Most people dating seem to be WAY more concerned with what they’re getting rather than what they can give! Everyone is in relationships to fulfill some kind of personal goal but it becomes selfish and toxic when you lose sight of how you can support and nourish the one you’re with. Today we’re talking about GIVING and RECIPROCATION. I’m highlightin…

Manipulation Tactics - How to Spot Them and What to Do About It What is DARVO? DENY ATTACK REVERSE Effects of DARVO Resist DARVO References: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/darvo/ https://bayareacbtcenter.com/reverse-darvo-for-combating-gaslighting-and-emotional-abuse/#:~:text=What%20Is%20DARVO%3F,the%20blame%20onto%20their%20victims. Thank you for…

This episode is a conglomerate of a few topics! -There’s a difference between wanting a relationship and being Ready for a relationship. Your emotional availability makes all the difference. -Many women can function well on their own, but still don’t have the relationship they really want. Let’s talk about some of the things that need to change in …

When you become aware of how your childhood has impacted your adulthood, angry feelings arise towards your parents. You realize your anxiety or your avoidance is directly related to how you have experienced your mother and father. It’s common to have conflicted feelings. You may struggle with loving them and resenting them. Having empathy for their…

We experience frustration and pain when the position someone has in our life does not match our experience of them. For example - You can have a mother who you do not experience as mothering. A father who does not treat you like a son or daughter. A spouse who treats you like a stranger. _ One of the goals of this video is to help you make a distin…

Q&A from Dec 2023 about dating and relationship topics: Including - Serious Dating What does it meant to be “Exclusive” Passport bros How to soften your communication “What do you bring to the table?” Toxic friends Effort in dating Defensiveness Vetting Why people lie Relationship goals Casual physical intimacy *Let’s work together (1-on-1): https:…

Attachment Wounds are the experiences that serve as catalysts for Insecure Attachment. I’m going to define specific Attachment Wounds, describe the effect of those wounds, and point you in the direction you need to go in to heal these wounds. If you don't, these wounds bleed out into your present relationships (whether platonic or romantic, but esp…

Your Attachment Style begins developing at a young age and is able to be defined by age 5! In this video I’m going to go over 4 big areas of Attachment Development 1. Attachment Bases 2. Concepts of Self and Other 3. Programming 4. Intervention 01:06 Overview 06:23 Self-Concept 8:56 Other-Concept / Exploration 12:54 Survival 18:29 Programming 22:05…

Tiana is basically an Attachment Expert at this point! She’s done all the workshops and the Reattach Coaching Program. She has a lot of insight and wisdom for you about situationships, self-esteem, and overall guidance about what you can expect on your journey of self-improvement and healing. I’m grateful for her time and I know you’re going to get…

Rafer is a husband, father, and pastor in New Mexico who struggled with Anger and Anxiety - until he did his Work! Listen in as he shares about his desire to live like Jesus, coming to terms with the fact he was not, and doing the necessary steps to change. Reattach Fast Track Beginning August 28th 1-on-1 Interest Thank you for your support! 1-on-1…

Season 9 Finale! Let's go into the reality of this all-too-common and always-stressful paring: the Anxious-Preoccupied and the Dismissive-Avoidant I'll define the terms, break down what most people THINK this pairing is and what it ACTUALLY is, and I'll share what I think you should do about it! See you in season 10 :) Thank you for your support! 1…

Ashley completed 1-on-1s and the Reattach Coaching Program! One of the many things I love about Ashley and this episode is that her trigger into healing her codependency occurred with a platonic friend. Many others (including me!) have experienced this with friends and it's awesome to hear someone talking openly about it, since most of the time we'…

We love a Q&A! I'm helping you with... Shifting from Anxious to Secure Attachment Healing Love Addiction What to do with someone who switches up on you Understanding Stonewalls Reconnecting How to deal with people who keep reminding you of your mistakes Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $tay…

10 ways to show up as more Emotionally Safe for Better Outcomes! You’re going to want your notepad out for this one. The unedited version of this podcast is double the time and had me cracking up, so if you want to join us for Live Recordings, join us on Patreon! $5 / month tier It’s also a great way to give back to the podcast on the low and on th…

My favorite dating coach has finally graced the podcast! Alison - @alignwithalison - is giving you her best tips on: Putting yourself out there Believing what people tell you What kinds of questions to ask Potential Matches What to do with the Submission word Do "the butterflies" matter? Follow her on IG here: @alignwithalison and check her service…

Trust is on the GROUND FLOOR of healthy relationships! When the foundation is weak, everything else falls apart. Here's some insight into what to do about ONGOING relationships that have experienced attachment wounds / broken trust. How to break from Denial and Clear Confusion The Hyper-independence to Co-dependence Spectrum The importance of Inter…

I worked with Alexandria 1-on-1 and in the Reattach Coaching Group. Then, she came to the Reattach Retreat in Atlanta - December 2022. Now, she is serving on the Reattach Team, helping others through the Reattach Program (IT'S BACK Y'ALL!) and planning the Reattach 2023 Retreat! This is what Healing sounds like :) Thank you for your support! 1-on-1…

Emotional Safety is a 3-part series recorded Live on Zoom, available for Reattachers on Patreon! You can join us - click here. -What is an Emotionally Safe person? -What happens when Attachment Wounds aren’t attended to? -Understand Insecure Attachment through the lens of crying babies -The link between the Past and Present -How you can start break…

The final part in the series! -The undercover reason you pair with under-developed people -The role of anxiety -What your parent has to do with it 2-Hour Live Workshop on Zoom - Sat. March 25 ($25) Replay available for attendees Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Websit…

Sometimes a Bridge doesn't need to be Demolished, it needs to be Re-Designed! Women who thrive leading, planning, directing, and creating can have issues in the areas most important to building healthy intimate relationships. This episode gives 10 points to focus on to help Design better relationships. The High Achieving Women Workshop is 2 hours o…

Happy Women’s Month! The High Achieving Women coaching group is a 3-day group for women who want to: …increase satisfaction in personal relationships to complement your professional success …stop dating projects or assignments. Date date healthy. Reciprocal. And understand the types that works WELL for you. …manage the difference between your Norm …

Healing Insecure Attachment can be messy, so I’m laying out the major keys you need to unlock the way forward. Breaking down “hard” skills of: identifying your attachment, managing triggers, expressing emotional needs, and setting boundaries Plus “soft” skills of: communicating with empathy, and the discipline of forgiveness and acceptance I releas…

Have you ever felt like there was something *different* about your attachment with someone? Deeper & more intense, perhaps more dramatic & risky. Hard to let go of but hard to be a part of at the same time? Soul Tie: an intense emotional and spiritual bond, usually developed after physical intimacy. We’re going to talk about how Soul Ties develop a…

You can improve your dating & relationship experiences by improving your ability to manage red flags when they pop up! EVERYONE has “something,” including you and me. Rather than ejecting too early, let’s talk about managing conflict and misunderstandings better so you don’t accidentally throw away a good thing. In this episode... -Difference betwe…

The season is over but I will be continuing posting videos & doing Q&As on Patreon! Look forward to a Series of content, including breaking down popular television shows! This episode - Letting Go - takes the process of releasing the past to a high level that won’t just help you over a breakup, but.. if you pay attention.. will be a key for moving …

Let me know in the Reviews how this season has served you (we're almost at the end) and tell me what you want to hear more of! Thanks for listening in and for your support :) Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamt…

What is the Fearful-Avoidant? Why does the Fearful-Avoidant do what s/he does? How do you shift the Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style? Attachment Style Workbook To watch and join-in live, plus additional audio & written content, join us on Patreon! Thank you for your support and let me know how things are going for you in the Reviews :) Thank you f…

As you are putting more into your personal development, it can become painfully obvious when you come into contact with others who have not! You also realize how valuable your resources are, like your time, attention, affection, and space, so you want to protect those things as best as possible. Making great decisions and being willing to correct t…

Live Q&A pt. 2. If you want to join the party, Live Q&As are on Patreon! Questions also submitted on Patreon Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchand…

Dr. Dawn is our resident trauma therapist and she and I are talking about the trauma of heartbreak! -How It affects you as an attachment wound (relational trauma) -Taking accountability for behavior in relationships -Hope for change -How to move forward Thanks for listening in! Find my guest here, Dr. Dawn here: @drdawnonthereal Thank you for your …

The primary attachment of childhood and its impact on your adulthood is significant. I help you understand how we process the attachment issues between ourselves and our mothers and I show you the outcomes in adulthood. Most importantly, I'm going to challenge you to think about the Mother Issue is a very different way. Instead of just focusing on …

Kizzle, founder of @ExpressYourselfBlackMan and Safe Haven, a holistic healing platform for Black Men, is joining us to talk about Black Mental Health, leading a large following on social media, and debunking myths about therapy. Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Websi…

Live Q&A. To join us and to submit your questions to be answered on the Podcast, join the Patreon! Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler…

The deepest root of Codependency and the ultimate solution to Secure Attachment. This was a different conversation and one I believed has shifted us into a much needed conversation. Thank you for listening! And - Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.i…

Kassie talks to us about the difficult, necessary, and then surprisingly easy decisions she has made in her Shift to a better, healthier version of herself. One of the things I love about this conversation is the discussion around loneliness. We have all felt lonely... making this issue a paradox in itself. In other words - how is it that I feel so…

Welcome back! Let's all ground back in Attachment so we can refresh our language and perspective. If you get something out of this, let me know in the Reviews & press those Starz! Thank you :) Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com…

Another season finale! In this episode, we’re talking about the Avoidant Partner and what you all need to be able to do together to re-pattern this super-problematic dynamic. After this episode, we have about an 8 week break so make sure you’re SUBSCRIBED with your NOTIFICATIONS ON so you can hop in when we’re back! You also want to be on my email …

All about the Coupling of an Anxious person and an Avoidant person. In this first part, I talk about what you need to know from the beginning to be successful + strategies for the Anxious type. Int he second part (the season finale!), we'll get into strategies for the Avoidant type and what you all need to be able to do together. If you're in a rel…

Tomeika was dissatisfied with her relationship life and had been used to living that way for 15-20 years. Now things are so much different. We're going to talk about - -the importance of committing and stepping into your goal -sharing with others in a Group format -what she now sees in her misaligned expectations with Others -how writing down her t…

I loved recording this episode! I think it might be the most clearly applicable episode I’ve done. - 3 things you need to make boundary setting easier - Anxious types need more boundaries, so I give you 3 that will definitely help - Avoidant types need fewer walls, so I give you 3 ways to reconfigure the “boundaries” (walls) that you already have t…

Imani Tutt is @imani.intouch, a massively intuitive marriage and family therapist. She uses her gifts to help people work through their issues with self and others, especially as it relates to healing codependency. She gives us a refresher on what codependency is, you'll be reminded how this relates to the Healing Fantasy with your parents, and Ima…

This is the second part of the very long Instagram Live Q&A. We're talking about how to be "your best" with your Avoidant partner, what needs to be done at the Compromise & Negotiation Table, and When to Give Up. @iamtaylorchandler iamtaylorchandler.com $taychand PayPal Donation Venmo Donation Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Quest…

I answer the question "How do I heal my wounded inner child" by going over 4 major keys. Remember, podcasts are just information! If you need some support going through this work (and we all do), my Healing Childhood Workshop is a great place to start. This is my most interactive workshop and we go through exercises together. It's a total of 3 hour…

You are in these episodes. Don't skip the guests. Learn from them. Practice relating to others. Stop "other"-ing yourself. We have the same problems and the same solutions. When you practice seeing each other as yourself rather than so far outside of yourself, we can grow together, connect together, and build the community we need to build healthie…

This is one of the MAJOR keys to understanding and Shifting to Secure Attachment, so the lack of understanding around it greatly (and negatively) affects someone's intended path forward. Because of this, I take a significant amount of time in the beginning setting up the frame for you and I will repeat myself again and again in this episode. I need…

Stephanie and I talk about the importance of being in community and sharing what's going on with us with others, working through fear, investing in yourself, and taking the opportunity to grow. I'm so happy for her and proud to have worked with her! :) CODA (codependents anonymous) 1-on-1 waitlist Book a 75 min. call iamtaylorchandler.com @iamtaylo…

Welcome to Season 7! I'm so excited to share with you. This episode I'm breaking down people-pleasing - What it looks like for the Anxious Attachment Style & the Avoidant Style Why we have this disease How to break it Thank you for believing in me to help you break these patterns! It just keeps getting better. Donate to the work: CashApp: $taychand…

It's the season finale and Dr. Dawn is here for a trauma check-up before we go! We're talking about respecting others' perspective, -the traumatic surprise of COVID, -the ecosystem of therapy and why we refer -tips for entering healthy relationships in this strange time -reflection on: Are you relationship material? -making excuses for bad relation…

Courtney and I talk about how she overcame the pain of the past to find purpose in her life. She is doing things she couldn't imagine doing before after doing the work to free herself from what was holding her back! Often going forward means redefining relationships with those who have been closest to us. It's among the hardest parts of this work -…

This is about enabling. The ways we support problematic dynamics through our own actions (or non-action). -What is the difference between helping and enabling, and why does it matter so much? -What it looks like in individuals and within relationships -What you can do about it Two episodes left in the season. Turn on your notifications so you know …