One of the very difficult parts of life is when a person feels left out, when everybody else seems to have or get what he doesn't. He wonders why he has to be different. He doesn't feel like he did something so wrong to deserve less than everyone else. Seeing everyone enjoying themselves while he is left out adds to his sadness. If all of a girl's …

In this week's parasha, Vayigash , Yosef reveals himself to his brothers with the words, אני יוסף, העוד אבי חי - "I am Yosef; is my father still alive?" These words evoke the statement from Chazal, אוי לנו מיום הדין , "Woe to us from the Day of Judgment." Yosef's brothers had repeatedly expressed concern for their aged father, but when Yosef asked …

One of the reasons that Hashem wants us to make a hishtadlut for our physical needs in this world is because of the spiritual elevation we are able to achieve as a result. A person is obligated to put in an effort and then believe whole heartedly that the results had nothing to do with his effort. The Chovot HaLevavot writes in the Shaar HaBitachon…

Chazal tell us the Yevanim made the Jewish People write on the horn of an ox "אין לנו חלק באלוקי ישראל - We have no share in the G-d of Israel." The Sefat Emet asked, this phrase is seemingly self- contradictory. On the one hand they were told to write that they have no share, but they were also saying that Hashem is the G-d of Israel. The Sefat Em…

If a person is going through a difficulty and he feels like his world is crashing down around him, the best thing he could do is strengthen himself like a lion and go on with life happily. Hashem is the One who has brought about the difficulty for the person's benefit. If he believes that, it would give him the strength he needs to move on. Initial…

During these days of Chanukah, we are celebrating the fact that we have freedom to serve Hashem as we please. The Yevanim made harsh decrees that prevented the Jewish People from being able to perform mitzvot until Hashem came and saved them from their hands. We know that man has no control in this world, and the Greeks had absolutely no power to h…

This week's parashah begins with the words " ויהי מקץ שנתיים ימים - and it was at the end of two years." Twoyears since what? The Midrash explains- because Yosef asked the sarhamashkim to mention his name to Pharaoh and get him out of jail, Hashemadded an extra two years to his sentence. Not only did Yosef not gain by askingfor help. He even lost. …

In general, a parent's tefilot on behalf of their children's success in Torah and mitzvot goes a very long way, but now, specifically on Chanukah, parents have a golden opportunity to utilize these days for extra heartfelt tefilot which count even more. The Yosef Ometz writes, as well as the Peleh Yo'etz , that right after lighting the Chanukah can…

Honoring talmideh chachamim is a great mitzva, and in certain aspects, it is considered as if one is honoring Hashem Himself. However, there is a way for a person to honor Hashem directly. The Kedushat Levi writes in Parashat Shemot that every time a person chooses to follow the will of Hashem, they are honoring Him. If a person were forced or prog…

We have been taught how valuable it is to forgive or overlook when someone wrongs us, but sometimes that is extremely difficult to do, especially when our feelings have been hurt. Our Rabbis have taught us that if we aren't able to get the hurt out of our hearts, we're encouraged to tell the person who hurt us that we feel hurt, and of course we ha…

A man recently shared with me the difficulties he has been experiencing. In his words, "It's just one thing after another. I'm trying to be good, but Hashem keeps pushing me down. I'm losing my will to want to improve." Many people feel that if they are experiencing hardship, it must be Hashem telling them that they aren't good. But this is simply …

The sefer Vaveh Amudim brings a story that a man named Yaakov told him, which took place when he was younger. Yaakov said his father once asked him to take out the garbage and he replied, "Why are you asking me? I did it last time. There are many other capable people in this house who could do it." Yaakov's grandfather was in the room at the time a…

When people take upon themselves to do extra mitzvot as a zechut for something they want, they may feel disheartened if they don't receive what they hoped for. Heaven forbid, they might even regret the extra effort they invested in performing that mitzva. We must never lose sight of the real purpose of this world. The true gain is always the mitzva…

Living Emunah 2686 Raising Pure Children Raising pure children in this generation is a very challenging task. Children are being pulled in many different directions, and as Chazal predicted, in the end of days, there will be a great deal of chutzpa. We are witnessing this with our own eyes. Children are disrespecting parents, talking back to them, …

Living Emunah 2685 There Is Always a Purpose Nobody wants to feel that they are toiling in vain. We want to feel accomplished and want to know that there's purpose in everything we experience. People have certain conditions that they feel are causing a big strain on their lives. They feel they could be doing so many more productive things if they d…

The Gemara says in Masechet Berachot that a person is not allowed to make personal requests during the first three berachot of the Amida which are designated for praise, nor during the last three berachot which are designated for thanking. Rabbi Menashe Reizman noted, it is only forbidden to add requests during those sections, but it is not forbidd…

We mentioned that a person has to be patient when it comes to Hashem. He may have prayed the best tefillot, which may have already been answered, but that does not necessarily mean that he is going to get what he asked for right away. He may have done the greatest act of mesirut nefesh, which is going to bring the salvation he wants, but it may not…

Living Emunah 2683 The Waiting Period One of the great ways the Ba'al Emunah serves Hashem is with his patience. Hashem promised Avraham He would give him Eretz Yisrael. Yet, when it came time to bury his wife there, he had to pay an enormous sum of money for the land. Hashem was so proud of Avraham for not questioning Him, not asking why he had to…

The Chovot HaLevavot in the Sha'ar HaBitachon describes numerous benefits that a person with bitachon enjoys. One of these is that his parnassa is guaranteed to come, and Hashem will use every means to ensure the person receives what he needs. One example brought is when Achab sinned by engaging in avodah zara , and as a punishment, Eliyahu HaNavi …

Sometimes a person wants something very badly and sees his peers receiving it, while he remains lacking. Naturally, he feels bad, wondering why everybody but him seems to receive. Yet, this is not necessarily a feeling of jealousy. They just see how easy it is for Hashem to grant it, and that makes them feel worse. No matter how many times we hear …

The Gemara tells us, one of the areas we constantly need chizuk in is tefila . No matter how good a person's tefilot are, over time they tend to become more habitual and therefore could definitely use chizuk . The Meiri writes that a person should always feel confident in the power of a good tefila to break a decree and if someone is going through …

When Lavan asked Yaakov what he wanted his wage to be for shepherding the sheep, Yaakov replied, לֹא תִתֶּן לִי מְאוּמָה —"Don't give me anything yet." He then proceeded to remove the spotted, speckled, and brown sheep from the flock and told Lavan to take them all away under the guardianship of his sons, stating that only the future spotted, speck…

The Ohr Hachayim writes on the pasuk, " וַיָּבֹא מֹשֶׁה וְאַהֲרֹן אֶל־פַּרְעֹה וַיַּעֲשׂוּ כֵּן כַּאֲשֶׁר צִוָּה ה '", that the will of Hashem is more precious to the Tzaddikim than anything else in this world. Here the Torah testifies that although Moshe and Aharon had just performed an open miracle in front of Pharaoh by turning a stick into a sn…

Every situation we find ourselves in provides us with unique opportunities to serve Hashem. If a person goes through a period of financial struggle, that is a special opportunity to serve Hashem in a unique way. If a person experiences difficulties with shidduchim, health, or having children, each of those circumstances provides the person with uni…

Living Emunah 2677 Our Deeds Although we may not always perceive the effects of our deeds, we can rest assured that every small action we take is immensely valuable and carries great weight in Shamayim. The way events unfold in the physical world depends on decisions first made in the spiritual realm in Shamayim. Our tefillot and mitzvot make all t…