Blending In or Standing Out: How Trauma Shapes Your Sense of Safety

The Steph & Craig Show

What’s your base survival instinct? Better yet, do you feel your partner truly has your back?

On today’s episode, Steph and Craig kick things off with sharing their earliest memories of using food as a coping mechanism. They then go on to share a discussion they recently had regarding parking spots of all things.

It very quickly turns into a profound conversation exploring coping mechanisms, survival techniques, the effects of complex trauma, and do you feel truly supported by your partner?

Through the candid conversation, they share how their past experiences and traumas shape their present-day actions and choices.

The discussion reveals deeper themes about trust, communication, and the journey of healing together. As always, they use humor and vulnerability to unpack the complexities of navigating trauma responses, creating safety in your relationships, and supporting each other through it all.

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Disclaimer:

We’re just sharing our journey with you. We’re not licensed therapists, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Cool? Good deal. We’ll see you soon.

In this episode:

03:30 Finding Safety in Daily Routines

07:50 The Connection Between Childhood Coping Mechanisms and Food

14:50 Reflections on Childhood Experiences

21:40 The Link Between Parking Spots and Safety

26:00 Differences in Coping Mechanisms

30:35 Humorous Take on Parking Personalities

32:50 The Role of Communication in Understanding Needs

41:55 Revisiting Trauma Responses in Adulthood

49:10 Steph’s Reflections on Childhood

52:50 Sharing the Load

1:02:00 Finding Safety and Trust in Relationships

1:09:05 The Importance of Giving Space When Needed

1:11:00 Closing Reflections Wrapping

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