Relationship Series Final: Don't Judge by the Appearance

The Teachable Woman

Teachable Woman Podcast Show Notes

Reverends Michele Owes and Diana P. Cherry

Don't Judge by the Appearance

Introduction

In this episode of the Teachable Woman Podcast, Rev. Michele Owes and Rev. Diana P. Cherry dive into the profound lesson of not judging by outward appearances, but rather, focusing on the heart, as God does. Their conversation explores relationships, inner beauty, and the importance of aligning with God's perspective. Here are seven key highlights from their discussion.

I. The Value of Inner Change

Rev. Owes emphasizes that true fulfillment comes from obeying God, allowing His word to cleanse and transform us, so we can be a witness to His glory in our lives.

II. God's Focus on the Heart

Referencing 1 Samuel 16, the podcast reminds listeners that while humans look at outward appearances, God looks at the heart. This teaching encourages us to not dismiss others based on their exterior but to value their inner qualities.

III. The Story of the Scarred Apple

Rev. Owes shares a metaphor about an apple with exterior scars that was perfect inside. This reflects how people may have outward imperfections, yet still possess great inner value.

IV. The Importance of Knowing God First

Rev. Cherry stresses that establishing a strong relationship with God before entering any human relationship is essential. With God’s guidance, we can avoid being misled by outward appearances.

V. The Case of the Young Couple

Rev. Cherry recounts the story of a young couple whose marriage thrived despite disparities in their backgrounds. She illustrates that a man with a good heart can make for a wonderful partner, even if he doesn’t meet societal expectations.

VI. Relationships Require Time

The podcast highlights that discovering a person’s heart requires time and experience. Rushing into relationships based on looks or surface-level qualities can lead to poor decisions.

VII. Avoiding Superficial Judgments

Both hosts urge listeners not to let physical appearances, material possessions, or social status determine their choice in relationships. True connection comes from understanding and respecting each other’s heart and values.

Conclusion

The episode wraps up with the powerful message that relationships are built on the foundation of Jesus Christ and the contents of a person's heart, not just their outward appearance. Both Rev. Owes and Rev. Cherry encourage taking time to discern the intentions and character of others, ensuring that our relationships align with God’s values and wisdom.