If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who struggles with either finding or fully embodying your purpose — then this episode is for you. In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who shares his pattern of struggling with believing he’s worth doing what he really wants in the world. He’s a massage therapi…

In this episode I sit down with 10 time author Sylvester McNutt. Sly is a good friend and brother who I’ve known for years now. His new book is all about crafting the life you want to live and letting go of all the things that stand in your way. You’ll get to hear us dive into how he now has to organize his life since becoming a father, what he see…

I met Nicky at a dinner in London two months ago and knew immediately I wanted to interview her. She runs a world wide company working with people at the deepest levels of their healing. Her work is life changing. And — her story is equally fascinating. Going from a drug addicted twenty year old to a business powerhouse, then having to rebuild her …

If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who works in a service profession like coaching, teaching, or parenting — then this episode is for you. In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who shares his pattern of struggling with discipline when it come to doing the things that will benefit HIM. If it’s to …

I was told NOT to do this interview. Why? Because “no one cares about women’s sexual health.” Well…that wasn’t true, as this is the 3rd most listened to episode in the Uncivilized Podcast. Carly pulls no punches as she teaches you all you need to know about your woman, her cycle, and more. This is an episode every single man and every single woman …

Ginger Kern teaches primarily women how to be in relationship in a new paradigm. One based on mutual respect, devotion, and truth. She also adds that this will be a “relationship without leaks.” Sounds intriguing doesn’t it? We dive into Ginger’s marriage, why it wasn’t the right fit for her and what has happened in her life and her partner’s life …

Chris Bale is one of the most unique men I know. He’s a fellow acupuncturist, a men’s guide, and an energy worker like no other. In this episode we bring back one of the Top 5 most listened to episodes of the Uncivilized Podcast just for you — this is the first day I ever spoke with Chris. We’ve since become good friends and I know Chris well. His …

If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who likes to put off hard tasks to the very last minute, then of course, beat yourself up for doing so — and not doing more in your life — then this episode is for you. In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who shares his pattern of not doing what he needs to in…

I’m taking the mic again for this short yet powerful episode on what I see as a major pain point for me — being disconnected from our instinct and intuition. What blocks access to this powerful source of guidance and information you ask? Any shame or guilt you have about being a man. In this episode I share conversations I’ve had with a number of m…

Duey Freeman is an UNcivilized LEGEND. He’s shifted the UNcivilized Movement into a far more relational frame with his teachings, his facilitating at our workshops, and his incredible work with horses. In this episode we bring back one of the Top 5 most listened to episodes of the Uncivilized Podcast just for you — this is the first day I got to me…

I’ve been waiting YEARS to interview Kristal Desantis as she is a therapist for men. And she’s a woman so her view and understanding of men is unique. In this episode we explore a number of challenges men have, primarily in relationships, but then take a plunge on the question of whether vulnerability is actually healthy in men’s relationships. Thi…

If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who has shame around their financial situation, this episode is for you! In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who shares his story of losing his job, right when he and his new girlfriend are just getting together. This had the potential to throw him down the st…

As the nature of relationship rapidly changes and people begin looking for alternate ways of constructing their relational and sexual lives, teachers like Sophie have been continually sought out. Sophie’s creation of the Cosmic Masculine puts both men and women into a relational frame that’s both devotional and sacred while allowing infinite space …

On Sunday July 7th at 9:30 in the morning, my father passed. I was there with my Mom, holding his hand as he took his final breaths. While this is a very private moment to share, there are elements to it that I know will touch you and hopefully inspire you in all of your relationships. In this solo episode I touch on three of the key parts of this …

If you are under 30 you need to listen to this episode. If you know a man under 30, you also need to listen to this! Blake Chalfant is already a force to be reckoned with in the men’s space and he’s only 23 years old. His life changed drastically after a spiritual awakening he had as a college student and he know coaches and councils young men, gui…

If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone with loose boundaries, this episode is for you. In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who in a tough spot. He’s in a relationship that he values but his partner has an unreasonable demand — she wants him to check in with her every hour on the hour. We get real h…

Let’s be honest — it’s challenging to be in relationship these days, and that’s because there’s so much conflicting information out there. Men are supposed to lead! But only at the magical right time… Men are supposed to be protectors! But that’s also toxic… Men are supposed to be emotionally connected to their women! But don’t show emotion because…

I believe there are three levels or stages of relationship you can engage in: — Extractive & Transactional — Character & Role Playing — Sacred, Divine, & Uncivilized Each stage also has sexual level associated with it… If you’re curious about what’s available to you relationally and sexually, this is the episode for you. It’s a punch solo where I b…

Today I sit down with renowned men’s mental health coach, Elise Michaels for the second time on the pod. Elise is a force in the men’s world with over a million followers across her many channels. In this episode we speak into a variety of topics from her work with men, how men can help shift out of rock bottom, and of course — the last two years o…

In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who has stepped into a brand new role — he’s the step father of two teenage twin boys. He also wants to show up powerfully for himself, his fiancé, and the boys in the family. We talk about how his Nice Guy patterns are holding him back and keeping him from…

In this episode of our live show UNcivilized UNplugged, you get to sit in with our studio audience as I chat with Danya River on how you can keep all of your hard earned transformations. Danya is a master of the human nervous system as well as a high sought out executive coach. I know because I was someone who once sought her out and have worked wi…

Last week I talked about getting your vision board to become your reality and closing the gap between the life you want to be living and the life you are living. AND — many of you reached out and asked for techniques that you can use if you don’t have a community around you and you can’t afford to hire a coach or a consultant. I get it. In this sho…

In my experience of over twenty years of coaching humans, most of you will get stuck in one place — needing permission. Whether that’s to write your book, start your business, or even just be the healthiest one in your family, permission is a big wall for many people to climb. And — it may not be the only wall. In this short, potent solo episode I …

Chris Haueter is one of the dirty dozen — the first 12 non Brazilian, Brazilian Jiujitsu Black Belts. He’s also a philosopher poet, an incredible historian, and a teacher. He’s also my old instructor and my old corner man. In this episode we get to catch up after nearly two decades and Chris shares his thoughts on a number of topics including how h…

After coaching humans for over 20 years through the good times and the challenges of their lives, I know people and what helps us get past our blocks, our heartbreaks, and our limiting beliefs. In this solo episode I’ll break down the six attributes I feel you need to either get through a hard time, or engage in a challenging endeavor like building…

This week I have something special for you, I’ve recorded a live coaching session with one of the Kill The Nice Guy graduates. This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with the idea that you need permission to live life on your terms, to build what you want to build, and to go for something big.On the call is a young man named JC who’s stru…

I get asked this question all the time so let’s dive into it. There are amazing ways you can support your man as he begins therapy, men’s work, or any other path to higher consciousness and healing. I’ve worked with thousands of men over the years and know these three points are crucial to being there for your man, without letting it take over your…

This week I again have something special for you, a recorded live coaching session with one of the Kill The Nice Guy graduates. This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with anger and don’t see the connection between having loose or porous boundaries — and the resentment and anger that naturally builds up. On the call is a man named Kevin w…

At the root of most addictive behavior is a deep dissatisfaction with one or many areas of a man’s life. I know because it wasn’t long ago that I needed to escape from my life multiple times a day with alcohol, marijuana, porn, exercise and work. Just to name a few. In this episode I share with you the ROOT of this challenge and give you a frame fo…

This past month I’ve been on the phone with far too many men who are stuck in bad relationships — and refuse to leave them. Why? Because they’ve made it some sort of badge of honor to stay and suffer rather than leave and start over. In this episode I break down how you can shift areas of your marriage or relationship, and then why it’s more than o…

In this fiery solo episode I break down The 4B Movement coming out of South Korea, The Passport Bro Movement here in the US, and the wildly needed UNcivilized Relationship Paradigm. This episode is going to upset a lot of folks because, well, I’m in support of both movements despite the massive implications they will have societally. And I see them…

What a crazy month in the civilized world, huh? Who ever would have thought such juggernauts as Nickelodeon, P Diddy, AND Andrew Huberman would come to light for being toxic and horrible — at the same time. For us at UNcivilized, this is a sign that the civilized veil is falling, truth is emerging, and as men — it’s time for us to deal with what’s …

I’ve often talked about and taught the notion of Attachment vs Authenticity when it comes to Nice Guy work. And the idea of attachment is real — but it’s taken me a few years of working with it and hearing about it quite often for it truly to stick. Thus I’m now shifting to talking about Belonging vs Authenticity — especially with but not exclusive…

An Instagram follower asked me the difference between aspects of Traditional Masculinity and our UNcivilized Masculinity and rather than write him back a novel, I decided to record this solo episode for you. In it, I jump right to the point and outline what’s great about Traditional Masculinity and — what needed to be upgraded about it. Thus the cr…

Francis Weller has been an inspiration for me for years now. The way he speaks and shares his work around initiation and living a soulful life hits me in my core. It stops my frantic mind and makes me feel like the world is going to be okay…even if it may not be. In this episode I get to sit down with Francis and have a frank conversation about men…

In this short and punchy solo episode, I answer another question from Instagram: “What were the most transformative parts of men’s work for you?” I dive into the top three for you so you can decide for yourself if these are pieces you want to try on yourself. Outgrowing substances like alcohol, weed, and porn Getting to be authentically me in men’s…

Last week I was on a call with a man who asked me this profound question, “Where do I begin my men’s work journey? There are so many places I can start from?” In this episode I break down a great starting point for you if you’re about to embark on your men’s work journey, or where to return to if you’ve currently been on a break and aren’t sure whe…

In this short solo episode, I break down the two main blocks I see when people try to figure out their purpose. Knowing why you’re here and what you’re here to do is a BIG deal. And being stuck without knowing either can lead to a lot of undue suffering. This episode will help ease that suffering and give you a path forward when you’re in between m…

I actually did walk through the woods to go to school, and sometimes it was freezing. I figured out pretty early on that there are a lot of guys who get things handed to them where I didn't. I also figured out I wasn't the smartest but I had the willingness and ability to outwork just about anybody. But we all had one thing in common. Failure to la…

After BDSM teacher Andy Buru came into The UNcivilized Nation and dropped this notion for all of us, I’ve been seeing how potent of an idea this is — balancing space holding and selfishness actually is. AND how confronting it is for so many people to lean into the one that’s not their natural way. In this short solo episode I break down why being a…

This is an important episode and please stay to the end of it where we go into a depth we never planned on. Last week Duey quoted a book he’s reading about how men mostly fear the experience of being afraid. I put my knife and fork down and asked him to tell me more. As he did, I knew we had to record this episode and share it with you all. It star…

Making a brief return to interviewing, I get to sit down here with a man who has been a mortician since the age of 18. Wild huh? We talk a lot about grief, the power of full expression and how we can shift the societal tide that’s preventing so many people from feeling what’s only natural in their lives. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person …

In this episode I tackle one of my favorite topics — being a Nice Guy (or Cool Girl). Since this is my background and our most popular course, I’m diving in and giving you three concrete ideas for you to apply right now to start to shift this paradigm in your life. You will NOT get what you want in life JUST making other people happy. The life you …

In this episode I sit down with Lama Justin von Bujdoss and talk about many things. Namely, his experience in a 49 day dark retreat, his time working in hospice, as well as his career as a prison chaplain. The man has seen and experienced beauty and loss on a grand scale. This is a fabulous interview where he talks about how we can all deal with th…

One of the pains so many people experience is from looking back on their lives and thinking they wasted time with a particular chapter. I hear this in workshops and with my private clients. “Gosh, if I hadn’t spent those 5 years studying agriculture and instead had 5 more years in my current profession of real estate development.” Or something like…

This episode is powerful. In it I get to sit down with the great Ralek Gracie. Born into Jiujitsu royalty Ralek has spent his life on the mat, in the ring, and in the cage. His life was about little else than jiujitsu and being a Gracie. Yet a business failure and the subsequent introspection took his life down a completely separate path, one of ar…

Hey UNcivilized Fam, So many men who get themselves into Men’s Work fall into this early trap. Please give this short solo episode a listen on how you can avoid — forgetting your balls! In this episode I break down UNcivilized Ethos Tenet #8 and remind me all the beautiful benefits of living a powerful life. HHB, Fellas. Not just H. Enjoy and pleas…

Good day and welcome to 2024. In this raw yearly opener, I invite you to join me and all of us at UNcivilized to walk along side of us in a new way. A powerful way. In this episode I share my year name and why I chose it as well as ask you to join me on your own powerful path. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Che…

A Christmas episode for you! Whether you’re taking a break from family or today is a hard day for you, here is an episode to lighten your heart and give you something constructive to work on. I asked the men of The UNcivilized Nation what 10 skills every UNcivilized Man should have. These are 10 (actually 11) of them. They’re solid. Enjoy and pleas…

The UNcivilized Ethos is the core of the movement and a tool thousands of men and women all over the globe tap into and use for their success and to get them back on track when the slip off. In this quick and dirty solo episode I tell the story of how the Ethos came about and give you two quick thoughts on each tenet. Enjoy and please share this ep…