S2 E5: Dancing Became My Life & My Love with Emery Fields

When We're Not Hustling: Sex Workers Talking About Everything But

Emery Fields — the first cis male escort featured on the podcast — shares his background and experiences. He talks about his journey from being a professional dancer, involved in teaching, performing, and choreographing, to becoming a full-service provider during the pandemic when the entertainment industry shut down. Emery discusses how his skills and experiences as a dancer translated well into his work as an escort, highlighting the similarities between the two professions, such as flexibility, physical demands, and the gig-based nature of the work.

The conversation explores the dynamics of Emery's clientele, which primarily consists of men who hire him along with another provider or as part of a couple. Emery emphasizes the fluidity of men's sexuality and the role of female providers in helping clients explore their curiosities. He reflects on the importance of creating a safe, non-judgmental space for clients to explore their desires and how this has led to positive and transformative experiences for many of them.

Jessie and Emery also discuss the challenges and joys of managing personal and professional relationships while working in the sex industry. They touch on the concept of polysaturation and how their work satisfies certain emotional and sexual needs, reducing the desire to seek additional partners outside of work.

In this episode:

02:18: Guest Introduction: Emery Fields, Male Escort & Dancer

07:55: Emery's Background & Dance Career

3:01: Transition from Dance to FSSW

26:09: Impact of COVID-19 on Dance & New Ventures

35:14: Dynamics of Male Escort Work

45:50: Balancing Polyamory & Sex Work

52:31: Booking Experiences & Client Relationships

54:55: Closing Questions & Contact Information

Guest:

Emery Fields is a Philadelphia & NYC based male escort. When he isn't indulging his hedonistic side, he works as a professional dancer and choreographer. In his off time, he's a vegan nerd who is always planning his next backpacking trip.

X: @_emeryfields

Website: emeryfields.com

Recommendations:

Books:

The Kingkiller Chronicle Series, by Patrick Rothfuss

How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy, by Jenny Odell

Jessie's Pittsburgh City Paper Pillow Talk Columns about her experience with Emery:

Why more women should see sex worker, May 23, 2024.

Who are sex workers' clients? Probably not who you think, May 2, 2024.

The Rest:

Host: Jessie Sage

Producer: Emily Foster

Music: Benjamin J Benamati

Sponsor: Assembly Four

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