Motherhood is awesome. But not always. Holding space for the best parts of motherhood seems impossible when the challenging parts feel really heavy – and vice versa! Erin, licensed therapist, and Ruby, licensed therapist candidate, hold nothing back when talking about the dual realities associated with this chaotic, wonderful, hard, hilarious, sad, and undeniably happy part of life. This podcast is a place for community. Submit your thoughts, feelings, or wonderings to our voicemail box or e ...
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I Love My Baby, and…Do I Have to Just be “Mom” Now?
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Send us a Text Message. Whether it’s something you’ve wanted your whole life or something that sorta just happened, the shift to motherhood and all that it entails can catch you by surprise. Suddenly, your life feels like it revolves around feeding, sleeping, enrichment activities, mom groups…the list goes on. So what happens to all of the things t…
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I Love My Baby, and…I’m Moving my Career Goal Posts
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Send us a Text Message. After having a baby, people generally (not always) fall into one of 2 categories: the “I cannot WAIT to get back to work!” category and the “I no longer give a f*&^% about my job!” category. And it’s not uncommon to think you’re going to be in one of those categories and then change course after having your baby! This week, …
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I Love My Baby, and…The Sex-pectations Have Totally Changed
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Send us a Text Message. Life changes instantly when you have a baby - the routines you know, the relationships you have, the sex you love. Wait…what?!? How can that be?? If you’re one of the millions of women whose relationship with sex changed after having a baby, this episode is for YOU! From the social pressure to “bounce back,” to the way our c…
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I Love My Baby, And...Teamwork is Not Making the Dream Work Pt. 2
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Send us a Text Message. Postpartum partnership problems (say that 10 times fast): we know them, we hate them, we don’t know what to do about them. Your connection to your partner and the other important people in your world can suffer after having a baby, and while it’s totally common and normal, that doesn’t make it any less distressing. On this w…
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I Love My Baby, and…Oops, I Hate my Mother-in-Law
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Send us a Text Message. Listen. The mother-in-law (MIL) drama has become this funny, stereotypically negative relationship according to pop culture. But it’s the reality for a LOT of people; it’s a deeply complex relationship! Boundaries are so necessary and can feel SO hard to enforce. This week, Erin and Ruby break down various components of the …
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Mom Brain Musings: Instagram Parenting Courses
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Send us a Text Message. Mom Brain: sometimes it means you’re unable to string together your thoughts, and other times it means you’re stringing together 900 thoughts at 2 o’clock in the morning! In this week’s episode, Erin and Ruby are chatting about Instagram parenting courses (as discussed in this Glamour article) and how to determine what’s rig…
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I Love My Baby, and...I Hate Being the Default Parent (pt. 1)
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Send us a Text Message. The concept of the default parent is loaded with emotion - for good reason! Parenthood *is* loaded with emotion. There’s generally an association with this term and being the parent who “does it all.” But is there truly a one-size-fits-all definition to the term “default parent?” (Hint: there isn’t! We add our own meaning to…
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REWIND: F*ck Your Bounceback
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Send us a Text Message. One of the most common things we hear both in our DMs and in the therapy room is that the pressure to “bounce back” to who you were before having feels like it’s hitting us from virtually every single corner of our lives. So we thought now might be a great time to re-visit this oldie-but-goodie episode from the vault. In thi…
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I Love My Baby, and...I'm Surrounded by Toxic Positivity
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Send us a Text Message. Have you ever paid close attention to the ways people respond to something you share that is pregnancy or motherhood-related? If not, after listening to this episode, you’re gonna. Because when you’re telling someone about the anxiety you have while your newborn is sleeping, it’s important to note that upwards of 0 people ha…
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I Love My Baby, and…SAHM Life has me Feelin’ all the Feels
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Send us a Text Message. We hear a lot about the “invisible load” of motherhood, and that’s almost always applied to stay-at-home moms. And what’s truly mind-blowing is that literally none of the work done by SAHMs is invisible!!! It’s constant! It’s ever-changing! You’re doing all the things everyone relies on! YOU. DON’T. STOP. Whether you knew al…
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I Love My Baby, and...I'm Unpacking the Decision to be Done Having Kids
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Send us a Text Message. “Family planning” is kind of a weird term. It encompasses so many different aspects of, well, planning for your family. But is there really a clear definition? What if you’re the world’s worst planner?! What then?!?! For some, they have a very clear idea of what family planning looks like. For others, they thought they had a…
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I Love My Baby, and...I Never Imagined I'd Experience Gender Disappointment
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Send us a Text Message. Did you find out the gender of your baby? Did you keep it a secret or tell everyone? Did you start planning accordingly? Ok, now we have a harder question for you: did you experience disappointment after you found out? This is a common experience among tons of new moms (and their partners), and just like everything else rela…
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I Love My Baby, and…the Overwhelm has Overhauled my Life
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Send us a Text Message. You know how when you have a baby, the little things suddenly feel really big and overpowering? What was once easy now feels insurmountable. What used to not faze you now makes you feel like you need to call in a lot of reinforcement. As with most of the postpartum experience, this is all totally normal. In this week’s episo…
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I Love My Baby, and...I'm Trapped in the Game of Comparison
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Send us a Text Message. If we know that “comparison is the thief of joy,” why the f&^% can’t we stop doing it?! You're struggling to accept that you aren't the mom you thought you'd be, you're consumed with your feelings about that, but you can't stop watching strangers on the internet do motherhood perfectly.** Dare we call it…a sick obsession? In…
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I Love My Baby, and...I Expected Change, but THIS Much!?
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Send us a Text Message. How many baby books have you read (or bought but left in your trunk)? How many instagram posts did you scroll through? How many conversations did you have with people in your village-before-they-were-your-village all about the changes that will happen in your life after having a baby? A dozen? A thousand? After having these …
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I Love My Baby, And...I'm Already Stressed About Holidays
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Send us a Text Message. The holidays are (almost?) here! And, let’s be honest, those come with a *little* bit of stress sometimes, especially when you’re navigating postpartum and establishing boundaries with family members. In this week’s episode of I Love My Baby, And…Erin and Ruby take on holiday stressors - from struggling with “bounce back” ex…
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Midnight Musings Minisode: Taylor Swift, the NFL, and Ferris Bueller's Day Off...?
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Send us a Text Message. Welcome back to the Midnight Musings Minisodes! The Midnight Musings Minisodes are a little bite-sized peak into what goes on when Erin and Ruby stop recording and start going off the rails. Sometimes you’re up in the middle of the night hanging out with your tiny human when you’d rather be getting your beauty rest. So why n…
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I Love My Baby And...It's Milestone Madness Over Here
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Send us a Text Message. Have you ever found yourself consumed with all of the things your babies SHOULD or SHOULDN'T be doing by a certain age? Keeping up with everything is f***ing hard, and it can be extremely tempting to internalize everything and doubt your ability as a parent. But fear not! You aren't alone in this. In this week's episode, we'…
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I Love My Baby, And...I Hate Being A Mom
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Send us a Text Message. If the title of this episode made you cringe, you aren’t alone. We are conditioned to believe that we can’t possibly hate being a mom when it’s the single greatest, most fulfilling joy of our lives. How could we even, for a moment, not love every second of this experience!? So, let’s take a step back and look at every other …
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Midnight Musings Minisode: Do You True Crime Podcast?
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Send us a Text Message. Welcome back to to the Midnight Musings Minisodes! The Midnight Musings Minisodes are a little bite-sized peak into what goes on when Erin and Ruby stop recording and start going off the rails. Sometimes you’re up in the middle of the night hanging out with your tiny human when you’d rather be getting your beauty rest. So wh…
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I Love my Baby, And...I'm Feeling Super Lonely
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Send us a Text Message. Prior to having children, did you ever think you would feel lonely while CONSTANTLY being around/relied upon by your babies? This bizarre phenomenon can happen when you least expect it. And that's why we're here for you! On this week's episode, Erin and Ruby discuss what it means to feel lonely without ever having much time …
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Midnight Musings Minisode: Ruby Meets Postpartum Reddit Threads
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Send us a Text Message. Welcome to the first Midnight Musings Minisode of I Love My Baby, And…! The Midnight Musings Minisodes are a little bite-sized peak into what goes on when Erin and Ruby stop recording and start going off the rails. Sometimes you’re up in the middle of the night hanging out with your tiny human when you’d rather be getting yo…
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I Love My Baby, And...Am I Ready for Baby #2?
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Send us a Text Message. One of the most common things we’re told to do as a parent is plan ahead. And one of the absolute hardest things to do as a parent is…plan ahead… This rings *particularly* true for family planning. Preparing to add another baby to your family may not be as simple as you’d assumed - for roughly a zillion reasons. Whether it w…
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I Love My Baby, And...I'm So F*cking Tired
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Send us a Text Message. The lack of sleep during the newborn stage is….jarring? Horrendous? Possibly criminal? And it doesn’t even matter how many baby books you read to prepare for it! Because nothing can prepare you for that level of sheer and utter exhaustion. So this week, Erin and Ruby are talking about the toll that all of these sleepless nig…
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I Love My Baby, And...I Feel Like I'm Playing "Parenting Style Roulette"
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Send us a Text Message. So you have your baby, spend the next several months processing all of it, finding a new routine, trying to balance all the things, give your baby lots of love, stay connected to your partner, friends & family, and THEN you have to figure out what “parenting styles” are?!? Yup. Parenting your kid is different than *having a …
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Is It Too Soon For Another Episode About Mom Guilt?
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Send us a Text Message. Can you define what “mom guilt” is? Is it something you experience? Is it something you’ve struggled with before? Is it something you watch others struggle with and wonder to yourself how the hell to support them? Have we got a podcast episode for you!! On this week’s episode of I Love My Baby, And…Ruby and Erin are talking …
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I Love My Baby, And...I Had No Idea That Feeding My Baby Could Cause Stress
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Send us a Text Message. You thought you wanted to nurse, but you were totally unprepared for all that would entail. Or maybe you were certain you wanted to give your baby formula, but now that you're in it, you'd rather nurse, but you're having trouble producing enough. Any of this sound familiar? Who the hell knew that simply feeding your baby was…
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I Love My Baby, And...What's The Deal With Postpartum Sex?
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Send us a Text Message. Listen. We know a lot changes after having a baby. We’re prepared to see changes to our bodies. We know that our priorities will shift. We expect to be tired af. But a change in sex drive? We didn’t sign up for that?!? This week, Erin and Ruby are tackling the *very* loaded (maybe dreaded?) postpartum sex talk. There is one …
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I Love My Baby, And...Am I Self-Caring Right?
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Send us a Text Message. Does self-care exist? Can you define it? Is it a scam? Who knows! In the season finale of I Love My Baby, And…Erin and Ruby break down the importance of shifting expectations, while normalizing that it’s ok to feel sad that you may not have the same time or freedom to do the things that used to fill your cup (at least in tho…
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I Love My Baby And...The Working Mom Guilt Is REAL
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Send us a Text Message. The decision to go back to work after having a baby is full of so much baggage. Whether you're feeling guilty about needing to work, dreading going back, or thrilled to have a thriving career to return to - we get it. There can be room for all of those feelings to coexist, but it's (understandably) really hard to get there. …
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Attachment and Bonding and Babies, Oh My!
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Send us a Text Message. You've given birth to your baby, and you're happy, but not **totally obsessed** the way you think you should be. What does this mean about your relationship with your baby? Will this impact the way that you parent? Or the way that you and your partner connect over this shared experience? In this episode of I Love My Baby, An…
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I Love My Baby And…Do I Have To Make “Mom Friends?”
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Send us a Text Message. Our relationships inevitably change with the people in our lives after we have a baby. But do we really have to replace some relationships with new friends just because they also have kids? If we don’t do all the baby music and family socialization classes, are we missing out on important (potential) connections? This week, …
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Send us a Text Message. After you have a baby, the societal pressure to bounce back can hit you like a ton of bricks. And when it comes to you and your partner, returning to any sense of normalcy in your relationship might feel impossible. But what exactly are you "bouncing back" to? Is it even possible for you to revert back to who you were - phys…
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The One About Grief: Parenting Without Your Parents
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Send us a Text Message. Learning how to navigate parenthood after losing your own parent can throw a wrench in your journey that no book prepared you for. Between adapting to your new normal and trying to take care of your family, you have little to no time to tend to your own grief. In this episode, Ruby shares her unique experience with the loss …
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I Love My Baby, And...Teamwork Is Not Making The Dream Work
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Send us a Text Message. Your connection with your partner has gone completely AWOL. Your mother-in-law thinks that she has the "right" to spend as much time with your kid as she wants. You're struggling to know who you can turn to for help advocating for yourself. Any of this sound familiar? In this episode, we're talking about all-things-relationa…
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Send us a Text Message. Your parents told you one thing about having kids, but your Instagram feed told you another. Your doctor gave you a list of things to consider during pregnancy/postpartum, but none of those things happened to your best friend. Do you feel like your expectations about the postpartum experience were, uh, mismanaged? You're not…
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Send us a Text Message. Hi! Yes yes. We know. You love your baby. And...the transition to parenthood isn't what you thought it would be? Some curveballs got tossed at you? You miss your "old life" sometimes? We get it. And that's why we're here! Learn all about who we (Erin and Ruby) are, the goal of this podcast, and ways to get in touch with us t…
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