuck in surface-level conversations, using it to point out how vulnerability and open communication can bring people closer. She talks about the core values of safety and connection, and shows us how these create the foundation for trust and understanding. Do you know how to set boundaries in a way that strengthens your relationships? Alejandra explains how clear and respectful boundaries not only protect your well-being but also invite authenticity and respect from others. She reminds us that healthy relationships require generosity: the ability to give what we ask for—whether it’s listening with presence, acknowledgment, or respect for boundaries. If this episode resonates in your heart and you’re longing for more meaningful connections, Alejandra invites you to her Healthy Relationships Vision Workshop. Learn more at languagealchemy.com/vision . Quotes “If you want to have a healthy relationship with the closest people in your life, you have to, number one, learn to reveal what’s in your heart. You need to be able to share your feelings, your values, your wishes, and your needs.” (04:52 | Alejandra Siroka) “If you want to have healthy relationships, you need to be able to be direct and explicit about your inner experience.” (06:19 | Alejandra Siroka) “Healthy relationships rest on the foundation of two core relational values: safety and connection. To be able to share your inner experience with someone else, you need to feel safe to talk about it. And you need to experience a deeper sense of connection after you have revealed your inner experience.” (06:39 | Alejandra Siroka) “There is no healthy relationship without healthy boundaries.” (10:17 | Alejandra Siroka) “Authentic conscious communication means moving beyond the surface to share what’s really alive in your heart and mind.” (16:34 | Alejandra Siroka) Links Healthy Relationships Vision Workshop: https://www.languagealchemy.com/vision To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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159. Key Communication Skills for a Happy Marriage 33:57

14 weeks önce33:57

33:57

“I think both of us have had moments where the angel on our shoulder, or our internal dialogue, is literally Alejandra’s voice. Like, ‘What would she want us to do in this scenario? What would she want me to do in this scenario? Would she be proud of how I handled that really difficult situation?’ When I was feeling all my emotions—when I felt wronged, misunderstood, or at the height of my anger, sadness, or frustration—how did it actually present to my partner?” shares Danyelle Pollock, as she reflects on the intentional work it takes to grow together in a relationship. In this episode, Alejandra Siroka sits down with Danyelle and Tristan Pollock, who share their insights on how to grow in your marriage and thrive in your relationship through conscious communication. They talk about overcoming patterns shaped by their past, finding tools to navigate conflicts, and building stronger connections through shared understanding. What does it take to turn disagreements into opportunities for growth? How do you support each other while honoring your individual needs? From their early days of dating to their experience as parents and world travelers, Danyelle and Tristan show us how intentional communication has become a cornerstone of their relationship. Their story offers invaluable lessons for couples looking to deepen their connection while navigating the challenges of life together. Quotes “We had to really double-click on how each other were feeling, and that it’s okay to be upset. It’s okay to have conflict... We really had to learn that disagreements are okay, and it’s how we learn and we grow together. It’s how we start to understand each other on a deeper level.” (08:50 | Danyelle Pollock) “Parenting… also gets you a lot of practice before it starts to get to a point where [our daughter’s] a teenager and you need to be extra cautious on how you’re hearing her and acknowledging her. And so, I think it’s been great work for us because when we started acknowledging how she felt instead of trying to solve it immediately, if she was sad or upset, we’d say, ‘Oh, so you want to do this?’ And then she’d be like, ‘Yeah,’ and it would almost stop her sadness instantly because she just felt heard. She felt like we knew what she was saying; we understood.” (22:48 | Tristan Pollock) “I feel like mistakes are inevitable. It’s just more of a commitment to growth and being able to share how you would have liked to do it. And next time, hopefully it goes better. Mistakes happen. Being open-minded and lessening judgment is one of the values. We have four values up on our fridge that we’re trying to use as a general guideline as we're building a family and how we want to think about things, and I think that’s the big one too. We’re here because we want to be, and we want to be better.” (26:04 | Tristan Pollock) “I think both of us have had moments where the angel on our shoulder, or our internal dialogue, is literally Alejandra’s voice. Like, what would she want us to do in this scenario? What would she want me to do in this scenario? Would she be proud of how I handled that really difficult situation? When I was feeling all my emotions—when I felt wronged, misunderstood, or at the height of my anger, sadness, or frustration—how did it actually present to my partner?” (26:46 | Danyelle Pollock) Links Connect with Danyelle & Tristan Pollock: https://www.tristanpollock.com/ https://www.heywedidthat.com/ Apply for the Language Alchemy Group Coaching Program: LanguageAlchemy.com/groupcoaching To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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158. 7 Tips to Talk About Politics with Family During the Holidays 17:30

16 weeks önce17:30

17:30

“If we keep avoiding difficult topics, how are we going to learn to address them?” Alejandra Siroka poses this question with urgency and clarity. She reminds us that “having different political views is not a problem. In fact, it is healthy to have people who see the world, the problems of the world, and the potential solutions in multiple ways.” In this episode, Alejandra shares practical advice on fostering healthy conversations about politics with family members. What happens when a holiday gathering feels overshadowed by divisive topics? Can we bridge the gap without compromising connection? She believes it’s possible—and even essential. Alejandra offers tools to help turn conflict into connection, starting with checking your intentions and focusing on shared values. Small, intentional “micro conversations” can plant seeds for understanding over time, while skillful disagreement opens the door for mutual respect. Alejandra also encourages embracing the uncertainty of unresolved issues, reframing these discussions as opportunities to grow together. With warmth and wisdom, Alejandra challenges us to remember the humanity we share with those we love, even when opinions differ. Tune in to learn actionable tips for transforming tense family discussions into moments of connection and mutual understanding. Quotes “Intentions are the foundation of relational communication. Agendas are the foundation of transactional communication, and they lead us to divisiveness.” (05:02 | Alejandra Siroka) “When talking about politics, it’s super important that you are explicit about your intention. When you communicate your intention out loud, that serves as both the foundation to ground your conversation and also as its north star to determine the direction of the conversation.” (06:00 | Alejandra Siroka) “It is not only okay to have different opinions and views and be able to talk about them; it is useful and beneficial. But we get in trouble when we disagree unskillfully.” (10:17 | Alejandra Siroka) “All human beings want to feel safe, loved, accepted, and valued. You want that and your relative wants that, too. And even though you may disagree on how to go about getting your human needs met or your values fulfilled, you are both humans sharing a life and space.” (14:32 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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157. Transform Communication Anxiety in 5 Simple Steps 17:50

18 weeks önce17:50

17:50

“Anxiety is a common human experience,” says Alejandra Siroka, as she shines a light on communication anxiety—something many of us face, especially during the holidays or in tense social situations. How can we speak with clarity and confidence when nerves take over? In this episode, Alejandra offers five simple steps to help shift the dynamic. From grounding yourself through mindful breathing to visualizing more positive interactions, Alejandra shares tools that calm the nervous system and build confidence. She reminds us of the power of preparation—having thoughtful topics or questions ready can turn an anxious conversation into a connecting moment. This episode is an invitation to approach communication with more ease and compassion. You can transform your communication anxiety, and if you use these steps as a practice, you will decrease your communication anxiety over time. What could change for you if you practiced these steps? Quotes “Confidence is the antidote to anxiety. And, by the way, the etymology of the word confidence is ‘to have faith.’ In this case, it means to have faith in your ability to talk to others with clarity, with presence, with kindness, with strength.” (05:07 | Alejandra Siroka) “When we breathe into the belly center, our voice comes from that area down below instead of coming from the throat area. And when our voice originates in the belly, it is stronger, more resonant, more confident.” (08:08 | Alejandra Siroka) “Anxiety is not innovative. When we have anxiety, we view in our mind’s eye something that has already occurred in the past.” (09:13 | Alejandra Siroka) “Thinking of others helps us decrease anxiety because anxious thoughts are usually about us, our performance, our abilities, and how we may be seen by others in negative ways.” (13:01 | Alejandra Siroka) “Even in situations when people experienced a lot of trauma, if you ask questions about sweet and funny memories when they were kids, you will find surprising answers and connecting conversations.” (15:05 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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156. The War in Gaza: How 2 Friends, an Arab American and an Israeli American Found Common Ground Despite Their Different Views Part 2 26:49

20 weeks önce26:49

26:49

“The Jews aren’t going anywhere. The Palestinians aren’t going anywhere. They’re either going to live there side-by-side fighting forever, or they’re going to live side-by-side in peace somehow.” In this episode, Alejandra Siroka continues her conversation with Kawthar Duncan and Noam Szoke—two friends whose backgrounds might suggest they’d be on opposite sides of the debate. How do you sustain a friendship when the world around you seems divided? Through open dialogue and genuine care, Kawthar and Noam share how they’ve navigated the emotional complexities of the ongoing conflict in Gaza while maintaining a strong connection. What does it take to truly listen to someone with a different perspective? How can friendships thrive amid geopolitical tensions? Kawthar and Noam’s story shows us the power of empathy and mutual understanding, and reminds us that it’s possible to find common ground even in the most challenging circumstances. Quotes “We could process it together. And that’s really what we’ve been doing this year is when we get together, we basically share our grief with each other. No need for comparison or hierarchies. Grief is grief.” (09:46 | Noam Szoke) “I feel a lot of grief for Gaza... I don’t feel that grief for just Palestinians. I feel it for the Israelis. I feel it for the Ukrainians... I don’t want to see it in our world. I don’t want my kids to have it in their lifetime.” (11:16 | Kawthar Duncan) “The Jews aren’t going anywhere. The Palestinians aren’t going anywhere. They’re either going to live there side-by-side fighting forever, or they’re going to live side-by-side in peace somehow.” (22:23 | Noam Szoke) “Listening to understand. It’s not listening to be understood. Going into any conversation with people of different backgrounds... it’s just listening to understand.” (23:28 | Kawthar Duncan) Links Organizations Noam mentioned: Standing Together: https://www.standing-together.org/en Combatants for Peace: https://cfpeace.org/ Bereaved Families Forum: https://www.progressiveisrael.org/the-bereaved-parents-circle-parents-circle-families-forum/ Choosing True Connection Online Course: https://www.languagealchemy.com/enroll To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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155. The War in Gaza: How 2 Friends, an Arab American and an Israeli American Found Common Ground Despite Their Different Views 27:37

22 weeks önce27:37

27:37

“I wouldn’t go by Kawthar because I didn’t want people to know I was Arab American or I was different. I wanted to be as American as possible and felt like I always needed to say I was patriotic. It took almost a decade for me to get to a place where I was like, ‘No, I’m proud of my parents. I’m proud of what they did to bring me here,’” shares Kawthar Duncan, opening up about the internal struggle she faced growing up. In this episode, Alejandra Siroka brings together Kawthar, an Arab American immigrant, and Noam Szoke, an Israeli American immigrant, to show how two people from different origins—and historically opposing backgrounds—found refuge in their friendship. What does it mean to connect with someone whose life experiences seem so different from your own? Kawthar and Noam share how they built a meaningful friendship through honesty, shared experiences of immigration, and the willingness to confront cultural stereotypes together. Their conversation reveals the discomfort of facing prejudice—whether Islamophobia or anti-Semitism—and the unexpected bond these discussions created. How do friendships like theirs offer hope in a divided world? As they reflect on their relationship, they offer a powerful example of how genuine dialogue can bridge even the deepest divides, and fosters understanding and connection across cultural barriers. This episode challenges us to consider the transformative power of friendship in overcoming differences and creating lasting empathy, even in the most challenging of circumstances. Quotes “I’ve been fortunate to not experience any kind of overt anti-Semitism in my life. Kawthar has experienced Islamophobia, as it’s called, in hers that had a big impact on me.” (08:42 | Noam Szoke) “One of the things I remember very clearly my father told me that always impacted me was him saying, the Arabs are our cousins. And so, Kawthar and I started calling each other ‘cousin.’” (09:20 | Noam Szoke) “Post-9/11, it was just very different to be an immigrant and to be a refugee and now to be an American citizen here in a place that is home. It is home for me, but others don’t see me as a person that belongs here, and that I’ve harmed this country, the generalization of it.” (11:39 | Kawthar Duncan) “I wouldn’t go by Kawthar because I didn’t want people to know I was Arab American or I was different. I wanted to be as American as possible and felt like I always needed to say I was patriotic. It took almost a decade for me to get to a place where I was like, ‘No, I’m proud of my parents. I’m proud of what they did to bring me here.’” (13:08 | Kawthar Duncan) Links Choosing True Connection Online Course: https://www.languagealchemy.com/enroll To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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154. How to Talk to Your In-laws When They Think Differently From You 35:58

24 weeks önce35:58

35:58

“Stop thinking about the differences. Try to find the similarities. Try to find the things you do feel similarly about. And don’t go trying to convince anybody else that your way is right. It’s obviously right for you. It may not even be right for them.” Dr. Ellen Siroka Robinson, a seasoned psychologist with decades of experience in family dynamics and Alejandra’s mother-in-law, gives heartfelt advice in this episode of The Language Alchemy. In a world where family gatherings often bring together different perspectives, beliefs, and cultures, Ellen and Alejandra offer a compassionate way to navigate those differences with grace. Ellen shares her thoughts on building relationships with in-laws who come from different backgrounds or hold opposing views. How can we focus on what connects us instead of what divides us? By letting go of the need to prove your point, Ellen suggests, you open the door to mutual respect and understanding, which are both essential for creating harmony in family dynamics. As Ellen and Alejandra vulnerably share how the two of them cultivated an adult loving relationship, they highlight the importance of intentional communication. Could it be that these differences, instead of being obstacles, are opportunities for deeper understanding? Their conversation is a reminder that when we listen and seek common ground, relationships have the potential to grow, even when beliefs or cultures don’t fully align. Quotes “I thought about all the mother-in-law jokes that we have in our culture, which are so negative and so disparaging. And why is it? Because we are afraid that whatever special relationship we have with our child is going to be disturbed in some way. We're not understanding that we have different kinds of love. We love our spouses in one way. We love our children in one way. We love our friends in one way.” (10:38 | Dr. Ellen Siroka Robinson) “Our relationship has also been a great gift to me. Gift often implies that you don’t do anything to get it, but that’s really not the case. I think you’ve said very clearly that we had a lot of work to do. And what was the work? I mean, you came from a different culture. I had to learn about the culture. The difference is to respect it and not ever see it as something less than, or than the culture I was raised in.” (12:50 | Dr. Ellen Siroka Robinson) “If somebody’s idea is, you think, in opposition to you, I think it’s more helpful just to think of it as a different idea, a very different idea, and not one that you’re probably going to talk them out of.” (23:05 | Dr. Ellen Siroka Robinson) “Stop thinking about the differences. Try to find the similarities. Try to find the things you do feel similarly about. And don’t go trying to convince anybody else that your way is right. It’s obviously right for you. It may not even be right for them.” (32:49 | Dr. Ellen Siroka Robinson) Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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153. How to Respond to Compliments 17:42

26 weeks önce17:42

17:42

“How can you respond to compliments skillfully? To respond skillfully, you need to be rooted in your own being,” Alejandra Siroka shares as she discusses the nature of receiving compliments. Many of us avoid or downplay praise because we feel uncomfortable. Why is that? While compliments are intended to express appreciation, they can sometimes feel like judgments, causing discomfort. Alejandra points out that our uneasiness may stem from past experiences, societal expectations, or even the dynamic between the person giving and receiving the compliment. Have you ever found yourself quickly returning a compliment, brushing it off, or downplaying it with self-deprecating humor? These are all signs of discomfort, and Alejandra explains how recognizing these patterns is the first step toward responding with greater confidence and ease. In this episode, Alejandra offers helpful advice on how to respond to compliments in a way that feels sincere and strengthens relationships. When we practice offering thoughtful responses, like expressing true gratitude or acknowledging the positive intent behind a compliment, it helps us become more comfortable accepting praise instead of avoiding it. Quotes “Compliments, praise, and even expressions of gratitude are usually positive remarks that communicate approval or admiration. When people say them out loud, they often hope the recipient will feel seen, valued, and good about themselves. However, even with the best of intentions, these remarks can sometimes elicit discomfort in the recipient for various reasons. If you feel uncomfortable receiving them and don’t know how to respond, you are not alone.” (04:04 | Alejandra Siroka) “How can you respond to compliments skillfully? To respond skillfully, you need to be rooted in your own being. That means having a deep understanding of yourself—your strengths, your abilities—while also being aware of your capacity to grow. The key is to have self-awareness without feeling arrogant or superior, but rather with a sense of healthy humility.” (13:01 | Alejandra Siroka) “If you notice that expressing or receiving gratitude or praise is something you struggle with, it can make it difficult to form a true sense of connection with the people with whom you want to have deep, close, or meaningful relationships.” (15:13 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To learn about Choosing True Connection Online Course, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/enroll To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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152. How Listeners Use the Podcast to Have Conscious Relationships 27:14

28 weeks önce27:14

27:14

“I do these podcasts for you, and it is really you—along with my commitment to providing transformative communication tools for free—that keeps me going,” says Alejandra Siroka. As the Language Alchemy podcast celebrates its third anniversary, Alejandra invites listeners to reflect on the impact the podcast has had on their lives and relationships. How has conscious communication helped you grow? This episode dives into those personal stories, showcasing how listeners have connected deeply with the content, using it as a tool for personal transformation. From clarifying the distinction between envy and jealousy to encouraging shifts in internal dialogue, listeners share their gratitude for the clarity and insights the podcast brings to emotionally complex topics. Alejandra’s sister Patricia reflects on how these teachings have helped her navigate difficult family dynamics by prompting her to examine emotions she once overlooked. Meanwhile, Shannon and Britt, past guests, describe how preparing for their episode strengthened their relationship, a testament to the podcast’s ability to foster deeper bonds. Listeners like Maria and Amber share their experiences with episodes on maintaining long-term relationships and overcoming negative thought patterns. Their stories highlight how the podcast serves as an ongoing resource for both personal growth and enhanced communication skills. What’s especially powerful is the ripple effect—many listeners talk about how the communication tools they’ve learned extend beyond their own lives, improving their relationships with friends and family. The episode highlights how Alejandra’s work is building a community of conscious communicators who uplift and support each other through life’s challenges. It’s a touching reminder of the lasting influence conscious communication can have on our lives, encouraging us all to continue growing and deepening our connections. Quotes “The distinction you made in this most recent podcast between envy and jealousy really hit home. It has truly changed the language I’m using... It really left a deep impression. It’s already started to change my language… It’s such a great example of the skillful use of language that’s so much a part of the fabric of what you do with the podcast. It’s why I’m a frequent listener and, I guess, a second-time caller.” (08:04 | Dazza) “Even as a queer person, I am always amazed at the level of—it’s beyond allyship—what you bring to the queer community and to the queer people in your life, Alejandra. That comes through on your podcast, and I don’t know if you even realize how important your contribution is. I hope others get to receive that because it’s really beautiful. It has meant a lot to us.” (13:05 | Shannon) “What I appreciate about it is that you really give people the opportunity to figure out how to speak, so they’re not just caught in that common feeling of, ‘Oh, I just don’t know what to say,’ or, ‘I can’t say it right, so I won’t say anything at all.’ You offer the words that are needed. And for me, it gives me a chance to think about what’s really important. So it’s both an internal support and a relational support.” (16:27 | Amber) Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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151. 10 Communication Tools to Use With Anxious People 23:52

30 weeks önce23:52

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“The first thing we’re going to do is to be more aware of what anxiety is and how it manifests in communication so that you can be better equipped with communication tools to connect with the wonderful people in your life who are going through anxiety,” says Alejandra Siroka. In this episode, Alejandra delves into how anxiety influences communication and relationships, especially in the aftermath of the global pandemic. Have you ever noticed how anxiety often appears as excessive fear or worry, leading to strained interactions with loved ones? Alejandra offers ten communication tools to help navigate these challenges, from self-awareness practices to verbal communication strategies. Her insights are all about building empathy and understanding, transforming difficult conversations into opportunities for deeper connections. By the end of the episode, you’ll feel more prepared to support those dealing with anxiety, armed with both skill and compassion. Quotes “We now know that anxiety can start as the result of a difficult environment. And we are all living in a difficult environment at this moment in the world with so much conflict, wars, suffering, political uncertainty, divisiveness, natural disasters, climate change, you name it.” (02:23 | Alejandra Siroka) “Language alchemy is about cultivating awareness. So, the first thing we’re going to do is to be more aware of what anxiety is and how it manifests in communication so that you can be better equipped with communication tools to connect with the wonderful people in your life who are going through anxiety.” (03:28 | Alejandra Siroka) “Communication depends on the context, on the relationship, and the intention. So, as you explore these tools, be aware of the conditions of the present moment, of the kind of relationship you have with the other person, and of your specific intentions.” (10:52 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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150. How to Answer Uncomfortable Questions 20:12

32 weeks önce20:12

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“Remember, you are safe. And when you remember that, that’s when you connect your choice to answer or not answer the question,” says Alejandra Siroka, as she guides us through addressing uncomfortable questions, a common challenge in communication—in this milestone episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast. Alejandra defines uncomfortable questions as those that cause discomfort due to their personal, intrusive, or judgmental nature. She categorizes these questions into four groups: those that feel too personal, those from close relations that carry judgment, socially biased questions, and everyday questions that may trigger discomfort based on the recipient’s current state. Alejandra emphasizes the importance of recognizing that you always have a choice in whether to answer these uncomfortable questions. She advises listeners to first ensure they feel safe and grounded before deciding how to respond. She offers practical strategies: acknowledging the question without answering it, responding with another question to understand the asker’s intent, or providing a sincere answer that reflects one’s true feelings and circumstances. Through these methods, Alejandra aims to empower listeners to respond to uncomfortable questions with authenticity, confidence, clarity, and compassion. As Alejandra celebrates three years of dedication to providing listeners with tools for conscious communication—enhancing personal growth and relationships—and the podcast’s 150th episode, she invites listeners to join her in marking this milestone with a free, one-hour online party on August 23rd. Join Alejandra as she celebrates this achievement, offering attendees the chance to win various giveaways, including one-on-one coaching sessions and spots in her exclusive programs. To sign up, go to: languagealchemy.com/podcastparty Quotes “When you receive these questions, remember that you have a choice. Yes, you have the choice to answer or not answer these questions. You’re an adult, and you get to decide. It’s important to remind yourself of this in the moment, especially when you feel uncomfortable, cornered, or pressured. Check your surroundings—why? Because you’re safe. The question may feel uncomfortable and elicit a sense of insecurity, but it will not harm you.” (09:12 | Alejandra Siroka) “Remember, you are safe. And when you remember that, that’s when you connect your choice to answer or not answer the question. Now, how do you know if you want to answer the question or not? To know whether you want to give a response or none at all, the most important thing you can do is to connect yourself and tune into what you are feeling.” (10:08 | Alejandra Siroka) “Something else you can do when you receive questions that feel uncomfortable is to give a sincere answer. To do this, you need to know the kind of relationship you have and want to have with the person asking the question. You also need to be aware of your internal state—your feelings, your emotions. Be mindful of your intention for answering the question and, finally, the context in which this interaction is happening. Being aware of all these factors is crucial; otherwise, your answer may be reactive, defensive, habitual, or unconscious—in other words, unhelpful.” (14:28 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To sign up for the free podcast party, go to: languagealchemy.com/podcastparty To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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149. The Language of Healing: Interview with Scott Blossom (Part 2) 25:53

34 weeks önce25:53

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Understanding and practicing conscious communication can transform personal relationships and foster holistic healing across physical, emotional, and social dimensions. In this episode, Alejandra Siroka continues her conversation with Scott Blossom, building on the insights shared in episode 148 to delve deeper into the language of healing. This episode explores the power of a shared language within families, revealing how open and honest communication can be a cornerstone of healing. Scott shares a 5-step communication process he uses with his family. This process involves identifying and expressing feelings, taking responsibility for beliefs, and making actionable requests. It fosters a safe and respectful environment, crucial for deep and meaningful conversations, especially during emotionally charged situations. Join Alejandra and Scott to discover how embracing this communication process can enhance your interactions, leading to enlivened relationships, profound healing, and growth. Quotes “When language is spoken in a way that is relational, it has a different quality and often a more poetic quality. The etymology of the word ‘wisdom’ reveals two primary qualities: guidance and lyricalness. There’s something about wisdom that comes with a quality that enlivens, something from that more poetic side.” (04:50 | Dr. Scott Blossom) “The core piece of the skill is a communication pattern that involves taking responsibility for your role in a conversation about something, especially if there are strong feelings. It has five steps. Before I explain it, I want to mention that the founders took it from other models, of course, but they provide a beautiful educational talk about why they use this approach with kids and why it’s so important for families to learn to have this as a shared language.” (15:07 | Dr. Scott Blossom) “Everything is workable, even if it’s terrible or really hard, and even when there are a lot of big feelings involved. We have a structure that signals to each other, ‘I’m going to follow this because I love you and I want you to feel safe enough to engage with this material that might be super charged from one side or both sides.’” (17:25 | Dr. Scott Blossom) Links Connect with Scott Blossom: https://www.doctorblossom.com/ Connect with Scott Blossom on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/docblossom To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi =064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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148. The Language of Healing: Interview with Dr. Blossom. Part 1 37:18

36 weeks önce37:18

37:18

“We’re multidimensional beings. You can’t separate the physical body from the language you happen to think in, or the way that spiritual practices change identity,” explains Dr. Scott Blossom, a respected healer with expertise in traditional Chinese medicine, Ayurveda, yoga somatics, and nutrition. Alejandra Siroka credits Dr. Blossom for profoundly influencing her holistic health journey. In this episode, Alejandra and Dr. Blossom explore the integral role of conscious communication in well-being and collective healing. They discuss how language and self-talk affect physical health through emotional patterns and belief systems, and delve into Ayurvedic principles, particularly the doshas—vata, kapha, and pitta—highlighting how these impact communication styles and emotional tendencies. Dr. Blossom shares personal anecdotes, emphasizing self-awareness and compassionate communication in relationships. He also reflects on his social awakening after George Floyd’s murder and his involvement in White Men for Racial Justice, stressing the need for commitment to social justice and equity. This episode of The Language Alchemy Podcast underscores the transformative power of language in fostering a just and connected society, advocating for understanding historical and social contexts to promote ongoing personal and collective awakening. Quotes “We’re multidimensional beings. You can’t separate the physical body from the language you think in, or the way that spiritual practices change identity.” (09:35 | Dr. Scott Blossom) “The narrative that you get when you understand what your primary orientation is around the doshas really helps you to anticipate what your particular genius is, what your particular form of balance will look like, and what most likely your forms of imbalance will look like. So, if everything’s balanced out, then just go with the flow, trust. You can really lean into that, but if things are out of balance, you have to actually attenuate. You have to work against the stream that’s carrying you into imbalance. And that narrative sets up a very important story.” (20:28 | Dr. Scott Blossom) “It’s a world that negates the power of history, my ancestry, and the intergenerational forces, which we now know from trauma research has so much power on us. And I love that that’s kind of coming around, like studies around trauma are helping us to see that we’re not just people that landed here. And it’s about us taking what we need and want to make our lives great as if that was the plan because traditional viewpoints are never centered on the individual. They always center the community and in that community they’re centering relationships.” (31:05 | Dr. Scott Blossom) Links Connect with Dr. Scott Blossom: https://www.doctorblossom.com/ Connect with Dr. Blossom on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/docblossom To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi =064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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147. Irresistible Asks: How to Get a Yes When You Make Requests 21:04

38 weeks önce21:04

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“What if there was a way to ask for what you wanted that also considered others? What if you could make requests that others would say yes to out of joy and not out of obligation or manipulation? What if you could express how meaningful it would be for you to get a yes to a wonderful ask?” wonders Alejandra Siroka. In this episode, Alejandra discusses the transformative power of making irresistible asks through conscious and respectful requests. Alejandra addresses the fear of offending others, often leading to avoided confrontations. She suggests framing requests with choice and autonomy, using phrases like “Are you willing?” Drawing from her mentor, Marshall Rosenberg, she shares six key components for effective requests: being clear and specific, making requests doable, being value explicit, making the request time-bound, expressing consideration for the other, and giving choice. These elements of a conscious, irresistible ask can help avoid getting resistance or pushback. Alejandra emphasizes the importance of clear communication, realistic expectations, and understanding the recipient’s perspective. She encourages listeners to apply these principles to foster clearer, more respectful, and successful interactions, ultimately building stronger, more fulfilling relationships. Quotes “Part of communicating skillfully has to do with learning to set the conditions to reach your goals and objectives. However, when you use specific language as a means to an end only, especially if that particular end is to benefit you and only you, then we run the risk of disregarding the values and needs of others, which I know is not your intention.” (02:03 | Alejandra Siroka) “When I talk about communication, I like you to go back to its etymology, which is to find a common place, a point of union. For what? Collaboration. When you ask someone for something, I’d love for you to think about how every time you do that, what you are asking for is an opportunity for you and the other person to collaborate, to join forces, to contribute to something that first and foremost is clear and specific.” (03:27 | Alejandra Siroka) “Let the other person know that your request is not a demand, but that it’s actually an ask that gives them choice. And it also communicates that you respect their needs, their values, their lives, their schedules, their autonomy.” (19:38 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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146. Supporting Love and Identity in LGBTQ Relationships Through Conscious Communication 45:24

40 weeks önce45:24

45:24

“I’m very proud to work with LGBTQ folks and help them find their authentic expression,” says host Alejandra Siroka. In this special episode, Alejandra welcomes returning guests Shannon and Britt, both members of the LGBTQ community, to share their journey of personal growth and evolving communication as a couple. Shannon and Britt recount their unique love story, highlighting the evolution of their identities and relationship dynamics. Britt, who transitioned from identifying as a lesbian to a trans man, and Shannon, a non-binary, pansexual person, discuss how they navigated these changes, including Britt’s gender transition and Shannon’s recovery from addiction. Alejandra emphasizes the power of language in affirming identities. Shannon and Britt reflect on the importance of conscious communication in their relationship, addressing challenges such as toxic masculinity and family acceptance. Their story illustrates how intentional communication and mutual support can foster a deeper, more authentic connection. This episode is a testament to the resilience and adaptability required to maintain a loving relationship amid personal transformation and societal challenges. Quotes “I’m really happy to see that as we are constantly evolving as a society and a human family, our language is evolving. Our language is becoming more open, more flexible.” (12:36 | Alejandra Siroka) “Thinking about all the ways in which we use binary gendered language and getting creative is an opportunity to expand our consciousness around our communication.” (27:50 | Shannon Bolt) “As we evolve, our language needs to evolve. As we expand, our language needs to expand. As we become more conscious, our language needs to follow suit. As we mature, our language needs to mature with us as well.” (28:52 | Alejandra Siroka) “Toxic masculinity is a thing and toxic masculinity reacts to men and masculine-type people in different ways than it reacts to women and feminine-type people. There is a certain way that particularly men can respond more aggressively. We’ve seen how Brit has had to adjust his responses to that kind of ‘chest puffing up,’ if you will, because men see him as a man and their willingness to escalate into violence is sometimes just simmering beneath the surface.” (30:51 | Shannon Bolt) Links To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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145. Benefits of Relational Versus Transactional Communication 24:50

42 weeks önce24:50

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Are your interactions building genuine connections or just checking off boxes? In this episode, Alejandra Siroka delves into the difference between transactional and relational communication, questioning the common belief that communication is solely about achieving personal goals. Alejandra highlights that transactional communication is often mistaken for clear communication. When we only focus on the goal of getting what one wants, this leads to transactional exchanges driven by safety and control. She contrasts this type of communication with relational communication, which prioritizes empathy, trust, and collaboration, fostering deeper connections and authentic self-expression. Alejandra shares key insights to help listeners distinguish between these two styles, noting that relational communication delves into intentions and emotions, while transactional communication is goal-oriented and can be superficial. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own communication styles and consider embracing relational communication to cultivate more meaningful relationships. Quotes “Communication is the foundation for meaningful relationships.” (02:19 | Alejandra Siroka) “The quality of your life depends on the quality of your relationships, and the quality of your relationships depend on the quality of your communication. Communication is relational.” (02:25 | Alejandra Siroka) “If you communicate with others to experience a meaningful relationship, then when you talk to your teenager, you consider your intention rather than your agenda. And so you reflect before you speak. Why does it bother you so much that your teenager is checking their phone the whole time you’re having dinner together? That’s when you realize that what’s bothering you is not the act itself. It’s the fact that you want to feel the connection with this being who’s growing, oh, so fast… The focus here is on the value of connection and the whole communication revolves around the kind of relationship we want.” (09:44 - 11:37 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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144. How Communication Shapes Our Mental Health 16:53

44 weeks önce16:53

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Mental well-being is a state that enables us to handle stress, recognize our abilities, and contribute to our communities. In this episode, Alejandra Siroka explores the important relationship between language and our well being. Unhealthy communication habits such as gaslighting, abusive and dehumanizing language in our interactions can lead to mental health struggles like low-self esteem, depression and anxiety. For a deeper dive into these topics, check out episodes #34 on gaslighting and #120 on dehumanizing language in relationships. Conversely, empathetic, kind, and supportive communication can promote mental well-being, maintaining healthy relationships and self-perception. To contribute to our own mental well-being and that of those around us, here are five suggestions from Alejandra: Discuss mental health issues openly and respectfully. Be aware of your internal dialogue. For communication tools to bring awareness to your internal dialogue, listen to episodes #112 through #117 and episode #120. Learn to use neutral, empathic, and kind language. Work with your biases and bring awareness to the messages you inherited and still perpetuate. Learn to talk about your needs and seek collaboration and support from others when you need it. For more on skillfully communicating needs, listen to episodes #138 through #142. Find all these episodes at www.languagealchemy.com or on your favorite podcast platform. Quotes “When you think about what it is that we have available with us to make decisions, to build relationships and to shape the world we live in, that’s when you can clearly see that it is our language and how we use our language to communicate that allow us to do all these things. When our mental health is affected, we have trouble functioning in life. So it’s harder for us to make decisions, to develop and maintain satisfying relationships, and to shape our lives in alignment with our vision or our values.” (03:07 | Alejandra Siroka) “Communication plays a huge role in our mental health and well-being.” (03:48 | Alejandra Siroka) “Communication has a huge role in mental health as well as in mental illness. The language we use to communicate is so powerful that it can create mental illness, it can maintain mental health, and it can also contribute to bringing healing to our mental condition.” (08:26 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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143. How Greetings Impact your Personal and Professional Relationships 18:35

46 weeks önce18:35

18:35

When you're providing a service, leading a group, or meeting someone in a professional setting, your words, tone of voice, and body language during your initial greeting can establish a foundation for a professional relationship built on confidence, collaboration, and trust. Similarly, the way you greet your loved ones can create positive and memorable experiences, strengthening the bonds with those closest to you. In this episode, Alejandra Siroka explores the importance of greetings and their impact on both personal and professional relationships. Alejandra shares the story of her first meeting with her beloved Matthew's family to illustrate how a heartfelt greeting can build lasting relationships. She compares this personal experience with professional settings like healthcare and yoga, where the way people greet each other can influence impressions of competence and openness. Alejandra provides practical advice on how to consciously choose greetings that cultivate inclusivity and connection. She encourages listeners to reflect on their own greeting habits and consider how small changes in language and demeanor could enhance interactions and relationships. Quotes • “How we greet someone can impact an interaction and even the whole relationship.” (02:31 | Alejandra Siroka) • “When you think about it, most relationships start with a greeting. Greetings can set us up for new, wonderful, and fruitful relationships. And of course, greetings can also create the space for hostility, distrust, and unsatisfactory relationships.” (03:05 | Alejandra Siroka) • “Greetings in professional relationships make a huge impact in terms of building trust, confidence, and collaboration from the start.” (06:43 | Alejandra Siroka) • “Something to remember: if you are someone who’s providing a service, leading a group, or meeting someone in a work or professional capacity, is that the words, your tone of voice, and body language with which you greet your client, your patient, your student, your class, your new coworker, can set you up for a professional relationship that inspires confidence, collaboration, and trust. Greetings can also set you up for positive and great experiences with the people closest to you, whether they’re your family or the people you live with.” (10:43 | Alejandra Siroka) • “Greetings, which can be just a few words, let others know how present you are with them, how you feel about them, and what kind of relationship you have with them.” (11:45 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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142. How to Empower Others to Communicate Their Needs 15:58

48 weeks önce15:58

15:58

How do we support others when they struggle to communicate their needs? In this final episode of her five-part series “Communicating Needs Skillfully,” Alejandra Siroka focuses on empowering individuals to help others, including children and adults, express their needs clearly, directly, and confidently. Alejandra emphasizes the importance of teaching children to connect with and communicate their needs. She points out that these skills are fundamental to building a child's sense of self-worth and value. For parents and caregivers, she suggests practical communication tools addressing children’s emotions to their needs and using story characters to normalize discussions about needs in everyday conversations. Many adults, regardless of gender, face challenges in expressing their needs due to societal conditioning that often discourages direct communication. To help overcome these barriers, Alejandra outlines four helpful strategies: asking open-ended questions that encourage expression of needs, paying attention to body language and tone of voice, affirming the importance of their needs, and celebrating their successes in expressing needs. By sharing transformative communication tools, Alejandra encourages listeners to have patience and persistence in supporting others as they learn to communicate their needs more openly. Quotes • “When you are in relationships with others who can't communicate their needs openly, freely, and directly to you, that may be because they've been discouraged to communicate their needs, or because they don't feel safe with you, or they don't know how to relax with you and they don't fully trust that you are going to listen to their needs. This impacts the quality of your relationships.” (01:56 | Alejandra Siroka) • “If you have little ones, you need to be not only aware, but also intentional about teaching them to communicate their needs.” (03:47 | Alejandra Siroka) • “When you teach children how to connect to and communicate their needs out loud, you are also teaching them that they're valuable and that they matter.” (06:58 | Alejandra Siroka) • “A loving thing you can do consistently is to be explicit in telling them that their needs matter to you, that their needs are important.” (11:01 | Alejandra Siroka) • “Be patient with others when they don't know how to communicate their needs directly, clearly, or confidently. And if you've had some success with someone and they were able to communicate a couple of needs to you, that doesn't mean that expressing their needs will be easy from now on. This takes time.” (13:00 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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141. Direct Your Attention on These 4 Elements When Communicating Needs Skillfully 19:25

50 weeks önce19:25

19:25

Are you finding it challenging to communicate your needs clearly without coming across as inconsiderate? Alejandra Siroka continues her series on "Communicating Needs Skillfully" and uncovers how to express needs in a way that they can be heard and honored by others. Alejandra asserts that when communication stems from a sense of self-worth and a sincere desire for mutual understanding, it naturally takes on a warm and inviting tone—a tone that significantly impacts the listener's perception of the message and their openness to addressing the expressed needs. She shares four essential elements that need to be present when we communicate our needs skillfully: Conscious Intentions - Our intentions shape our tone of voice and influence the message's reception. Mindful Selection of Words - Alejandra advises against using language that blames, accuses, or manipulates. Instead, she gives a tip to assess how those words might be received by others. Communicating Values - Expressing the values behind our needs can enhance the listener's willingness to hear and support our needs. Expressing Needs without Attachment to Outcome - Alejandra emphasizes the importance of recognizing that others are not responsible for meeting our needs. She highlights the necessity of being creative when it comes to meeting our own needs. If you understand the importance of communicating your needs but struggle to put it into practice, Alejandra can provide personalized assistance. She offers an invitation to join the Language Alchemy Group Coaching program starting this month. This three-month journey is designed to enhance your communication skills with tailored support. It's an ideal opportunity for those seeking personal growth and healthier relationships by addressing communication goals and challenges. Quotes • “If your intention is grounded in showing up as a human being who's worthy, not entitled, but worthy of collaboration and contribution, then your tone of voice will naturally be warm and inviting. It will communicate to the other person that your needs are something positive.” (00:00 | Alejandra Siroka) • "Intention is crucial because even though you will not be expressing your intention out loud, your intention is going to be communicated in your tone of voice." (05:36 | Alejandra Siroka) • "When you let the other person know how, by supporting your needs, they are contributing to something important for you, the other person is more likely not only to hear your needs, but also to be willing and happy to support them. Because they're hearing loud and clear that they will be contributing to something valuable." (14:22 | Alejandra Siroka) • "When we are in conscious relationships with others, We understand that other people are not responsible for meeting our needs. We are responsible for meeting our needs." (15:12 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To have group coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/groupcoaching To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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140. The Secret Benefits of Expressing Needs & The Cost of Keeping Quiet 16:51

1 year önce16:51

16:51

Navigating through life's challenges is one thing, but thriving and finding deep fulfillment is an entirely different journey—one that hinges significantly on our ability to communicate our needs clearly. Alejandra Siroka returns in this episode with Part 3 of the “Communicating Your Needs Skillfully” series, where she discusses the critical role of articulating needs in personal development and the cultivation of meaningful relationships. Alejandra highlights the positive effects of recognizing and meeting each other's needs, emphasizing how mutual support fosters joy, interconnectedness, and a sense of belonging. She argues that expressing needs not only affirms our own life and self-worth, but also strengthens self-esteem and contributes to balanced, healthy relationships. Alejandra points out significant disadvantages when needs remain uncommunicated. Not expressing needs can entrench negative self-perceptions, including feelings of unworthiness or misplaced superiority, and erode self-esteem and confidence. It can also signal distrust and undervalue the capacity of loved ones to meet those needs, robbing them of the fulfillment that comes from providing support. Furthermore, failing to articulate needs prevents the fulfillment of relational needs, leading to emotional disconnection and potentially triggering anxiety, depression, and other negative emotional states. This silence hampers personal growth and the ability to maintain enriching, satisfying relationships. To address these challenges, Alejandra introduces her Language Alchemy Group Coaching Program set to begin this April. This three-month program is designed to create a supportive community environment where participants can develop the skills to communicate their needs with clarity, confidence, and conviction. Through this initiative, Alejandra aims to equip individuals with the tools necessary for fostering clear and meaningful interactions, promising a path toward personal growth and healthier relationships. Learn more here . Quotes • "When you have a thriving and meaningful life, when you have equitable relationships, you experience interconnectedness." (04:41 | Alejandra Siroka) • "When you help contribute to others' well-being, you are also contributing to your own well-being." (04:50 | Alejandra Siroka) • "When you communicate your needs out loud, you are giving others that opportunity to feel wonderful, to feel tender, generous, happy inside. And you are communicating to others that they are worthy of your trust, of your ask, and that whatever they're giving you to help you fulfill your needs is good, valuable, and appreciated." (08:16 | Alejandra Siroka) • "When you communicate your needs, you are affirming the importance of your life. When you ask for what you need, when you express your needs out loud with clarity, with confidence and conviction, you are reaffirming to yourself that you matter, that you are worthy of being given to. and that you and your life are valuable. And this is something very powerful and crucial to communicate if we want to have healthy relationships. Relationships in which you and the other human being have equal value." (08:53 | Alejandra Siroka) • "To have healthy relationships, we need to communicate our needs out loud." (13:52 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To have group coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/groupcoaching To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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139. Communicating Your Needs Will Enliven Your Life and Relationships 19:37

1 year önce19:37

19:37

Do you truly understand your needs and are you communicating them clearly? In this episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, and as the second part of the Communicating Needs Skillfully series, host Alejandra Siroka delves into the importance of recognizing and expressing emotional, intellectual, energetic, and spiritual needs. Alejandra leads with a series of probing questions designed to help listeners explore their own perceptions and beliefs about their needs. Sharing insights from her personal life, Alejandra introduces a practice she relies on to clarify her needs when they seem uncertain. Drawing from a personal hiking experience with her partner, she illustrates how self-reflection through specific questions can enhance awareness, uncover deeper needs, and foster clear and meaningful communication: What's truly going on with me right now? What do I need? What's important for me right now? What would be beneficial for me in this situation? What would be useful to communicate out loud about my needs? Through this story, Alejandra illustrates the crucial roles of self-awareness and empathy in recognizing personal needs and enhancing relational dynamics. Alejandra offers an invitation to the Language Alchemy Group Coaching set in April, which will support those looking to know and connect better to their needs. Quotes • “I'm using the words beautiful, wonderful, and precious because one of my teachers, Robert Gonzalez, used to talk about needs as the most precious gifts we have to affirm our lives. Another teacher I had, Marshall Rosenberg, believed that every thought and every action was an attempt to meet a need. And you don't have to agree with them to understand that every living being has needs. Your needs don't have to be good or bad. They're just human, human needs. And because you are human, my dear, you have needs.” (07:58 | Alejandra Siroka) • “It's easier to connect to the needs of our physical body because our bodies communicate with us very clearly when we need air, food, rest, etc. It's the other needs, the emotional, intellectual, energetic, and spiritual needs that seem more elusive. These are the needs we must connect to and communicate if we would like to have meaningful, fulfilling lives and relationships.” (09:11 | Alejandra Siroka) • “When you don't know what your needs are, ask yourself these four questions. Number one, what's truly going on with me right now? Number two, what do I need? Number three, what's important for me right now? And number four, what would be beneficial for me in this situation? These are the four questions that can help you connect to your needs. And if you'd like to take the next step of encouraging yourself to communicate your needs, then ask yourself the fifth question, what would be useful to communicate out loud about my needs? Asking yourself that question will help you direct your awareness to communicate more skillfully with the people in your life.” (15:50 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To have group coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/groupcoaching To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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138. Why Women Struggle to Communicate Their Needs Clearly and Directly 20:03

1 year önce20:03

20:03

Why do so many women find it challenging to clearly articulate their needs? This episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, hosted by Alejandra Siroka, tackles this question head-on, right in time for International Women's Day. Alejandra discusses the dual purpose of International Women's Day: to celebrate women's achievements and advance gender equality. She stresses the need for women to express their needs as a critical aspect of achieving equality and recognition in society. The episode examines common reasons why women struggle with communication, drawing on Alejandra's experiences and insights from working with women. She identifies societal conditioning, childhood influences, and cultural expectations as key factors that lead to indirect and often unclear expression of needs. Alejandra offers advice for overcoming these communication barriers, focusing on self-reflection, the importance of community support, and the process of unlearning problematic communication patterns. Quotes • "When all the women in your life are able to communicate their needs with clarity, confidence, and compassion, they will be able to thrive because they will know in their bones that they matter as much as the male members of our human family. And women cannot thrive if they think they're less than men, or if they believe that they have not earned the right to have needs." (01:37 | Alejandra Siroka) • "Why is it so challenging for women to simply say, I would like to receive more support from you when the kids are sick? Or, my body is telling me I need to rest and I can't keep volunteering every weekend. You need to find another volunteer. Or, I'm struggling to keep up with all the tasks and deadlines you're giving me. I need one more person in my team if you'd like us to meet the goals for this quarter. Why is it that women can't simply express their needs easily with their partners, with their adult children, with their coworkers, with our parents and other family members, with people in our community, with strangers? Why? Have you ever asked yourself that question?" (5:00 | Alejandra Siroka) • “So they say to me, Alejandra, how come my partner doesn't see I need more help with our kids' homework? How come my parents don't see I need more time with my friends and I can't spend every vacation with them? When I ask these women if they've communicated these needs to the other person, just like they're doing it with me, the answer I sometimes get is, um, maybe, or sometimes it's no, or I shouldn't need to. They should already know. I know so many people who think that way. My mother included. Why would we believe that the people in our lives should read our minds and know what we need without us asking them? The answer has to do with language and communication.” (08:12 | Alejandra Siroka) • “Why would we believe that the people in our lives should read our minds and know what we need without us asking them? The answer has to do with language and communication.” (08:51 | Alejandra Siroka) • “Learning to communicate our needs is part of our journey to become an adult woman.” (16:52 | Alejandra Siroka) Links To have group coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/groupcoaching To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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137. Saying Sorry Is Not Enough: How To Have A Repair Conversation 20:49

1 year önce20:49

20:49

It is human to make mistakes, to hurt, offend, disappoint, or negatively impact another precious human being. And so it is a valuable skill to learn how to apologize in an authentic, mature, and responsible way. In this episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, host Alejandra Siroka delves into the transformative power of repair conversations, offering a more effective approach to healing and strengthening connections compared to typical apologies. Alejandra begins by emphasizing the critical distinction between intention and impact when addressing hurtful actions or words towards another person. Repair conversations focus on acknowledging and taking responsibility for the impact caused, rather than merely justifying intentions, which often leads to defensiveness and resentment. Listeners are guided through a step-by-step process to have a repair conversation. Alejandra emphasizes the creation of a safe space for the other person to express their feelings and impact authentically. Throughout the episode, Alejandra underscores the role of expressing remorse and appreciation during a repair conversation, showcasing its ability to strengthen the connection and foster reconciliation. Mastering the art of repair conversations is a skill that takes time to develop. If you would like support through one-on-one coaching or group sessions to enhance your communication skills and repair relationships effectively, Alejandra invites you to visit her website for more information and resources. Tune in to this episode for valuable insights into transformative communication and healing relationships. Quotes: • "In a repair conversation, what needs your immediate attention is that the other person was negatively impacted. It doesn't matter whether you had a good intention or whether you had reasons that led you to say or do whatever you said or did. What you need to address first is the negative impact caused by your actions.” (4:21 | Alejandra Siroka) • “When you have a repair conversation, you address the negative impact caused by your actions.” (4:21 | Alejandra Siroka) • "Expressing appreciation during a repair conversation helps the other person get back to a place of connection with you. This is how they connect back to their knowing that you are a good person. You don't need to tell them, you are demonstrating it." (10:59 | Alejandra Siroka) • "It is hard to quickly be in a space for a repair conversation after we've hurt another precious human being. So be patient with yourself. Don't say a repair conversation didn't work after trying it for the first time." (17:49 | Alejandra Siroka) Links Episode #136: Apologize Like an Adult: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2148547407 Episode #75: When You Don't Like What You Hear: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2147833529 Episode #108: Navigating Disagreements, the Path of Meaningful Connection: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2148053621 Episode #109: Empathy Versus Sympathy: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2148071027 Episode #110: Five Strategies for Skillful Empathic Communication: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2148087420 To have group coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/groupcoaching To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm…

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