Today, John talks to Buddy Wakefield about the importance of balance in life, clarity that can come from celibacy, and the creative process that navigates both light and dark experiences. They also touch on cultural identity, the impermanence of life, the responsibility we hold in the current societal landscape, and much more. Follow Buddy on Insta…

Today, John discusses the impact of parental relationships on self-worth and emotional development, emphasizing the importance of nurturing oneself in ways that may have been lacking in childhood. He dives into practical strategies for self-compassion, identifying emotional needs, transforming negative self-talk, and regulating emotions through bod…

Today, John explores the profound impact of breakups on personal growth and self-discovery. He emphasizes that breakups serve as a mirror, reflecting our emotional patterns and unresolved wounds, and encourages listeners to view breakups as transformative opportunities for growth. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump i…

Today, John explores the misconceptions surrounding heartbreak and breakups, emphasizing that our hearts do not break but stretch, allowing for personal growth and resilience. He also discusses the importance of understanding the pain of heartbreak, the necessity of coping mechanisms, the journey of self-discovery that follows a breakup, and much m…

Today, John reflects on his experiences as a parent and the generational differences in parenting styles. He emphasizes the importance of perspective in understanding one's life journey, the need to pull back to see the bigger picture, and how self-reflection can lead to emotional well-being. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Ju…

John talks about how wisdom is derived from lived experiences and how seeking new experiences can lead to personal growth and transformation. He emphasizes how by focusing on corrective experiences, individuals can challenge false beliefs and expand their understanding of love, relationships, and life itself. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On…

Today, John explores the transformative power of breakups. He also encourages listeners to reframe their narratives around breakups, viewing them as invitations to evolve into better versions of themselves, and to lean into the discomfort of pain, so one can learn valuable lessons and shed limiting beliefs leading to a more fulfilling future. Pre-o…

Today, John shares a series of poignant poems that delve into themes of creativity, personal growth, love, and relationships. He also explores how breakups can lead to breakthroughs, the ongoing journey of self-discovery, and the evolving nature of love. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out mo…

Today, John recounts the excitement of having a free day, the mishap with his motorcycle keys, and the subsequent challenges he faced. He emphasizes the value of accepting life's unpredictability, recognizing personal growth in how we respond to setbacks, and more. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s Single. On Pu…

Today, John discusses the concept of 'Fuck It Friday,’and emphasizes the importance of taking time for oneself without guilt, exploring the balance between self-love and self-indulgence. He also talks about the practice of gratitude, encouraging listeners to reflect on unique aspects of their lives they appreciate, and his new book, Break Up On Pur…

Today, John challenges the traditional fairy tale narrative of love and relationships, arguing that the myth of 'happily ever after' is unrealistic and damaging. He discusses the importance of commitment, self-reflection, resilience in relationships, and emphasizes that real love requires effort, growth, and the willingness to navigate struggles to…

John shares his personal journey regarding sex, intimacy, early experiences, the shame he felt, and what he's learned from them. He also introduces the concept of co-creating intimacy with partners, emphasizing the importance of communication, mutual pleasure, adaptability in sexual relationships, and more. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On P…

Today, John discusses the emotional complexities involved in breakups, including the concept of secondary loss and the importance of understanding one's emotional responses. He also explores the transformative potential of breakups, emphasizing that they can serve as catalysts for personal growth and self-discovery. Pre-order John's new book, Break…

Today, John discusses how most of our definitions of love are shaped by external influences leading to a disconnection from our true selves. He also explains how redefining our definitions, through personal experiences and emotional intelligence, will help advocate for a more authentic understanding of love and relationships in our lives. Pre-order…

Today, John reflects on his upbringing in a family restaurant, exploring themes of generational trauma, cultural identity, and personal growth. He also emphasizes the importance of understanding one's parents' backgrounds, so they can shift towards a more empathetic and responsive approach in the current generation. Pre-order John's new book, Break…

Today, John explores the dynamics of relationships through the lens of a client's story. He highlights common struggles couples face, and encourages them to co-create their relationship dynamics by moving away from traditional roles to find what works best for them. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE…

Today, John discusses the emotional turmoil of losing not just a marriage but the life he envisioned, and how this experience led him to a path of self-discovery and personal growth. He also emphasizes the importance of understanding different types of breakups, how they require tailored approaches to healing, and more. Pre-order John's new book, B…

Today, John shares his reflections on gratitude, storytelling, and fitness. He emphasizes the importance of practicing gratitude, embracing one's life story, and discusses how his past experiences, including his divorce, have shaped his current perspective and practices. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram…

Today, John Kim reflects on the importance of authenticity in content creation that was inspired by Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard. He also dives into self-reflection regarding his own discipline, the significance of emotional intelligence, and the need for regular self-check-ins to ensure personal growth and alignment with one's values. Pre-order Jo…

Today, John reflects on childhood experiences, significant life events, and the impact of first impressions, while also discussing themes of sexual curiosity and shame. He also emphasizes the importance of exploring moments without judgment, how courage is often needed in difficult situations, and more. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpo…

Today, John talks about a recent experience at a coffee shop that triggered him. He explores navigating defensiveness in relationships, the importance of personal accountability, and the concept of situationships. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…

Today, John shares his experience of a day falling apart and provides steps to cope with such situations. He emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to feel the frustration and anger, reframe the situation, and find a positive mindset. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastc…

Today, John shares a client’s story about a woman, who after a long, unfulfilling marriage, finds herself drawn to a man from her past. As she navigates her feelings for him, she grapples with the reality of her emotional needs, the fantasy she has built around him, and how the experience became a catalyst for her personal growth and healing. Follo…

Today, John talks about his first experience using MDMA. He reflects on the emotional and physical effects of it, the highs and lows of his experiences, including the aftermath of using MDMA and the potential therapeutic benefits of psychedelics. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit pod…

Today, John shares a profound spiritual experience he had while driving to an event, triggered by a podcast discussion about bullying and masculinity. He reflects on his own experiences with bullying, the emotional weight of inaction, the desire to understand physical conflict, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE L…

In the final episode of The Codependency Series, Vanessa explores the difference between caretaking and caregiving. She discusses the repression of feelings, needs, and wants, and the challenge of knowing and expressing them. She also delves into the fear of loss of attachment, the need for control in relationships, addresses manipulative behavior,…

In the second episode of The Codependency Series, Vanessa discusses various codependent tendencies and behaviors. She provides a laundry list of codependent tendencies, explains how these behaviors stem from a fear of losing attachment and a lack of trust in oneself and others, and emphasizes the importance of personal accountability and the need t…

In the first episode of The Codependency Series, Vanessa Bennett discusses the concept of codependency and explains that codependency is not limited to romantic relationships but extends to all types of relationships. She explores the connection between codependency and attachment, provides a quiz to help participants assess their own codependent t…

In the second part of the Origin Story & Life Concepts series, John discusses three key concepts for personal growth and transformation: pulling from your solid self, returning what doesn't belong to you, and connecting to parts of yourself that you have disconnected with. He shares personal anecdotes and examples to illustrate these concepts, and …

In the first part of the Origin Story & Life Concepts Series, John shares his personal journey of rebuilding his life after divorce and how he found his authentic self. He discusses the importance of living in solid self, emphasizes the need to listen to one's authentic voice to build a solid life container, and talks about the challenges and conse…

Today, John talks about the practice of being present, the importance of setting intentions, and integrating these practices into daily life. He also discusses the power of unseen forces, reconditioning your nervous system, and the importance of injecting hope. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad cho…

Today, John talks about the transformative power of relationships. He explores different stages of personal development, the lessons learned from past relationships, the importance of self-reflection and growth within relationships, as well as the healing potential they offer. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more a…

Today, John does a deep dive on the importance of friendships in relationships. He talks about how fulfilling certain needs in friendships are essential, and emphasizes that there's so much more to life than just our romantic relationships. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastch…

Today, John does a deep dive on how the miracle of love lies in the process of working through activation, trauma, and honest conversations. He talks about the importance of seeking partners who can help us heal our wounds, the ability to create a safe space and hold capacity for others, and how healing is a byproduct of working through our issues …

Today, John emphasizes the importance of giving yourself permission to revisit past events with exes, so you can gain new insights and perspectives. He also encourages listeners to be compassionate towards their past selves and to provide the support and understanding they needed but didn't receive at the time. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find ou…

Today, John explores the topic of the nervous system reset and its impact on our overall well-being and relationships with Jessica Maguire. They delve into the role of relationships in regulating our nervous system, how our attachment styles can influence who we choose to love, the concept of corrective experiences and how they can help rewire the …

Today, John talks about how millennials are facing unique challenges due to their desire for a different life than their parents. He talks about how millennials are breaking old blueprints, investing in themselves through therapy, and have the courage and willingness to defy societal expectations that reshape the definition of adulthood. Follow Joh…

Today, John shares how his mantra shifted from 'who's coming with me?' to 'where am I going?' and the impact it had on his mindset and behavior. He also emphasizes the importance of focusing on personal growth and purpose, rather than solely searching for love. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad cho…

John does a deep dive on the four attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant. He also talks about how understanding our own attachment style, and that of our partner and others, is crucial for fostering healthier relationships and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choi…

Today, John, Vanessa, and Taune explore the idea of sourcing safety within ourselves and how it affects our relationships and overall well-being.They also emphasize how building a sanctuary within is a lifelong journey that requires compassion, curiosity, and a willingness to explore our experiences, and much more. Use the discount code SANCTUARY t…

Today, John and Meredith explore the connection between food and wellness, as well as the importance of home-cooked meals. They discuss the role of food in their lives and the connection between food and culture, and explore the emotional and nostalgic aspects of food, as well as the importance of self-care and conscious eating. Follow John on Inst…

Today, John discusses the importance of seeing life through new lenses and the need for inner journeys to gain new perspectives. He also explores the idea of success, the impact of relationships and community on personal growth, and how to trust oneself and dream big. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your…

Today, John reflects on the relationship he has with his mother and the dynamics that exist between them. He discusses the challenges of evolving and growing with family members and old friends, and the resistance that can arise when trying to create new tracks in these relationships. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Lear…

Today, John reflects on his personal journey and the sacrifices his parents made as immigrants. He shares stories of their hard work, determination, challenges, setbacks, and emphasizes the importance of embracing and sharing our own stories. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcast…

Today, John gives advice to a listener who is torn between wanting to get her family, but lacking sexual desire for her ex-husband. He explores the concept of customization in relationships and the importance of prioritizing self-connection before seeking a partner, the need to question old relationship models and create ones that feel honest, and …

Today, John does a deep dive on marriage and explains how it has evolved and transformed, influenced by religion, societal norms, and the concept of romantic love. He talks about how marriage should be about creating a partnership that is based on choice, growth, mutual respect, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE …

Today, John gives advice on how to emotionally prepare to leave a long-term relationship. He emphasizes the importance of building a better relationship with yourself, and creating a program or structure for yourself during this transition, including having a support system, engaging in somatic experiences, setting goals, and more. Follow John on I…

Today, John discusses the importance of looking at past memories through different lenses to gain a more accurate understanding. He also answers two listeners questions: how to know if you've done enough healing to be in a relationship? And how to accept that you and your partner may not be right for each other? Follow John on Instagram HERE Find o…

Today, ​​John shares his personal journey of being single and finding his authentic self after going through a divorce. He emphasizes the importance of connecting to one's solid self, living a life that feels honest, the significance of having a sense of purpose before entering another relationship, and more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out …

Today, John shares 15 non-generic tips on how to be happy while being single which includes: creating a personal sanctuary, learning to enjoy solitude, practicing random acts of kindness, developing a daily ritual, engaging in a creative project, and much more. Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad cho…